How do you tell someone they are annoying kindly?

Question

I want to do so in Christian, but honest. I have left my church due,in part to her very presence. Help Me!!!!!!

Answer 1

It really depends on how this individual approaches you. Are they bragging, complaining, etc..all the time. Are they clingy,needy, selfish?
My standard is, " I am so sorry name but I just don't have the time right now, would love to...but life is just very busy." Keep on telling this individual that over and again..they will eventually get the point. The key to tactful avoidance is to be polite and move out quickly.

Answer 2

Truly not an easy task. However, you can tell the person, something like this: "Did you know that I really start to feel edgy when I see you acting that way. I love you, you are my (friend, lover, mate, pal, whatever) and I sense that when you do that, it bothers other people too. I want the best for you always and for our relationship to always be wonderful. So if you don't mind, would you stop doing >>>>>whatever it is>>>>>quite so often. Once in a while I don't mind it, but it bothers me when you do it way too much."

You do realize that you can always be honest, but cannot always be nice. Eventually, your honesty will be appreciated. If the annoying person has a tantrum and ignores you or drops the relationship altogether, well, I guess it was not meant to be. In all likeliness, when you suggest that you don't mind whatever it is, once in a while, so could they try to tone it down for you, they don't take that so negatively. In fact, my experiences, people have toned things down and found it to be better for them too, in other ways.

Remember, though, some people are hyper, nervous things like that, and cannot help some things sometimes. Maybe for some annoyances, you need to just accept them as part of that person's personality. I am sure you expect others to accept you as you are.

Answer 3

I have a friend like that and althought she isn't annoying to me she's often clingy and bothersome to others. She's usually looking for attention and friendship by force and goes out of her way to talk to people and try to hang out with them. If they don't invite her on an outing she pouts and whines about it to mutual friends.
Honestly, its hard telling someone that they're annoying when they don't do it in a mean way. They only thing I can think of is to try and tell them that you're busy or go out of your way to avoid them. They might get the point.

Answer 4

You cannot "kindly" tell someone they are annoying. The statement is indeed rude. However, sometimes...very necessary. Just be honest and forthcoming. Tell the person what you really think of her...or just let it go.

Answer 5

next time she comes up ask her to give u some space. start some joke like(at a appropriate time), oh u know what i hate the most, when ppl keep talking.
or if it were me i would tell the person she was annoying. i did it, but a took sometime for the person to get the message. but it eventually worked

Answer 6

try to tell the person that is not them that is annoying but a certain behaviour that you find bothersome. if you can put the emphasis on the act or behaviour and not on the individual then perhaps it wont seem as a personal attack. just tell the person one on one with no other people around. OR, dont tell the person and learn to deal with it.......

Answer 7

Can I please recommend a Larry Crabb/Dan Allender book called Encouragement: The Key to Caring. The cheapest place I know to buy solid Christian lit is CVBBS. Call 1-800-656-0231 & ask for Sam. He'll send it to ya!

Answer 8

You don't mention what they do to annoy you, but the only way to tell them is 'head on'. You could always say "Why do you do that (whatever) because I have a problem dealing with it". Words to that effect. See what happens. Good luck.

Answer 9

Just avoid and ignore her! And if that doesn't work just tell her you aren't into talking in the moment and just make up some bs excuses. If you like your church, DON"T LEAVE IT! just stay there. Imagine this as a challenge from God and maybe she just needs a friend. Look at it from her side and just try not to let her get to you.

Answer 10

next time she annoys you tell her that you don't like it. I really don't think there is a "nice" way to tell someone they annoy you. Maybe she does it on purpose....if this is the case, then forget about her.