I Don't really dare to go near my fighting opponent to give my attack.?

Question

Why is that so? how can i get rid of that fear?

thnx!

Answer 1

You should know best. It happened to me when I was a teen, but mostly in real fights. For some reason, I didn't feel like I wanted to 'destroy' the opponent. I was a skilled fighter, but never felt strong about using it to hurt another person. So, I would take defensive stance hurting opponents once they forced the action.

Competition fighting is a different deal, though. It's a game and the best one wins. So, I never had same problem in competitive fighting.

If this happens to you in practice/competition, you should have a strategy going in. Make up your mind that you will move in close make two punches and a kick, for example, and then back out. Once you know your mission, it might be easier.

In a competition you want to be a bit aggressive. Being blunt and thinking about attack only is a mistake, though. Don't forget about defense. If you fight a good fighter, don't force too much action, but be ready to go into an exchange.

Answer 2

I am sure you have heard of the "fight or flight" feeling that everyone has and what you are experiencing is just an extension of that. By not getting close to your opponent you are subconsciously giving yourself a head-start to turn and run when fear takes over. This is to some degree very much mental so I would start by changing my thinking and approach to fighting in general.

You have to first understand and accept that you can not get close enough to hit, strike, or kick someone without them being close enough to do the same to you unless there is a huge reach difference. Once you have accepted that I would then take some of my sparring sessions and have my sparring partners work me over gradually increasing the power and amount of contact that they were making. This needs to be done very carefully and gradually as it can result in training injuries for you. If you are going to fight or be a fighter you have to build your tolerance up for this as well as your confidence in your body being able to take not all of the punishment that someone may dish out to you but certainly more than what you have an understanding and acceptance for now.

Besides all this I think you also have to change your focus. I tell my students and fighters it is like baseball and being up to bat at the plate. If you think about getting hit by the ball-you probably will; if not you certainly will not hit it or make good contact. Instead focus on keeping your eye on the ball and swinging, hitting it, and making good, clean contact on it. This way you have a better chance of hitting it and certainly a better chance of moving out of the way if it is going to hit you. Its the same in fighting. You have to focus on your strategy, your techniques and combinations and making contact and what you are trying to do or going to do to the other guy-not so much what he is going to do to you. All this only comes with time, experience, and sparring so don't expect huge changes overnight. Along with this I would also work on my foot work and ability to slip punches and use angles. That all will allow you to keep a closer distance in relation to your opponent and for you to more easily capitalize on his mistakes, opportunities, and openings as they present themselves and also help build your confidence to stand in there a little closer and a little better.

Answer 3

You're proboly scared of your oponent because he might be stronger than you and you might be afraid he's going to squish you and beat you in your fight. That would be called,' Thinking on the dark down side,' instead of the positive side. You're just scared you are going to get beaten in your fight. Heres the way to get rid of your fear: Pretend you are fighting a baby puppy. In your mind, think on the positive side: Yes but one more thing. Think that your opponet is not strong at all and can never defeat you in anything.

Answer 4

Your fear will go away if you focus a lot more on the opponent and how to counter them, leave 2% fear and 98% focus try that combination.

Answer 5

what you really should do is get punched in the face a few times (I'm not saying this because your question is bad or anything) because once you get used to the pain and it isn't so bad you won't be afraid

Answer 6

it means that you have no confidence, you are shrinking from mankind and would you face the GOD almighty?......................
you can mend your ways. i dont ask you to fight because it is a sin. but arentyou capable to defend yourself?..........................
you can bring confidence in yourself and can get rid of this fear but for it, suppose your are entangled with any aggressive person and he abuses you. you must have the confidence to put a slap on his face. if you do this so thing that your work is done if not so sorry you are in agreat trouble.

Answer 7

You must be willing to take a punch to be a fighter..!!