I live in a dorm. And so my roommate didn't end up going to class because i wouldn't drive her there(most of our classes are at the Inn for culinary. Since we didn't have classes today until after 5pm(some teacher thing). I told her i wasn't going to take her. Then she texted me asking if she could use my car. I told her no. She was mad so she went to sleep. She purposly missed her class. If she left when she first asked if i could have taken her she would have been there on time. But no..
and she missed an important class...i had it yesterday and its for the hardest test for the class.
How can i make her understand i'm not her driver? And get into her head she can't use my car.
2007-10-31 12:54:14 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You don't have to explain anything to her. She had a choice to attend class, and she chose not to.
If attending that class were important to her, she would have found a way to be there .... but she didn't.
Do not take any responsibility for saying "no" to her. You are not her chauffeur, you are not her keeper, you are not her mother. You are a fellow student who just happens to have a car and have been generous enough to provide rides for her in the past, which she just so happens to have taken for granted.
It was your room mate's fault she missed that class, not yours. Don't let her put a guilt trip on you. Like my Dad used to say, "Sounds like a personal problem to me!" Let it go, don't let her get to you. You did absolutely nothing wrong.
2007-10-31 13:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by tracy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the stupid b***h. If she continues to be a jerk ask her to buy you some new luggage for the guilt trip she is trying to send you on...then laugh and walk away from her. Treat her like what she is; a stupid, silly, selfish, self-centered brat. She means nothing to you and has no lasting importance in your life...and don't worry about making her understanding anything or getting anything into her head; that would be a futile, wasted effort.
2007-10-31 13:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ground rules have to be set up with any roommate situation. You obviously didn't set any up and now you're dealing with the consequences. Begin again and set up the rules. Once everyone knows what they are no one has a reason to come down on anyone for their own inadequacies or inability to be an adult. Everyone is always responsbilble for themselves.
2007-10-31 13:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to make her understand anything. You did just what you should have. Just tell her no, you will not drive her; no, she cannot use your car. If she wants to skip class and blame you because you won't be her mommy, then she's the one who loses out. Maybe a failing grade will make her more self-sufficient.
2007-10-31 15:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by julz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight out that you are not her chauffeur, and you will not lend her your car.
Do not let her place the blame on you for something that was HER responsibility. She should be grateful for the times she has gotten a ride from you.
There is an old saying, "If you give somebody an inch, they'll take a mile."
A perfect saying for your roommate. I would tell her to find another ride.
2007-10-31 13:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Video tape yourself kicking her @**, and screaming at her that you aren't her driver, and that she can't use your car. Then put that video on YouTube, or something similar. Then email her and provide her the link to the video.
After she watches the video, she should get the hint.
I'm just playin'. But that would be classic.
2007-10-31 13:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by BroncoFan_17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should point out that if she was really interested in going to class she would have gone even if she had gotten there late. You should also tell her that its your car and you'd rather not have someone driving it uninsured.
2007-10-31 13:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by samurai_fairy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 01:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no one to blame but herself, but that is exactly what her problem is. She doesn't take responsibility for her actions.
It's not your problem. She's going to have to grow up and maybe she has learned her first lesson now. If not, she will eventually - as long as you are consistent.
2007-10-31 13:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by winnie2 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her whining. She needs to start taking responsibility for her (in)actions.
2007-10-31 20:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋