I've always wanted a tattoo and I was totally sure of the design. I got the tattoo and now my boyfriend isn't happy even though he told me earlier that he knew eventually that I would get it so he will learn to live with it. He told me that it was up to me whether to get it or not but now that I have it, he is upset and asked me "If you love me and i asked you to remove it. Is our love stronger and more important than your tattoo?". I told him that "If our relationship is stonger than my tattoo then why are you fighting me over it?". What do you think? Is it fair that he could say these things to me now? I don't regret getting the tattoo at all but I also love my bf.
2007-10-31 12:00:06 · 43 answers · asked by mhyalene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The tatt is of a butterfly so it's really feminine, it looks great and it's also meaningul to me - It symbolises living my life to the fullest (butterflies don't have much time to live) and it reminds me that regardless of what people would say, I'm a beautiful person! Yes, it's my first tatto and it will be my last one because I don't want to go through the pain all over again. I have been with my bf for over 6 years and these past few month has been full of petty arguments.
2007-10-31 12:24:23 · update #1
Btw, my bf hasn't seen the tatt on me yet, I have just shown him a picture of the design.
2007-10-31 12:26:38 · update #2
You didn't put the tatoo between you two. He did. he knew you would get one. if it was such a big deal on what you got he would have put more effort into helping you find one. I don't like guys that put use these things as arguing points. its a manipulative personality trait. the only thing I can see that a tat was a problem is if he is christian and you picked a demonic type of tat. Since he did not communicate effectively how important the design is to him then he has no say. He now has to live with it if he loves you. If he doesn't love you this will continue to haunt you as an arguemental target for him. good luck. welcome to the tat club btw. hope you know they are addictive.
2007-10-31 12:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ray E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has no right to ask you to remove your tattoo. You love him, I understand that; but he is showing you very little respect for that. I am not saying you should break up with him, but tell him it is very hurtful that he says things like that and, if he can't get over it, then maybe he doesn't care about you as much as he claims to.
My fiance is getting a tattoo that I'm not happy about; but, it makes him happy and he really wants it. It isn't anything offensive or on his face, so it would feel like I was trying to parent him to tell him it was a bad thing to do. He is trying to own you and your body. Don't let him.
(If you really want to be mean, tell him that he would have to pay for the removal, and for the price of the tattoo, if he really hates it...see what he says...heh heh heh. Don't get rid of it for him, though.)
2007-10-31 12:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He'd rather you were possibly left with a scar than a tattoo you've always wanted? Some boyfriend... Ignore what he says, he's got no respect for you.
2007-10-31 12:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is being childish by changing his mind about it after you got the tattoo. My answer is that it isn't fair to you. He doesn't have to like the tattoo but he should be glad that you're happy with it.
2007-10-31 12:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being selfish and petty. You made the right decision and did so maturely and responsibly. If he is so insecure he can't handle one small tattoo that's his problem. You're a big girl and can do what you want so don't let him control you.
Next time he suggests you having it removed, call his bluff and tell him if he wants it gone that then HE can pay for the treatment. See how quickly he changes his tune then.
2007-10-31 12:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I understand why he doesn't want you to have a tattoo, but that is so stupid. It's your decision, he can't control this. Your right! If your relationship is strong, then he would let this be such a big deal. But just hearing me say this doesn't change anything tell him that it is up to you, and you are keeping it, you love him, but this is something you want, and he cannot deprive you of it.
( What was the tattoo, just curious.)
2007-10-31 12:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't indicate whether this was your first tattoo, or if it's a subject your boyfriend didn't like, or whether he has one, or how long you've been dating, etc, etc, etc, which would have made my answer a lot more specific. Instead, here's the generic reply: the tattoo was your decision (hopefully, with your parents' consent and done in a professional and sterile environment), so it's YOUR "problem", not his.
2007-10-31 12:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by skaizun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop being so controlling. It's your body and you can tattoo it however you see fit. It's not like your cheating on him or something. You having a tattoo doesn't affect your relationship in anyway. He has no right to ask you to have it removed as it has no significance to how strong your love for him his. Tell him to grow up and stop being so unfair.
2007-10-31 12:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by clare 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Dang what is the tattoo of? Its not his decision and your right if your love is so strong and true then a tattoo shouldn't get in the way of it. But the tattoo must be something that really gets to him so you should try to ask him what it is about it that is so bad?
Good Luck
2007-10-31 12:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by collie-ollie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why should your boyfriend care whether or not you have a tattoo? You are the one who has it and the one who paid for it and if he doesn't like the tattoo then that is his problem. Afterall, that was your decision to make and not his. People can make such a big deal over tattoos and I have always liked tattoos. My husband had both his arms tattooed years ago and I like them but he has said that he wishes that he did not have them.
2007-10-31 12:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋