First of all i'm 17 live w/ my parents and work 25 hours a week while going to school my 28 year old sister is a single mother living with us (my parents) who works 3 days a week depends on welfare, is dirty (doesnt change clothes, barely showers, disgusting breath) stays at home all day watching tv and making a mess and letting her son run wild & do what he pleases and expects my mother to clean, and cook for her! i am goin CRAZY! she irritates me just the simple fact that she doesnt care about my mom who works as a housekeeper 40 hours a week! how is she so ungratfull? i want to tell her to LEAVE! but everytime i tell her she is selfish and ungratfull she starts hitting hurself and saying she wishes she was dead and crying and i find myself in the same position i was in before which is she is being a slob at home. also she has her OWN TRAILER! so its not like we would kick her out to the streets. & she brought all her furniture to our house yesterday! like she moved in! i need help!!
2007-10-31 11:30:50 · 4 answers · asked by Catastraphe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also she has a bacheleaors degree and works at famous footwear....its not like she is completely handicap! she speaks english and spanish! if she lived with us and didnt make a mess and expect my mother to be her slave i wouldnt mind but she eats and leaves the plate on the coffee table, she doesnt take out the diapers so the house smells like SH!+ she just needs to move out and realize that her parents arent always going to be there for her...i think...how do i get this point through her thick head?
2007-10-31 11:43:28 · update #1
She needs help. Not knowing enough about her life and how she arrived at this point I cannot offer much.
Since she's living at home, she should sell the trailer, and needs to get her life together. Get some day care, get a real job, get off welfare.
It sounds more like she needs encouragement. She gets sympathy from the parents and complaints from you, neither is what she needs.
2007-10-31 11:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by E. F. Hutton 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound over your head, but truely give it a try. Look up in your phone book in the front (child protection) and get on a bus and go down to the office and sit there and wait for a social worker to listen to your story. She should after you tell her all you have said here,( and hey print it out)she will come to your house and talk to your sister and decide if your sister needs mental help and then get her there. Don't rely on your mom to do this. You do the contacting. There is a mental health crisis in this country and these are the truely deserving people if you ask me. Please you will help not only yourself but may save your sister from futher deepening depression and sucide.
2007-10-31 11:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy that 'hitting herself and wishing she was dead` crap.
It's manipulative. It works and she uses it to get you
off her case without her doing anything about her problem.
It's a sickness and it's screwing up her life.
When it starts, tell her to change if it bothers her.
Keep on her a** until you see a result.
Do compliment any good behavior she shows.
That's important. - Reward good behavior.
A bit of tough love will be doing her a favor here.
(Don't get violent of course. It sounds like talking
will be enough. Just don't let her off the hook
because she whines.)
2007-10-31 12:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needs help. Just move out when you turn 18. She might be suicidal so watch the offenses.
2007-10-31 11:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋