I am having girl problems right now and I need someone that knows them well or even be one. I met my Sweetheart in feb 06 and ever since we have been the most happy couple ever, we were so in love. For a year I actually lived with her and her parents and nothing change we just grew more in love. Of course there were times that we would argue but who doesnt argue? there were times that I didnt have time or the money to do things everyweekend, Well two weeks ago she gets her first real job and puts me out the door saying that we never do anything or go anywhhere with no sign of her even being miserable she tells me that we need to spend time apart because we do nothing but argue and she wants to be alone and hang out with her friends. Well If that was case than she could have done those things without breaking up with me, all she says to give her time and if it is ment for us to be together than we will... I cant even sleep at night and i know she wouldnt do that to me.
2007-10-31 12:29:33 · 30 answers · asked by rock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some more info, to make it a little more clear. I Have had the job even before we have met, I spent about every dime i had on her because i loved her. there was about a 2 month phase where I had no vehicle, which was not my fault but there parents are nice to me and they still miss me so its not them but they had an extra car that i drove. During that time I had to pay some depts. off and we couldn’t do much but she knew that. all the sudden she has change and I know her very well just as much as she knows me and i don’t believe there is someone else, all i can figure is that she just wants to have options.
2007-10-31 12:52:03 · update #1
if you havin' girl problems i feel bad for you son, i got 99 problems and a ***** ain't one.
To answer your question, your situation sounds way too familiar. Happened to me way back, and happened to my roommate this summer after a 6 year relationship. Basically "if it's meant to be" means "I want someone better, but if I can't find it I'll come back." Answering your question is making me so pissed off right now lol because it feels like all girls are the same...
But don't feel all sad or whatever because she wants you to want/need her. I never gave my ex the satisfaction so 2 months later she came crying back and I told her "I guess it wasn't meant to be." "******".
I'm not telling you what to do because your gf may be going through something completely different. But from what I've seen and experienced, find a girl who appreciates you and doesn't take you for granted.
Stay strong bud.
2007-10-31 12:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow that's cruel of her. Either she's been living a lie and you don't really know her or something ticked her off that you didn't notice. It could be that the arguing was getting to her more than you realized. She may have broken up with you, but she didn't cut you off completely, right? She said she needs time, so take that time and get some good sleep. In the morning, tell her you love her and if you did something to hurt her feelings, you didn't realize it and you're SORRY.
edit: You lived with her parents? Not good, maybe that's what tipped the scales for her. Try being a little more self-sufficient.
Reading zero's comment, I kind of agree. She'd boot you out suddenly like that and you want her back? I think with some time, you could do much better than that. And lil gaper... I think she may be right, too. So sorry, feel better soon!
2007-10-31 12:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anniekd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been over a year and she might be worrying about the future since you have been living together so its clearly a serious relationship.
She has just got a job and is starting to think what lies ahead...maybe if you try to get a job too so you have some money to take her places.
She needs to know you arent just going to be living off her and her parents.
Maybe even her parents were putting pressure on her!
Dont rush her with this...but dont drop off the planet too!
She needs space but that doesnt mean go away.
If you get the job and can take her out maybe even just to the moves or for a meal once a week if you can then you guys can try to rekindle the old flame and maybe then she will take you back.
Be there and understand.
If she doesnt want you guys to go on, try to be a man about it (or on second thoughts maybe not xD - just ask to remaim friends and maybe you can still be close).
2007-10-31 12:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Little Old Me Again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that everything will work out fine. Me and my partner have been 2geva for 5yrs and we had a split for 6 weeks and we got back together. Sometimes if your living with eachother and barely have rest or time to yourselfs then then it can get a bit too much. This will also test your relationship and if you happily get back together then I'm sure you will feel even more for each other. Love is a very funny and horrible thing and it does mess your head up. I hope everytin works out fine keep your head up and go your separate ways for a little while. Don't feel as if you've done something wrong she'll soon realise whats she's lost. Hope this helps.
2007-10-31 12:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Missy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear,where have i heard that one from before.Can i ask how
old you are.If you are in your early teens then you will have to
accept that girls are looking for the right man to spend the rest
of their lives with.They will experiment with different partners till
they find the right one and this may take several years.Now that
your girlfriend has just got a job she is no longer reliant on your
money and has made excuses not to see you anymore.Give her
some space and get on with your life.If you meet a new girlfriend
then fine.If she wants to get back with you then go for it.
She will call you if she is interested but if after 6 months have
passed i personally would give up on seeing her again.Your a
free man and can have almost any girl you like.
2007-10-31 13:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels like you're not doing anything. she doesn't feel special like the way she did in the beginning of the relationship. i know that's it's too much to ask for something like a gift everyday, but gifts don't matter. you could start out by buying her her favorite comfort snack or some flowers. then it's just the little things that matter.. like renting favorite movies you guys like to watch or just saying how much she matters 2 u. REMEMBER THAT GIFTS AREN'T IMPORTANT IN RELATIONSHIPS. WORDS ARE. and if she still doens't want 2 be with u then she wasn't the one 4 u. there's someone out there 4 everyone and once u find that person, she'll be worth all the drama you've been through.
2007-10-31 12:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by phatkas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gut feelings on this are as follows: She now has her own money coming in and she's showing her true colors. She doesn't need a sugar daddy anymore. I'd be willing to bet money on the fact that if she loses her source of income ie her job, she will be banging on your door to came back to her. I know the truth hurts but, if she does pull that kind of crap on you, you might just as well hang a sign around your neck that says """""LICK ME"""""" cause your a sucker. When I was young and foolishly in LOVE with this girl, I would drive 12 miles to the neighboring town, pick her up and take her to a dance on my dime. After the dance was well underway she would latch onto the big man on our campus (who was to cheap to go get her and pay her way into the dance) and ditch me. She would then proceed to leave with him and sting me. It happened twice and after that the shrew stayed home because I found another. Think about it.
2007-10-31 12:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by epat87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like u guys have been together for quite a while...frm wht u said i think u r like every other couple..when u just start going out u r always on the phone, can't keep ur hands off of each other, can't see enough of each other etc etc....it seems tht u guys spend a lot of time together...maybe she just wants to see how it would be if u didn't spend every waking minute together....just give her a little time..if she feels the same way as u feel abt her...she'll come around...just make sure u don't call her 10 times everyday and show tht u r desperate...give her some space and let her come to u
2007-10-31 12:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by miss. sensibile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can explain a woman to man. Not another man not even a woman can explain another woman. Each one is unique, each one a mystery. Women can't even explain themselves let alone another woman. I'll be 55 next December and the more I learn about women the more I realize how little I know about women.
Sound like you were only "MR. Right Now" and not Mr. Right.
she got herself a job, probably some handsome cool dressing guys there that she has her eyes on. It's only a guess, a cynical one at best.
2007-10-31 12:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by RUDOLPH M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wanted a "free ride" and now that she has a job, she doesn't need a man to pay her way. I would recommend talking to her and telling her how you feel about her. If it is meant to be then it will be. Also if she was using you, remember that living well is the best revenge--go out and get a great job and start a new life.
2007-10-31 12:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋