Me and my fiancee broke up a year ago and he told me that he doesn't want to get married in his lifetime. But 2 months ago when he learned that I'm gonna move to another country, he came to me and said that he still loves me and wants to get married with me. When I went to his facebook account, I saw his ex there. I felt so idiot. When I told him about this, he said what's wrong? He thinks this is just normal but he gets mad at me when I talk to my friends ( men ). He behaves like I'm cheatin him with my friends ( and we only talk about politics and religious topics, nothing else! and he knows that )
I'm so indecisive, what should I do? I don't think I can go on with a person like him but I love him , too... I'm so confused and sad.. What would you do if you were me?
Thanks in advance...
2007-10-31 11:00:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd get rid of him. It sounds as though he is a bit controlling, and definitely hypocritical. Why should he have friends who are girls, but you cannot have friends that are guys?
It is ridiculous, and I have found that people are not hypocritical in only one area - it is many.
Anyway, if you don't think you can go with a person like that, then you can't. Even though you love him, a day will come when you will wake up, wondering what you were doing, being with him.
Good luck!!
2007-10-31 11:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by IJToomer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said "i dont think i can go on with a person like him" regardless of whether you love him or not, that is a clear sign not to spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE with him. Love is only one part of a relationship. it is not even the most important part, so do not be fooled. the most important part is commitment. you see, love is not a feeling. it is a choice you make every, single day. it is trust, safety, humility, servitude, respect. if he doesnt respect you enough to take his ex off his fb even though he knows it bothers you, then he is not good husband material (just imagine when he doesn't respect you enough to do the dishes or take the kids to school). If you cant have male friends, then he obviously doesnt trust you. if you really want a future with him, if you can trust him, if he can learn to trust you, then i say talk to him about these things. if he loves you like he claims, he will do his best to make it work. if he is not showing effort, you can feel ok in telling him "relationships need commitment and trust. we dont have enough of that, so i do not see a future." it is true and it makes sense. I'll pray for you!
2007-10-31 11:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im still just a teen but how would u two get along for a long time if already ur not sure about it. If i was u id just try to move on and find someone that even when we're not so much in love anymore and we have problems, we can still work it out...
follow your heart but also think it trough...
2007-10-31 11:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he going to follow you to another country? if he loves you - let him prove it. there will be no ex's there. if not - you'll find somebody better. sometimes loosing a relationship is so hard.... you know, my ex also wanted me to come back but I didn't. I can't say my new relationship is perfect but.... you know, if you return, all old problems should be solved and forgiven. he wants you to return but does nothing. check him. ask him to marry you and move to another country with you. just for a check at least.
2007-10-31 11:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd sit him down and state the facts. Tell him how you feel. That you love him, but there is no way things will work if he can't trust you. Also, his lack of trust says to me he isn't to be trusted
2007-10-31 11:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by enyeto1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF HIM HE IS NO GOOD
2007-10-31 11:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋