911!!! autistic child was arrested !!!?

Question

My child was arrested he is autistic he is 14ys old and is being dragged through the court systems being treated like a criminal he is mildly retarted and functions at a 2nd grade level . I am totally in the dark to know where to get help , if he is retarted and has autism and if the courts lawyers can subject him any further? also he is now in foster care .See if any one read a mothers poem of pain would know some of my anger and pain. Three of my children were taken away due to racial abuse at a school and it was in the news i protested and parked my van on the pavement to stop 6mo. of abuse i snapped when i found out my child was assaulted in the bathroom.No one would help thus1yr.in foster care my children home at last again turned into a nightmare when my child acted out sexually thus his arrest thus back to foster care but he was raped in foster care as well so I am going out my darn mind and need help with mental/ rights help?any site links would do thanks

live in this place we call PHILLY PA.
this is true no bullsh** it is my family's living nightmare for going on three years,
thanks to yahoo answers finally im getting advice and help so thanks to all!!!

Answer 1

www.bia4autism.org

they specialize in autism in the california bay area and central valley. i also think they are in new york- not that big yet.
I think you should provide proof that your child is autistic. Do you have any results that show that your child is disabled? That can help- im not a lawyer- but I know about Autism very well.
I hope you the best!
<3!!!!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I don't have any children with Autism but both my sisters have it. I love how they can remember things when I'm totally struggling to pull it out of the back of my mind. So their memories. My younger sister and I were given a dental routine by the dentist, and while I tend to slack off she's very diligent in it and doesn't miss anything. So her consistence. My younger sister is always asking questions about things, some I can answer and some very good questions that spark my interest in the subject as well. So her inquiring mind. My older sister was always willing to help me with my homework when I was at school because she knew it and figured she could explain it to me the way I could understand (ways other people hadn't). So the different take on things. When my sisters care about something, they care for it with everything they possibly can. They always look out for whatever/whoever it is, helping any way to make it easier for them. So the in your face way of things doesn't have to be a disadvantage. That's all I can think of right now, hope I helped your list a little.

Answer 4

Wow, I'm sorry for your troubles. It's hard to give you advice when there seems to be a lot more issues than your son's arrest.

I don't understand why he is in foster care. Children are placed in foster care when the court deems the home inappropriate or a parent is unable to care for them. It is unfortunate that the system doesn't have a separate procedure for autistic or mentally ill kids. If he broke the law, police have no choice other than remove him. Once he is arraigned, you need to be his advocate. Why haven't you been involved with agencies that help with these issues before this. Every state has organizations set up with services to families like yours. You would be eligible for Legal Aid, and they are in the phone book.

Look up your local community services on the internet. They will navigate you to more specific agencies. And you need to become a strong advocate and not expect that someone is going to fix it for you. The services are out there, but you have to do the footwork to find them and fill out the necessary forms and follow any program they enroll your family in. How can they help you unless you contact them? Don't give up, but be proactive instead of reactive.

Answer 5

You need a good lawyer.

If you already have a lawyer you need more lawyers.

How: Call all of the BIG FANCY law firms and ask to talk to their Pro Bono Coordinator.

In Philly try Morgan, Lewis & Bockius, it is one of the best firms in that city.

All the big law firms have a pro bono cordinator. All big law firms pride themselves on giving something back to the community (even tho they could easily do more) and they all do some work pro bono publico (for the public good).

If they ask you if you are poor or if they try to tell you you are not poor enough or if they try to tell you that they do their pro bono work through Legal Services or Legal Aid, keep your cool and keep trying to tell them that your case is really bad and even tho you are not poor you cannot afford lawyers to do this kind of case. Don't get mad or yell or swear--they are looking for an excuse to tell you goodbye and good luck. Just try to get in more of the story. AND even if they say they can't help, just say Thanks and then call back in a week.

Do this with all the BIG law firms over and over until one of them says OK.

Ask people who the big firms in Philly are or look around on line.

HEY!!!! There is a lot of CRAP in these answers. You need a LAWYER. You have a LEGAL problem. Your CHILD is in the hands of the criminal justice system-those are NOT good hands. BAD THINGS happen to children in the custody of the state as you have seen.

Your TOP PRIORITY is to get that kid away from the government authorities. No church, no guitar lessons, nothing other than a LAWYER can do that. Kids in the criminal justice system do not get better, they get worse. GET HIM HOME as SOON as you can.

Answer 6

omg. im speecless. heartbroken. Listen if you get your kids back...all of them...wherever you are take action get hold of the authorities and make it clear to them that you want to move to a better place. Here in Michigan there is a place called the St.Louis center for children such as your own. Its wonderful. I believe its in the city of Chelsea. Im not sure.

But if your kids are in foster care...try to higher the best damn lawyer you can find, and bring your babies home. and as for the police arresting your 14 year old child...shame on them....sue them! i would never ever think twice. and believe me...you would win. Start your own foundation. Email Oprah! I am telling you email Oprah and I swear she is literally right there for you. Do it.

if you ever need any further info or help....email me

you are in my prayers! my heart goes out to you.

Answer 7

If your child has Autism, there should be records of the care the doctors have provided. There should be records of the special needs he has at school. Those would need to be brought to court along with his attorney. His attorney can subpoena the doctor and school professionals that are involved in your son's life.

As for your other child being raped in foster care, there would be records. You could take those records to an attorney or the news media.

I have to say that I wouldn't have allowed my child to suffer 6 months of abuse. I would have been talking to every police officer and agency I could find. Then my child would have been in intensive therapy when I regained custody. And if I had the anger issues you do, regardless of the reason behind the anger, I would be in therapy. Because unless you and your family go through some intensive counseling and learn coping mechanisms, you aren't ever going to have your kids back. And you can get mad at me all you want. Facts are facts.

And racism, if real is sad. But often we see mothers and fathers with chips on their shoulders, using the system to do as little as possible to contribute to society. Getting benefits rather than earning a living and having child after child. And then when things don't go there way, they shout racism, instead of I should get of my lazy butt and change my life instead of whining ISM'. I am not saying that is what has occured, but repeated exposure to people like this has the world saying 'Oh Lord, here we go again'.

If you are serious about getting your children back in a safe and peaceful environment in your home, get some therapy. And in the meanwhile, continue to get your story heard. And save the emotions for therapy. People need facts. You need to be in control of your emotion in order to be effective. You need to be calm and composed and knock on every attorney's door in your town to start. No lazy phone calls, get up and get face to face with people. Tell them your story and provide them the paperwork that backs up your facts. You will have many doors slammed, but eventually, if you are on the side of right, someone will join forces with you to help you.

And if you do not find an attorney willing to do pro bono after talking to every atty in your town, talk to every atty in your county. And you will have to do a lot of waiting and make appts.

Then write the media. If you are able to be online to ask questions here, you have the resources to get the addresses to the media. Just use the yahoo search engine.

If your kids are worth it to you, you will walk to the ends of the earth and back. Nothing will stop you from living a moral, legal life. Nothing will stop you from knocking on doors. Not even lack of transportation. You will walk. It is all about how much you care.

Answer 8

I have worked with people that are autistic, for several years, and in spite of what some say, experts are getting to understand it a lot better.

I was also an Advocate for a fellow who is autistic over two years, there is now a Citizen Advocacy that recruits volunteer advocates to be like a friend for people who are autistic. They are there to speak up for them. And also to express there wishes. But not to impose on the autistic persons life.

Citizens Advice may be able to help you. But in my opinion sounds to me that your child needs a support worker.

Autistic people (also classed as learning difficulties) tend to find changes difficult to accept. Some also like to wear same colour clothes, and it is usual that although they may be slow at learning things, many of them have an extra ordinary ability.

Take John for example, you could tell him your date of birth and he will instantly tell you the day you were born.

While another may have a fabulous memory or some other remarkable talent.

They however, are not usually sexual, and certainly they like their space.

The main thing I see you needing for your child however, may be a communications expert. Because part of their frustration is often that no one understands them. Some however, have very good communication skills, so it is very hard to generalize concerning people who are autistic.

FInally another trait if you like, is that they may often find it difficult to see things from someone eles perspective. And therefore are often, mistakenly taken as being very selfish. As for myself I love their company, I am presently teachimng guitar to a fellow with autism. He has had about 12 lessons and can already read guitar chords and play them. he can aslo tune his guitar and play simple tunes.

I'm sure it is more down to his, talent - gift if you prefer, than it is my teaching.

Answer 9

From what I know they cant do anything to your child because of his mental abilities. There is no way on earth that they can even put your child through court!! So dont worry.... best advise though would be for you to get a good lawyer on your side. Prosecutors can be real tough and do anything to get convictions!!

Answer 10

Gawd, where to start?? Listen, I'm on my way to sleep, but if you post what state you're in I'll come back on here in the morning and leave you a more detailed answer for some sources to help you out.