i met this girl about a month ago and now we are going out...ikm a junior by the way......so what im having troubl on is that the last girlfriend i had was like 2 weeks before i met this girl and we had problems because im not the physical realationship type person...im a klittle more on the respectfull side...but it didnt work out because of that.... and all i want to know is.....how should i treat the girl now..
in a good respecfull way
or should i go more for the physical way....?
2007-10-31 12:43:12 · 21 answers · asked by subhuman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
part of growing up is learning that even though a woman wants one thing, she might need another thing. I always err on the respectful side, but if you can read her signals, make a move. Making a move will give you an idea of how she will act. Some woman want you to make a move, and if you don't they may reject you and move on.
If I could go back in time to your age, I would make more moves on girls and be more aggressive and yet still being respectful. Being respectful is treating your woman the way you KNOW she expects you to treat her, rather than what you think you should treat her.
2007-10-31 12:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by dealerschool2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd point blank ask (yes the truth could hurt but at least you'd know) if she wanted a more physical or respectfull relationship. on an diffrent but simular note it's good that your respectful; most girls my age (20) look for that in men. We want a guy that can treat us with respect.
2007-10-31 19:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by lill_angel_07_88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be respectful, cause that is rare these days! It is ok to be physical but not in an overwhelming way. (You are so young, and there is so much responsibility that comes with having a sexual relatioship) So, be yourself! (guys like you are pretty much extinct!) Just don't take things too far too soon and I'm sure your girlfriend will appreciate the fact that you are with her bec. you genuinly like her and not bec you are after something else like some other creeps out there!
2007-10-31 20:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I read your question correctly then I would say that at your age there is no need to rush into anything. It's OK (but maybe old fashioned) to carry her books into class. You're a little on the shy side, but some girls like that.
Bottom line is, you're normal, relax, enjoy her company, and enjoy learning what girls are about.
I wish you both well.
Ian M
2007-10-31 19:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ian M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any female that would rather have a physical relationship more than a respectful one should be on the corner getting paid.
Don't let that deter you. You're doing the right thing. Physical stuff will come I mean.. lets face it your a young male..horomones.. shall I go on?
Let this relationship flow naturally and don't base your last relationship and female on this one.
2007-10-31 19:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't change yourself for a girl that u aren't even dating anymore. Heck u shouldn't change yourself at all. If u were destined to be dating this girl then she would like u for who u r. So if u aren't very physical then don't perceive yourself as physical. If u feel u r more respective towards girls more than others than u should be urself. Sounds like your previous girlfriend is a s l u t, whore, prostitute. No offense to her.
2007-10-31 19:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo you can be physical and respectful, let her know what youre doing its ok to ask her if what youre doing with your hands or whatnot is ok, if she puts off a negative vibe then stop. You don't want to push her. once you find your boundaries then keep it at that she will let you know when to take the next step.
2007-10-31 19:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Heath H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respectfull is good...i like guys like that...treat in a good respectfull way don't talk crude around or about her...and be sweet on her:):):) hope you guys get to be really good friends too:)
about talking rude and crude...i knew a guy that did that to me and i dumped him and told him to get a life and to never look at me again...i totally did not mean that you would thou...just sayin take percaussion about how you act arround her and how you talk about her when shes not around...it will get back to her some how
2007-10-31 19:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you're a good guy if you treat girls with respect. Keep going at it, you'll find the girl that respects you for that. I wish the guys I knew were like you.
2007-10-31 19:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by Silvia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like she is a queen... You should be respectful of her and treat her like a lady. WITH RESPECT if she wants to hold your hand in public go for it. Show her she is the only one that matters to you,but most of all RESPECT RESPECT RESPECT and make time for her instead of your friends
2007-10-31 19:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by Georgette w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋