Over a year ago, I reestablished contact with someone I knew from school. I haven't seen him in over a decade, and even in school did not know him well. we don't live in the same city--he is flying 4000 miles to see me. We've already established mutual interest (of what nature, I'm not sure); the question is, is this just a booty call, or is he genuinely looking for a mate? He's very eligible. I'm having a hard time understanding why he would go to such lengths. I'm suspicious by nature.
2007-10-31 15:26:45 · 9 answers · asked by beatrice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not a booty call .....if you dont give it up.
Its quite possible....he's travelled 4000 miles....because he knows where you come from......and your roots are similar to his.
I see no reason to doubt his intentions, unless those little alarms start going off, and he gives you some reason to be concerned.
I can understand caution.......even reasoning in your mind what his intentions may be........but suspicious ? That could kill a relationship before it can even bloom.
Since you havent seen him in 10 years.......I would be sure to let everyone know (your family maybe) he's coming into town.....where he'll be staying........and where the two of you will be going together.
All that aside..........I'd enjoy the time........and getting to know my long lost new friend.
2007-10-31 15:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by saltydawg02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. I was single for 3 years after my wife died and I can tell you that it is a total jungle out there. There are more odd women lurking in every corner than I ever thought possible. To find someone that is close to sane, fun to be with and isnt after money is TOTALLY worth a 4000 mile flight. Give him a change. But be clear from the beginning that if its JUST a booty call, he can forget it.
2007-10-31 15:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Abolir Las Farc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person who traveled 3000 miles to see a woman I was interested in it was NOT just a booty call. I had real feelings for this woman and wanted something real and lasting. What your friend is thinking i couldn't say, but i would think that it's a lot easier to find a quickie a lot closer than 4000 miles. Give the guy a chance.
In my case it didn't work out,but it was still worth taking the chance.
2007-10-31 15:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pappy D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure he could have a booty call in lots less time and with much less expense. He is interested in seeing you. At this point it's impossible to tell exactly what he is hoping for but it's safe to say he would like to find out if the two of you are compatible and have any POSSIBLITIES for a serious relationship. Whatever, just go slowly if you're really interested in him.
2007-10-31 15:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4000 miles for just a booty call is a bit extreme. Unless he is hideous and you are the only woman on the continent who will sleep with him! I think he must be interested in you for more than just the booty.
2007-10-31 15:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by bellyyo62 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was nothing wrong to be suspicious, you just wanted to be sure. Girl I am telling you, he is serious & not just playing around...but of course once you finally meet in person there will still long way to go. What you should be thankful is at least he's making the effort to meet you eventhough is a 4,000 miles away. Goodluck
2007-10-31 15:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances it is more than just sex that he's interested in. However, you DO NOT need to "put out" just because he came all that way to see you.
Let me just say this. A guy flew several states to see me. It all went well at first, and then we started fighting. One night he took me to a really nice place to eat (I wore a cocktail dress). When we got back to his hotel he wanted me to come up and I said, "No". And then he said to me, "I could have stayed in California, hired a hooker, and had a better time." I cold ****** him right there. He left the next day.
Moral is: If no is an ok answer then he's there to see you and not there for sex. Whether you have sex or not is all up to you.
2007-10-31 15:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's genuinely lookin for a mate, the boy mayb liked u frm school and u neva knew. I doubt somebody will travel 4000mi just for a booty call.
2007-10-31 15:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
constructive, why no longer? My ex is offering to be one...i could desire to take income of it because of the fact he's a dedication phobe who lies and could't communicate...yet in spite of this, that would not make me look too solid the two. haha.
2016-12-15 12:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by selders 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋