Where do you go? What do you do when you're lonely?

Question

The holidays are fast approaching....I already feel the sadness creeping in.....

Answer 1

I go traveling and mingling with strangers. There are some places that is never empty even on holidays like Vegas and cruise ships. I party like there's no tomorrow.

Answer 2

I usually just stay in my room. My sister constantly has people over all the time, and my mom it always too busy to talk to.

I know what it feels like to be lonely. You should spend the holidays with a friend. I realize that not everyone has good family. If you even have at least one friend that's not going to be out of town or busy, you should spend time with them. No one deserves to spend the holidays alone.

Also, tons of Christmas shows/movies come on a few weeks before Christmas starts. Those always remind me of when I was really little, and even when I'm alone, they cheer me up. You should just make hot chocolate and watch TV all day. :-)

Answer 3

Make a list of everything that you normally have no time to do during the regular season like finish the book tha you started.. clean that closet.. fixed this or that.. even do some community service-volunteer around, that way when you feel lonely, you pick up the list and have ideas of what to do. When we are sad we usually can't think of anything and if you have a list already, you will have no excuse!

Answer 4

That is a loaded question, and I can only offer my personal opinion. First of all try to determine what you are lonely for.We all have basic human needs, of course, and we try to fulfill them in every imaginable way. If you can just mull over the idea of what makes you FEEL lonely(which is an emotion), than you will be better able to arrive at your own decision.Try to determine what you are in search of, whether it be companionship with either gender, or maybe reading a book about something you find interesting. Just about anything will work, so long as it redirects your train of thought, as focusing on any one "thing" tends to make matters more intense, in one way or another. Maybe adopting a hobby is the best thing, or getting a pet whom you find irresistable and don't mind tending to.Pets are wonderful companions! Learn something new, that sparks the imagination, giving fresh data in your mind to mull over, refreshing! There's too much to do in this ol' world, to be lonely! Join a club which hosts interests similar to your own.....so much to do, so little time!

Answer 5

When I was lonely, I used to go to a restaurant and eat at the bar. That way I could chat with the bartender and have a tv as back-up. I didn't drink...I'd just have a meal and a soda. What I found was that many single men eat at the bar at places like Bennigans, Ruby Tuesdays, Chilis, TGIFridays, etc.... and it was a great way to meet men!

I also would go to bookstores like Barnes & Noble and Borders...I'd sit in the cafe, have a coffee and relax and read. It got me out of the house and I met people sometimes.

I love sushi too because you can sit at the sushi bar and interact with people and the sushi chefs.

I also love baseball. I would go to ball games by myself...and buy standing room only tickets. You know who stands at games? ONLY MEN. So I would stand there and watch the game and sure enough, guys would start talking to me....amazed that a woman would go to a baseball game alone and be in standing room only! This was in Chicago. I'm sure in NY and other major cities with popular baseball teams that this would work there too.

Good luck! Put yourself out there....you can't stay home and meet people. Smile and be friendly and it will happen eventually.

Answer 6

I was real depressed and lonely once and I was listening to some hymns. One said something about Jesus always being with us and I almost saw him slightly to my right, as if I could see him and certainly felt him, so I've never been lonely since. Truth be told, we are completely separate individuals and completely alone in our own mind and yet connected to everyone and everything by comparisons or similarities. Intuition connects us to our happy side and fills you so with love you only want to give it and help people or you'll burst. You love them and life so much that everywhere you turn is like the wonderment of being a child. It all seems brand new. I got there by dropping judgmental words for non-judgmental ones. It worked so well I added positive ones, thankfullness for what I have and am, and forgiveness. Can't use lonely. Not a postive word so it doesn't exist in my vocabulary. lol Incidentaly, science now says that pain is concentrated thought. It's true. If you work on it you can concetrate on postive words or thoughts and pain seems to go away or at worst is rather easily bearable. Of course do the other things to deal with pain as well. Rest, plenty of water for dehydration and concentrating on a positive thought. lol again.

Oh, have you checked out Emotional Intellligence real well yet? It's quite an effective new discipline for anything emotional. One warning. After you get free from depression you may have your deepest ones, but now with more control than with lesser emotions. I havent had one for over three minutes. As soon as I get up they disappear and I don't believe in them anymore. They're sort of a joke to me now. The fringe benefits are, oddly enough, better judgment, intuition, friends, popularity, and more understanding of people and ideas. Boy, am I on a trip and I lie not. Not even exagerating. I have to tell you, not many people have this down like I do so you may not hear a lot about it. It's truly amazing. Some get close, but I have the secret and it's so easy, just doing what I already said. Truth is stranger than fiction and what doesn't seem like it would work, does. What seems like it would work, doesn't. That's why so few get it. Lucky me. Even Einstein said that if an idea seems right, at first, there's no hope for it. Actually he said it in the negative, poor fellow. He said, "If an idea doesn't seem wrong, at first, there's no hope for it. He was so negative. No, that I am kidding about. Even Budhha put things is the negative. He would have put Jesus' saying, "Do unto others as you would have then do unto you" in the negative. Budhha said something like, don't do to others what you wouldn't want them to do to you, or some such. luv

Oh, the idea is that the subconscious is more powerful than the conscious mind and it's nearly impossible to reprogram it by trying to be "as happy as we want to be." Nonsense, but words reprogram it subconsciously and you get the upper hand, while conscious thoughts won't do it.

Answer 7

When I'm lonely, I ride my motorcycle, phone a friend, watch TV or a movie, get out of the house! Go shopping. Do something productive.

Answer 8

I'm gonna have to tough it out an go it alone, on my own for the first time in 10years and I don't look forward to the holidays at all, I 'll be there for you if you wish. just hang in there, some days are harder than others, but we will prevail. I promise you!

Answer 9

Go to my favorite place in the world and watch the people enjoy the holiday. of course a glass of wine and a fresh djarum always help.

Answer 10

Find some things to keep your mind and body busy. Also, try and do some charity work, or help someone with something. You will feel much better, and you'll be helping someone else in the process! :)