Should a 10 year age difference stop a relationship?

Question

For the past 5 years, people i nmy family and people at my church have been saying I am going to marry a particular guy. I find it really weird because we are 10 years apart. The numerous people that tell me that I am going to marry him do not really communicate with each other. I just find it strange that people from numerous groups that I know say this. What am i suppose to think? He is 27 and im 17.... is there anything wrong if i do date him?

For the past 5 years, people i nmy family and people at my church have been saying I am going to marry a particular guy. I find it really weird because we are 10 years apart. The numerous people that tell me that I am going to marry him do not really communicate with each other. I just find it strange that people from numerous groups that I know say this. What am i suppose to think? He is 27 and im 17.... is there anything wrong if i do date him? I am not morman. I am non-denomination. People say this because we do have a bit in common and i am mature for my age.

Answer 1

Let me guess, small church, lots of pressure to marry within the church?

10 years is not an impossible difference, but there will be challenges if you are serious about each other. I might think you would want to date young men closer to your age.

Answer 2

Yeah, lots! He's almost thirty and you're just getting out of highschool, there is no common ground there at all. Do you have even a friendship with this guy? Is he interested in dating someone who can't even vote yet? Are you actually interested in him, or just bowing to thw weird and inappropriate statements of others. I mean, this would have started when you were 12 and he was 22, how sick is that? Not being funny, but are you guys Mormon or something? I only ask because I don't know any other group that encourages adults to date or marry 12 year olds (and the Mormons don't officially encourage it). Now if you were 34 and he was 44, people start evening out then, you'd have similar life experience and some common ground. For right now, enjoy becoming an adult, go to college and date young men your own age, have fun!

Answer 3

I think it's strange that at 17, people are concerned about who you're going to marry in the firat place. That said, a 10 yr difference isn't a big deal in the long run....but at your particular age it it. There is a big difference between a 25 yr old and 35 yr old dating as compared to a 17 yr old and 27 yr old. No offense, you are still a "child" even if you don't feel it, and will change a lot maturity wise, etc in the next few years. Next time someone mentions this, ask them "why are you trying to marry me off already? I'm just a teenager and have my whole life ahead of me to find the one I (stress on I) want to marry". P.s find it even more disturbing that people started saying this when you were only 12 and this dude was 22, it's 2007, not 1887, when this behavior would be common and acceptable.

Answer 4

The truth is that 10 years isn't a big deal after 21 but now he is way way too old for you - your lives are totally different right now and you have to wonder what a 27 year old would want with a 17 year old.
Stop thinking about this man, go to college, date some frat boys, guys in your dorm and members of the crew team and then in five years if this man is still single and you are still interested then try to date him.

Answer 5

That is a particular choice.My husband is 7 years older than me. The question here is, do you like him? without paying attention to what the other people say, do you see yourself marrying him?, if the answer is yes, then go for it. At the end, all what it counts is what you want and how you feel.
Maybe today you think you are too young for him but maybe next year you won't care. It is your choice, the people who doesn't know my husband is 7 years older than me think that we are the same age, but if you think that he was in 12th grade and I was in 5th, then it look like a big difference.
I do not think it is wrong if you date him, but only do it because you like him and not because everybody else think you two are meant for each other.
I wish you the best.=)

Answer 6

Nothing wrong if you date him (just be careful; older men sometimes make assumptions about much younger women).

From personal experience, I can tell you that the much older guy you date at 17 very possibly won't appeal to you when you are 20. So don't be in any hurry to get married (don't be in a hurry even if the guy is your age!).

Have fun and good luck!

Answer 7

If you were twenty years older, I would say there's no problem with a ten year difference (my last g/f was nine years older). But you're only seventeen, and you have little in common with a twenty-seven year old.

You're also about ten years too young to be thinking about marriage. Your teens and twenties are a time to have fun and learn about yourself. You're far too young to be burdened with a husband (or worse - a family).

I see nothing wrong with dating him, but don't get any illusions about anything long-term yet.

Answer 8

No thats fine, I was 17 when I started going out with my boyfriend who is ten years older we now have a son and have been together for years the age has never been a problem for us

Answer 9

That is a little weird for them all to be saying that when you're only 17. I'd think you would the one with the most say in it. Do you like him? If you do I'd still suggest waiting a couple years, finish school, college, get yourself settled into where you want to be in life before marriage. You're still so young!

Answer 10

I'm a 20 year old engaged to a 35 year old. My family loves him, and I love every day we spend together. However other people don't do well with age differences. Its cliche, but age is just a number. Get to know the man and try not to think about the pressure your family and church is giving you about marriage. See if YOU like him. If you can't forget the age or if you don't like him, he's not the guy for you. Good luck!