Does one wait for an invitation to meet the baby? We've been friends since high school, but never the kind of friends who just drop by. When would it be appropiate to go see them?
2007-10-31 14:42:54 · 24 answers · asked by CJ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
as for friends i would wait about two weeks to visit. call and congratulate them right away but keep it short. all the close family and relatives are going to be visiting right away and after the newness wears off she'll probably be lonely for adult company again. the first week is usually hectic for a new parent but relatives never care if they stop by unannounced. on the other hand when everyone stops coming by mom will be lonely for company. that;s when it's good to be a friend and stop. plus it's more appreciated. just call to congratulate and say you'll let all her other visitors come and later on the next week you'll look her up. i would have really liked this myself when everyone stopped visiting and my husband returned to work. plus maybe if you know a responsible teenager, offer to have mom and baby come out for a quick bite or coffee, something simple and offer to have the teen do some dishes, sweep and/or vaccuum while your out. or even if mom's okay with it maybe have dad stay home and invite your friend for again, a quick, simple coffee or bite to eat. also maybe offer to run some errands or order pizza or something and watch a movie at home. something relaxing. and a perfect baby gift is a lullaby CD. Both mine fell right to sleep when the classical music started.
2007-10-31 15:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by nrmatth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least two weeks. Give them time to settle into a routine. And then, don't just drop in. Call and say you'd like to see the baby. When would be a good time. Do bring a gift for the little one. And keep the visit short.
2007-10-31 21:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by true blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See when my friend just has a baby I usually go to see her at the hospital.... but if I don't see her there I usually wait a couple of days so they can get situated and then I call to see when it is the best time!
2007-10-31 21:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by ~Yoli~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just call or e-mail and ask.
But after 3-4 days should be fine with almost everybody, if you are friends and baby and Mom are doing okay. You can make it a short visit if you feel they are a little intimidated.
2007-10-31 21:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whenever she lets you. next time you talk just say "well I'm really happy everythings okay, congratulations. I'd love to see your baby soon. call me and let me know when it's a good time." put the ball in her court. You probably shouldn't just ask "can I see your baby?" because she may feel obligated to let you, even though she's not ready. she'll invite you over when she feels the time is right.
2007-10-31 21:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bebe Bluff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a benefit to visting in the hospital -- most parents are very excited to show off there new babe, and there is no obligation or need for them to "host." Short visits are best. Mainly for family and close friends.
2007-10-31 21:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by jen w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call and ask when a good time is but ask if she wants company when the baby is sleeping or not. She may need some adult interaction and want some one to come over to see her.
2007-10-31 22:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by ebsharer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually I give it a couple of weeks ,but I always call to see if it's okay to go . You never know if she's feeling tired and on top of that she needs to get use to her new baby. So call before you go.
2007-10-31 21:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by bornfree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call and ask when she will be accepting visitors.
Ask her if there is anything that she can't eat because you would like to make a dinner for her. Some people have food allergies and if she is breast feeding then there are some food that she needs to limit.
Good Luck!
2007-10-31 21:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by EMT-207 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you could congratulate them over the phone first and ask if you could go visit them you could do that a little bit after they have rested maybe when they are at home and maybe you could help them a little bit if they want.
2007-10-31 21:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋