but now that our son is turning two, I warned him about it, slaped his hand, he still wouldn't change his behavior, will this have any long term affect on my son if he see his father touching my breast?
I'm very afraid he gets label as pervert, if he copies his father behavior in daycare towards classmate and teachers.
2007-10-31 15:07:58 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He'll catch on to what your husband is doing. Trust me, I worked at a daycare. We had one little boy who was 2 1/2 and he would go up & grabs girls breasts & butts. We kept teling his mother & she had no clue where he got that. She later came back and said, he may have gotten it from his teenage sister & her boyfriend. Since the daughter often watched the little boy.
But I know my 1 year old watches my fiance & I do things and she copies. She copies everything!!! But your son doesnt understand what your husband is doing, but I'm pretty sure he'll imitate what he has seen. And I'm sure your hubby is not a pervert cuz I know my fiance does things like that infront of our daughter too, and it makes me nervous.
2007-10-31 15:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sweets03 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to be sure, if he is changing her diaper and cleaning her up after a mess he "might just use his fingers' to do so and that touching is cleaning up and a little one can't tell the difference. But if you ruin your husbands life forever, over a slight suspicion, you will kiss your marriage goodbye. Many kids cry when their Mom leaves the house that isn't unusual either Nor is a Dad laying down taking a nap with the daughter or son that is just normal. There is a lot of circumstantial evidence but nothing the doctor could see that is telling right there! Calling dcf was totally overreacting you seek counseling first and you never even mention talking to your husband.. did you even think of talking to him about it first?
2016-05-26 05:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with hugs and kisses, but your husband and mine need some lessonsin manners. Like yours, my husband thinks it's fine to just walk up to me and grab my boobs or butt, even when I'm doing something like reading a book to the baby or serving his lunch.
He, at 20 months, already copies behaviors, and I've seen him grab the behind of a friends' little girl.
At his age, he won't remember seeing it in future years, but if he starts doing it, it will quickly become a habit.
Do your best to get your husband to stop (I'm still working on mine!) before your son starts. Your husband might think it's funny now, but will he think it's as funny when your so is 7 and he's getting expelled from school? With all these 'zero tolerance' harrassment policies nowadays, do you want to take any chances?
2007-10-31 15:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At two years old, what behavior he see's, he'll copy. He's not going to have a long term effect, but he will most likely copy it, especially if he see's it constantly.
I'd explain to your husband that your son is getting to that age where you need to start acting as if you are in a public place when he's around. Would you kiss in a public place, yes. Would you touch and fool around in a public place...not so much...
At his age, he's starting to realize what's around him, how people are acting and copies it if no one corrects him. If you throw a ball at the window and hand him a ball, what's he going to do? If he sees your husband touching you and he gets close to your chest (or someone else's) what's he going to do?
Best Wishes =]
2007-10-31 15:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tyler wth??????????????!?!!!??!!??!!
Stop doing things around your son. Period.
You see, many things happen in life where a child does bad or inappropriate things and yet the parents have no clue what caused it... and they keep thinking about recent events, when it's really the psychological effect resulting from events that happened in his/her childhood years. It is essential(and i do mean it!!) part of a person's life... your child needs proper care and cannot be exposed to such things. I know that this generation and the next aren't going to turn out so well, and that's why we need to do our best to keep this society safe and civilized.. we didn't come all the way here just to go back to ancient civilization or even earlier... we need to teach them respect.. and besides, why would you do such a thing in front of a child anyway? I mean, even if he wasn't there, you shouldn't when he's "around" the house.. you know what I mean.
Innocence, as well as virginity, can be lost in a second. And neither will "return"... so be careful.. and have fun with your kids. Good luck
2007-10-31 15:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your son tries to copy this pattern, you will have problems. You are absolutely right because he will learn how to act with girls from your husband and your son is still too young to get the whole "only daddy can do this to mommy" ordeal. You should ask your pediatrician if there is anything you can do. And tell your husband to quit it. Unfortunately I think he wont until there is a true problem. Good Luck
2007-10-31 15:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by yourbigsis 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy that your husband loves your body so much that he can't keep his hands to himself when he is near you. Your son will understand that mom and dad love each other a lot and therefore kiss and touch each other. From the context it should be obvious to him that this is not to be done at random -he won't see the mailman touching your breasts, after all. If you think it is necessary you can try to explain that verbally but probably it won't even benecessary.
Relax and enjoy.
2007-10-31 20:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children learn their behavior from their parents, so in answer to your question, yes it will have a long term effect on your little boys ways. Your son may think it's OK to touch women in this way. Tell your husband to keep his hands to himself and save it for the bedroom. What is his problem anyway, do you think he may be competing for your attention and the only way to do that is to try and lay you>> Men can be such *****
2007-10-31 15:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Heidi. 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You should tell that "..if he copies his father behavior in daycare towards classmate and teachers..." part to him and see how he reacts. No offense but he seems like a very irresponsible parent to me.
2007-10-31 15:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by yodudemama 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes - that is not good to do infront of your son. Talk to your husband about this and the ways it can effect your son in school and his life. DO you want your son becoming a father at 14? Well No i didnt think so
2007-10-31 15:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋