If masturbation is a sin do I need to belt my son for doing it.?

Question

Scripture prohibits self pleasure like masturbation....it's a sin. I have disciplined my son for it before, but my husband refuse to take a leadership role and really discipline him. Am I wrong on this?

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Answer 1

My definition of a sin is a little different than most. I always ask myself if the action - whatever it is - causes harm to the well-being of either the perpetrator or alleged victim.

Anyway, masturbation is quite victimless, if one thinks about it, and affects no one else like the sex act itself can. The individual who satisfies himself or herself through self manipulation is causing no harm physically or mentally to either themself or anyone else unless he or she is made to feel guilty by religious conventions - OR FEELINGS OF GUILT STARTED BY PARENTAL LACK OF UNDERSTANDING.

Think of it this way: would you rather your son relieve these pent-up sexual urges that are perfectly natural through masturbation, or or would you rather that he have them build up to the point that he becomes someone hanging around waiting to find the first girl (or maybe even boy) who will allow him to have sexual relations with them so he can get relief? Or perhaps he might not even wait for permission; you know -I don't think that rapists are born, I believe them to be made by cultural and religious factors that lead them to believe that such things like masturbation is a sin, when in fact there are other acts that are much, much worse. These feelings will be relieved in one way or another, won't they?

If it keeps the kid's sexual equilibrium in check, then he should be allowed to "do his thing" privately without a big deal being made about it. I can't envision a merciful and loving God condemning someone for taking the high road when it comes to relieving one's self of his or her sexual needs through self manipulation. It sure beats raping an innocent little 14 year old girl or lurking around school grounds, don't you think?

If he masturbates, he is normal, and don't as a parent make him feel anything else. The price you pay may be much, much more in the long run.....

Answer 2

Yes you're wrong! If you feel the urge to use a belt, use it on yourself because you are guilty as sin. Masturbation is not a sin and is natural. Ask your husband how many times he masturbated throughout his lifetime and marriage.

Answer 3

No, you do not need to belt him. Yes, you are wrong. Just because you believe in scripture doesn't mean that your son does. You can't force him to believe what you believe.

Your husband isn't active in this because he obviously doesn't subscribe to it either--because he's a guy and he understands it better.

Last, I'm not even going to ask how or why you have opportunity to discipline him for this, or how you know he's doing it. There are a lot of other things to worry about.

Answer 4

Masturbate = Good
Belt your Son = Bad
Do the math!

Answer 5

You would hit your son for masturbating? That's sick.

People masturbate, it's part of learning about sexuality. Masturbation is perfectly healthy and fine.

Maybe if you had one off of the wrist you'd lighten up a bit.

Answer 6

Masturbation is not a sin, premarital sex is a sin. Stop punishing your son as long as he is only in his OWN bedroom alone. Your husband needs to sit down and have the "birds-n-bees" talk w/ him. He's obviously ready. Please be delicate. You could do far more damage than good if you aren't careful. God bless!

Answer 7

You are not just very wrong, you are very sick. If I recall my scripture correctly, you are grossly mis-interpreting the scripture in mark 12 that chastises a man for having carnal relations with his dead brothers wife to raise up a son in his brother's name, (Allowed in that time) but who praciced withdrawl (Spilling his seed on the ground) to avoid conception, thus prolonging the time in which he was not just allowed, but REQUIRED to service this woman. You might also be mis-interpreting Leviticus 15 & 16, to whit "And if any man's seed of copulation shall go from him, then he shall wash all his flesh in water, and be unclean until the evening" which is merely admonishing hygene under the strict Jewish hygenic laws. YOU may have been told it was wrong, sinfull, and unclean by your parents, but that doesn't make it so. Not only is mastrubation normal and natural, for BOTH sexes, it is also all-but required for health's sake, the body has to do SOMETHING with all the semen and sperm-cells that it generates daily, and the amount generated in adolescent males is prodigious. Leave the boy alone about his perfectly normal coping with physiological pressures and psychological urges. If sexual tension isn't releived THAT way, it will find release in unsavory ways.

Answer 8

The Bible never specifically mentions masturbation or states whether masturbation is a sin. There is no question, however, as to whether the actions that lead to masturbation are sinful. Masturbation is the end result of lustful thoughts, sexual stimulation, and/or pornographic images. It is these problems that need to be dealt with. If the sins of lust and pornography are forsaken and overcome - the problem of masturbation will become a non-issue.

Answer 9

You're very wrong on this and are you not a hypocrite?! Did you not masturbate more than once in your lifetime? Do you really think all those Clergy men and Clergy women don't masturbate?

Answer 10

I think it is almost a normal human action. Did you do it? My religion also considers it a sin, but I still think it is a very natural thing for a teenager to explore. Sexuality is part of our God given bodies. Rather than "belting" him, teach him ways to control his desires.