How can I help stop the violent shaking when I get nervous. I'm trying to do this mentally, not with meds...

Question

I keep blaming this on the fact that I'm getting older, and it may be hormonal, but I don't think so. My mom had anxiety attacks and perhaps I'm in denial that I "simply CAN'T have them as well", but maybe it's mental... Or maybe it's hormonal. My Mom started menopaus at 33... I'm about that age... Is it mental or could I seriously be having menopausal issues? I hate that I've lost my confidence and poise. I am trying to be the rock I normally am, but I start shaking & my heart starts beating HARD and I can't even pick a pen up to write my name. It happens constantly; it's not an isolated experience. So much so, that I fear writing my name. I fear writing... What the heck!!! Why do I shake?? Why do I notice it? I'm so scared to go to the DR because I probably won't be able to write my name... I hate this. I have kids that I may disappoint because I shake. I don't know why I do it, and I know my heart races when it happens; then I can't write and I want to cry. Anxiety?

Answer 1

From what you are saying, you have been trying to control the symptons yourself for a while now. I will recommend you to see a doctor to check it out. If you are worried about the medication might effect your head in a psychological way, I would say that's the last thing you need to worry about. You seem to some nerve system problem which seems to be triggered by psychological conditions. Psychological drugs are not meant to cure nerve system breakdowns.

If you are worried that you could write your name, I am sure there will be people at the doctor's office to write the info down for you if you can tell them what to write or show the appropriate documents. You can even try to keep the appointments from being known by your kids. Even if I am a doctor who knows how to treat you, I would not give you the medical assistance you need if I can not talk to you face to face to pin down the medical conditions. Good Luck to you.


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Answer 2

Several years ago I saw a counselor to help me deal with anxiety issues, panic attacks, and inability to concentrate. She was trained in the use of biofeedback. Being hooked up to machines, electrodes (?) and computer gizmos seemed weird at first, but it helped me a lot. No meds are involved. It's a way to "retrain your brain" and manage your responses to situations that produce anxiety. This might be something you want to look into.

Answer 3

Breathe slowly and deeply.