anger management??????

Question

im very vulnerable to emotion (esp. anger). I become extremely hot tempered when someone does something immoral and rude to me. For example, while driving if people do something rude to me, i cant be patient and i yell out like crazy person in my car though of course all windows are closed when shouting. And I cant really get over the emotional upset and i start to cry out all alone. I cant really help myself and all trivia happenings around me remind me of worse memories in past and worst imagination and assumption such as those people are ignoring me and humiliating me. Is it my inferior complex or persecution mania or too much self consciousness or just being unable to control my own emotion? I feel like I hate myself just like everyone does hate me, therefore I hate everyone, too. And I believe people do wrong things to me because they hate me.

I've seen psychologist before, but it didnt turn out very well. I just want to know if there's anyone whose personality is similar to mine

Answer 1

There probably are people with similar personalities. What I can tell you is that people DO NOT hate you. That is only in your own mind. If you can get over that thought your life will improve greatly. Force yourself to stop thinking that. When you think a negative thought, make yourself replace it with a positive thought. You will see changes in yourself and others if you will just change your thinking. When people are driving they are not doing anything against you. A lot of people are just stupid drivers. It is not personal.

Answer 2

First thing you need to do is use your own common sense! Those people in the other cars do not know you. they do stupid stuff to everyone.If you allow the rudeness of ignorance to anger you then the anger is in you from another source.As you said it reminds you of "memories"I know that bad things happened to me when I was a child and I was somewhat like you a time or two.For me I had to open my eyes to all the bad things that happen to others and how unfair they were treated before I learned to forgive the past. Only then when I realized that others are mistreated and I am not alone was I able to control how I reacted to the acts of ignorance that most of those things really were.Humans history is filled with cruelty and immoral acts done to certain races,religions or individuals and for no reason or trivial reasons. The truth is every day you must tell yourself "I choose to make this a good day" Only we as individuals can come to the personal reality of knowing that not one moment of your life can be retrieved . Once spent that moment is gone forever so why let some self centered dumb person spoil it??? Have faith, have peace.....l.........................

Answer 3

Any time an emotion takes complete control of your life and you are unable to regain it, you need Professional help. Your anger is robbing you of the abilty to enjoy your life and most likely is affecting your family and friends. Just because one psychologist did not work out, does not mean that you cannot find one that does. Do not accept just any professional simply because they are licensed, if you don't feel comfortable with them then change, you will never progress until you find someone you can relate to and trust.
For your sake, I hope you seek help for this problem, it would be a sad waste of a life and productive human being, simply because of one bad experience, you at least acknowledge you have a problem and that is one of the most Important steps in resolving a problem.

Answer 4

I used to have a terrible temper. But my reasoning helped me to learn to keep my cool. For instance when a person does something stupid like go 35 in a 55 mi speed zone and I have an appointment. I just reason, If that person didn't slow me down, I could get a ticket or have an accident. How many accidents have you come across that happened just moments before you got there. I also found you can think clearer and more clever if you don't lose it. People know how to respond to temper, they don't know how to respond to calmness and kindness. It's not what happens to you, but what you let it do to you that matters. You say you don't like yourself, try being the person you would like. The only true way to be happy is to make others happy.

Answer 5

Wow!!! I do have a twin!
I work with the public all day long and get very frustrated with people and their crass behavior.
It could be all or none of the above things you mention causing it.
I, too have been in therapy, and it did nothing to help-in fact it was more frustrating because I don't WANT to be angry-I don't care WHY I am, I just want it to stop.
When I find myself sliding into a mood, I give myself a pep talk. I have to remind myself that other people's BS isn't about me. I remind myself not to lower myself to their level.
I hope you are able to find some measure of comfort. It is a lot of work-but try.

Answer 6

In all honesty you really need to look at talking to someone else, take it from someone who has been through a handful of psychologists. Perhaps a psychiatrist (there are meds that can help) or maybe even take up a relaxing hobby or start working out, that seems to help me alot. Take a vacation. Life is too short to feel that way towards yourself and others.

Answer 7

Anger management is VERY common these days. With all the stress with work and all the new technology, it's very common to lose your cool. Yours a little extreme.

You need to see a psychiatrist. They are MDs, and can write prescriptions. Don't be afraid to tell him/her EVERYTHING. I believe some medication would help you immensely. Plus just talking to a psychiatrist, should work out a lot better than a psychologist.
I wish you the best of luck. This is something you really need to take care of ASAP. Don't procrastinate, Sweetie. :)

Answer 8

Bless your heart! It sounds like you are overwhelmed, and you need a break, you must have a lot on your mind and you need help! You are very normal! You just need something, like an anti depressant or mood stabilizer! You need to talk to your doctor and tell him/her what you said in your question! It may take a few weeks to feel better, but you will! If you have tried medication in the past and it didn't work, then it was the wrong thing! Ask your doctor about Cymbalta, or maybe something he/she recommends! Good Luck, it will get better, I know you feel miserable, but you will overcome it!

Answer 9

You need to find a therapist that is right for you and that can teach you ways to deal with your anger effectively and check if there are hormonal issues that need to be addressed. Meditation and practicing a non-competitive sport would help you release some stress and get some endorphines going. Your problem is not uncommon but it needs to be dealt with or you may end up having very disfunctional relationships.

Answer 10

Yes, there are many people in the world with anger "issues". Try another doctor, and keep trying until you get one that works for you. Living your entire life feeling angry and out of control isn't pleasant. And, living with someone who's angry all the time isn't fun, either. Get the help available to you. Do it for your future ( or present) spouse and children. Life's too short to be angry all the time. Good luck!