my parents are so unfair!?

Question

Im 13 now and all my friends are allowed to stay out till 10pm I want to stay out till the same time so I can see my bf and friends,there parents are cool with it but mine say no u should stay out till 9pm it really annoys me how im not treated the same and Im not the tpye who gets into fights so how can I conice them Im not a little kid anymore and dont give me answers like ''do what your parents say'' I have and its the first time ive ever been populer so I really really want to stay out so what should i do?

im not some sort of slag me nd my bf havent even kissed yet

Answer 1

No, I think that's fair.

Answer 2

Honey, you're only 13, and all your parents see when they look at you is the little baby they held in their arms.
Personally, I think staying out till 9 is a pretty good deal. And you're only 13. I'm 18 and a half and my parents don't let me stay out past 8 (p.m), don't let me drive (that's maybe 'cause I'm so short), and won't even listen when I talk about bf's.
So consider yourself darn lucky when you say all the stuff you just did.
But if you really want, you could do something to prove to your parents that you're a responsible teenager and can be reliable. For example, you can do chores around the house (make sure your parents notice--but don't be TOO obvious), you can take care of little siblings (if you have any--pets work fine as well =) ), you can make good grades, and just be on their good side. If you're a really good talker (communicator) and your parents are good listeners, then get them to hear your case.

But maybe you should wait until you're 14 or 15 for later curfew. They would listen to you more.

Good luck. =)

Answer 3

Sorry but at 13 , and especially if it is a night before school I think 9 pm is quite generous
At weekends and so long as you are supervised then yes I would have no problems about 10 pm curfew,
What you really need to bear in mind is that there are many folks out there who would do you harm , for no reason what so ever . I fully accept you are not looking for trouble but that doesn't stop you from getting in to harms way .
I think your parents are showing proper responsibility in ensuring they know where you are and also to get you back home by a reasonable hour
When you have children of your own I am sure you will understand a bit better than you do just now

Answer 4

Keep pushing, and eventually they will let you stay out longer. But show them you are mature enough and don't pitch a fit about having to come home early, because the more you do that, the less they will think you are mature.

They are probably within the reasonable time limits that they think are correct. Some parents think earlier, some later. Your's just fall into the earlier category, and are doing the best they can.

Maybe you can earn an extra hour by offering to make a deal of doing extra chores. An extra hour of chores for an extra hour of staying out.

Answer 5

it doesnt seem fair, but take a step back and think about it. we are talking about an HOUR here... what are you really missing out on? also, as you get older youll realize that its not cool to be the last people at the party - the people with better/more things to do have already left. just keep that in mind.

in the meantime, do NOT whine and complain how unfair it is to your parents - that only makes you look immature. come up with a deal, and present it to your parents like a business deal. maybe if you can stay out til 9:30 and keep/ raise your grades, you can make the same deal for 10 the next semester. or, maybe you can pick a few special nights with friends - the nights when something GOOD is going on - and make a deal that if you do an hours worth of extra chores or something, would they let you stay out an extra hour on that particular night?

talk to your parents about why they dont want you to stay out. and i dont mean "whyyyyy its soooooo unfairrrr!!!!!" i mean, sit down and have an adult conversation. maybe they are worried your grades will fall, maybe they are worried you will get hurt. talk to them CALMLY about how you can ease their worries - maybe you can call them at 9:00 to say where you are and how you're getting home, etc.

start slow, and speak calmly. this is the sign of maturity - not pouting until you get your way. just talk to them.

Answer 6

Prove to your parents that you're responsible. Be home at 9pm or even a little earlier. Then after doing that for 10 nights or so, sit them down (not formal or anything, maybe at dinner) and ask them to consider allowing you to stay out later. Telling parents that its what "all of your friends are doing" is going to do the exact opposite of what you want. They were 13 once too, and while it was different then, they're using their experiences to raise you now. Show them how mature you really are now, prove to them that you're not a little kid. Earn their respect and trust.

Answer 7

I salute your mom and dad for doing that. At your age, you are looking for your own identity, having friends and going somewhere else you've always wanted. Comparing is also normal, I will never say you are wrong because all teeners experienced your situation. There are some cases that leads to rebellion but the loser will always be you . Saying your old enough doesn't mean you know evrything. How about danger outside?

Before your mom and dad became your parents, they pass through age of 13 also. They know how it feels to be 13 and maybe they were thinking also of what you are thinking now.

Don;t be judgemental, your parent might give you permits if the situation is good and out of danger. Be proud of them because they are responsible parents.

Time will come and you will be parent too, and you will realize what your parents are doing now.

remember me also when that time comes,,,,,,okey?

Answer 8

Awww you should kiss
but kiss when the time is right
look at his lips when your together
he'l the get the idea lol
Sorry thats not what you asked i'll look back

..dum de dum de dum.. Oh YES!
Lovvey i think your parents are just worried
its a horrible place out there sometimes and maybe there worried you might get stolen
nothing to do with having sex and kissing lol


:D
they know your gonna get older and do that stuff
so its deffo not that
just tell them that you want to go over your bfs house for a while
and then maybe they can pick you up from his house

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Answer 9

Don't give you answers like, "Do what your parents say"?

Are you kidding me? Your parents are NOT unfair, and because they're not unfair, you're probably a better overall kid than most, if not all, of your "friends".
You're too young for a "b/f", and, if you're "b/f" can't respect your parents requests without making you feel guilty, then he's not much of a "b/f".
It should NOT annoy you that you are not treated the same as your friends......BUT, rather, you should feel proud that your parents love you enough to worry about you enough to not want anything to happen to you....instead of being selfish, the way you are.
At 16, you can START trying to convince them that you're not a "little" kid any more....at 18, you can DEMAND that they don't treat you like a "little" kid any more.
Because you're not the type to get into fights, your parents probably worry even more about preying young boys, who'd like nothing better than to get into your pants. DO NOT fault them for that....you'll do the same when you have a daughter. Boys, for the majority, are walking hormones....with little regard for girls cares, wants, needs, etc. (You'll also find that not much changes when you become an adult)

Lastly, if popular is what you want to be, please be popular for the right reasons. Ask yourself, "If this is the first time I've ever been popular, why didn't they like me before?" Your "friends" at that age, are mostly self-serving, much like you have demonstrated here.....If you want to get to stay out later, you have to play it smart. Calmly bring to your parent's attention that your "b/f" gets to stay out til 10pm, your friends get to stay out til 10pm, how about meeting in the middle and giving you til 9:30pm for starters. Use chores or your grades as ammunition to get what you want. All parents want (the decent parents, anyway) is for their child(ren) to do good in school, stay out of trouble, and make the right choices....that's it. Show them that you're no dummy, and they should start to bend, IF you present your argument right.

Teenagers....sheeesh...in the words of Sebastian, "You give them an inch, and they swim all over you"

Answer 10

boyfriend at 13? wow..
hehe. Well, your parents are right. they obviously care about you more than other parents do about their own children.
I bet that you are still their little daughter in their minds. try thinking about what they must be feeling. put yourself in their shoes.

10pm.. its actually quite late. And my dear, i may sound like an old grandma for saying this but, you ARE a little kid. I'm only 14. And I'm just a little kid too. We have so much to learn and not listening to your parents who have been through it all will not help you learn.

There are other times when you can see your friends. I know its unfair not being able to stay out as long as some other people do but every parent has their reasons.

Now instead of me lecturing you, why don't you try inviting your boyfriend to your own house. There are lots of things you can do. Watch movies, have a water fight :)

Just think of other ways to have fun without having to go at so late. Relationships with people including your friends and your boyfriend arent just based on going out at night.

Answer 11

I know it's hard to believe but parents were children and teenagers at one time too. They are NOT being hard on you. They are just protecting and insulating you right now from certain aspects of life that you will be allowed to experience in due time.

It doesn't make it right just because "everyone" else is doing it. There is a lot more to be said about the person that leads the way instead of following the pack. I suspect your parents see you as a leader and not a follower.