One wants to leave based on what they feel is solid Bible. The other disagrees and says I'm just feeling left out or am mad(not true, honest).
2007-10-31 15:00:26 · 15 answers · asked by paula r 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
hey, if what they say doesn't jive with what the book they are promoting says, why would anyone go there?
2007-10-31 15:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 47 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I (and our kids, too I guess) are in a similar boat. Our church has departed from solid Scriptural teaching toward more emotional (and emotive) pentecostalism. I am of the mind that we need to step out now so that our children to not continue to hear this wrong gospel; my husband is of the opinion we should stay and defend the gospel.
I believe that I need to submit to my husband's authority on this - and he has said I am free to leave, but he will stay. I am not willing to divide the family on Sunday mornings, and so have decided to stay. It is a very painful time.
Some resources I have found incredibly helpful (which may or may not suit you because I understand the situation is not identical) are the books "Rethinking the Wineskin" by Frank Viola; "The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse" by David Johnson and Jeff Van Vonderen. I have not yet read "Charismatic Chaos" by John MacArthur but it is recommended to me by Reform friends (cessationists; where I am not). I have also appreciated reading about other people's experiences, such as at the blog
My prayers are with you - God bless!
2007-10-31 22:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ruby G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pray together about it.
We found ourselves in this situation about 12 years ago. It wasn't until we prayed a lot & left the burdon with the Lord, that He easily made circumstances where it was a natural move without any bitter feelings at all. Pray for the folks you believe are responsible for the not-so-solid teaching. I don't know how to explain it, but once I was no longer consumed by my own dissatisfaction, the Lord opened doors for an amicable solution.
2007-11-01 22:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Phoebe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you want to leave because you feel they are not going by the bible when they preach? If that is so,,,can't you just talk with the Pastor and see if you are understanding his sermons...maybe you are just misunderstanding.....if not, and you feel it is not a bible based church,,then I would tell you to leave and find another church...your husband,,,even though he is the head of the family,,,has no right to expect you to sit in a church,,under what you feel is false doctrine....
2007-10-31 22:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by dreamdress2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubby & I have left a church bc of the Bible Doctrine that they were using...unfortunately, we have been out for awhile; but the one who wanted to leave bc of the Bible Doctrine is now ready to try again this Sunday!! I am stoked!!
What Doctrines do you feel are not what the Bible says?
2007-10-31 22:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by bessiedarlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matthew P is right. I am female and I agree with what he said. The Bible says the husband is the head of the household. It also says that the wife submit to her husband AS HER HUSBAND IS REQUIRED TO SUBMIT TO GOD. This does not mean he is supposed to be a bully. It should be a decision made after counseling with their priest.
2007-10-31 22:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the Saint-Pauline Christian world, MEN RULES! Women are saved only by making babies and keeping quiet in the Church!
Saint Paul says that Eve was deceived (he really hated women) NOT ADAM, but that women will be saved if they are good at making babies. Nuns need not to apply!
I Timothy 2:14-15 (NIV) And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.
2007-10-31 22:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Opus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this answer isn't popular... I'm only giving it because you asked. In a marriage, two are supposed to walk as one which means a lot of cooperation. Unfortunately, just like with any one body with many members... there must be a head. In the case of marriage, God chooses the husband to be the head. The wife is certainly in a possition to make her observations known to her husband, but then to allow her husband to lead in the direction that he believes is best for them both. I hope this helps
2007-10-31 22:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew P (SL) 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If they can't come to an agreement, they should just separately attend whichever church makes them comfortable. The whole "husband decides" thing is way outdated. There's a reason I didn't say "Obey" in my wedding vows.
2007-10-31 22:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
They should pray about it, and have open communication. Analyze their feelings with God's help, and come to a compromise if they still have disagreement.
2007-10-31 22:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Faye 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know couples who go to separate churches.
2007-10-31 22:06:33 · answer #11 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋