I want to leave my stuff in my Will to my Mom, But she is quite old (70's) ....my sister is 45ish and has stabbed me in the back from day one and inherited all the family's houses and monies....I want to leave Mom all but if I do she will leave it to my sister when she passes so i'm screwed either way...any creative soloutions?
2007-10-31 14:44:28 · 21 answers · asked by Beach Life 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
BTW...yes, I do have a terminal illness
2007-10-31 14:55:10 · update #1
Leave it to your Mom and ask that, if she outlives you, that she donate the things you have given her to a charity of your choice. If she doesn't want to do that, there is nothing you can do about it. She knows how you feel about your sister so maybe she could reassure you. If you know that she will leave everything to your sister if she passes, then you may want to reconsider what you are doing.
You could also leave the things to a friend with the stipulation that your Mom will enjoy those same things until she dies and then they will be taken back by the friend you left them to. The wording would be important and very specific. It would have to be someone who you could trust to carry out your wishes and then it would seem to be the solution, to me anyway.
2007-10-31 14:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with the guy who said "blow it all now." That is an excellent idea. If you do get stuff for your mom try to make sure your sister can't use it, like size. If you are able, why not take a restful cruise with her or go to dinner several times a week with her. Of course, I don't know if you are mobile. You know, if your mom doesn't really need what you have, consider giving it to a charity. Your sister will turn 3 shades of purple!!
You sound too young to be so ill. I'm sorry.
2007-10-31 22:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it to charity, your mom is 70 she is going to die soon, your sister already has the money and the houses she inherited, so how about your favorite charity... If that doesn't work you could realy stab your sister in the back she may die first or worse case just don't die before your mother
2007-10-31 22:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by myztickal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im pretty sure you really shouldn't worry about this. Your mom is in her 70's that means your younger than her so she should pass before you unless you have a terminal illness. If thats the case I would talk to a lawyer.
2007-10-31 21:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spend it all while ur alive do u have any kids?? leave it to a charity that u reallly believe in and set up some money for ur mom so shell be okay but find out how u can do it so that ur sis wont get any do u have anyone else??
2007-10-31 21:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a thought, once you give things away they do not belong to you anymore. Be in peace...is not worth that much worry for materials things that you can't take with you.
If you want to give things to your mother is on your mother to give away whatever belongs to her...so it's up to you that on heaven won't worry if your sister will take and herein by second hand from your mother your belongings, because by that time won't be yours anymore, would be your mother's don't you think?
Unless you can put in your will that only your mother can herein your belongings if and only if in HER Will states that your sister won't received any belongings that were from you before, which means they should be a total inventory of your belongings. And I bet any lawyer won't be happy to get in that much effort unless your stuff are worth millions. Which anyway you can't do it because your mother can put whoever she wants in her will. Now think yourself about this, why to put your mother in so much stress about you don't want your belongings to your sister, for your mother she is her daughter as well regardless of your relationship with her. Does your mother needs your belongings? she is 70's anyway can she take her of all that stuff by herself?
If you can't avoid that situation, then decide to who other person or institution you would like to give your belongings.
2007-10-31 22:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by yada yada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say I'm really sorry. I really hope there's a miracle for you. I think that you should go to a lawyer and put everything under your mom's name ONLY and no things should be passed to anyone or it's illegal.
2007-10-31 22:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by sharaont 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can put a condition in your will that in term of your mother's death your sister can't inherit any thing you passed to your mother and should go either to someone else at your choice or to charities..
but really, why would you care about what your mother would do with the money? you gave it to her already and she is free to choose whoever she likes to have it after her!!
and about your sister... forget about her...
2007-10-31 21:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by great woman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is to out live you, Talk to your lawyer .Tell him you want
to have a "trust fund" set up, so when you die. She will get so
much a month as long as she is "living." Then when she dies,
all the rest of "your money" goes to your "favorite Charity."
2007-10-31 22:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL... I'm sorry... WHAT? I cannot believe you are asking a question like this. This sounds like a bad Lifetime movie.
I believe I would be spending more time living out the rest of your existence in the most positive way possible rather than trying to control something so trivial.
2007-10-31 21:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by Beth 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋