why do adults judge kids so much at there age when they like a boy??

Question

why do adults judge kids so much at there age when they like a boy??

Answer 1

Because you are a sl!t...oops am i judging you

Answer 2

Parents automatically want what's best for their kids. They can't help it - it's like a reflex or instinct with them. They try to put themselves in your position.

Some parents don't have the gift of transitioning this care into practice, though; they forget that you're not yet an adult. They may not realize that the boy is not fully grown, either, not in body nor mind nor ethics. So they assess this immature boy - someone who is still developing - by adult standards.

It doesn't seem fair, I know, but they have your best interests at heart. That's the "why" behind it. I'm glad you didn't ask what to do about it, because I got nothin' for that. It's a good conversation topic at the dinner table sometime, maybe.

Answer 3

That depends on what you mean by "like a boy". The problem adults see with many kids today is that most of them don't have any idea about "age appropriate behavior". There isn't any problem with liking a boy but too many children think that like is the same as love and that means sex is ok. Adults know the consequences of such actions where kids seem to believe that those consequences won't ever affect them. When they do then they want their parents to fix it for them.

Answer 4

I think they are more jealous and it just comes out as judgemental, you know? I know that the older I get the more I realize how many mistakes I've made in relationships in the past and I think that part of their reasoning is that they want to critisize you to protect you from the things they know you will have to go through that may or may not break your heart. But at the same time, I know that I look upon young love in envy because there is NOTHING in life that will ever feel like having a crush on a boy at a young age. You are on the right track honey. Take people's advice, but use your better judgement.

Answer 5

Your question makes no sense the way you wrote it. But I'm thinking your asking why do adults judge kids especially a boy when a girl likes a boy........is that what you are trying to say?

Ok, Im an adult and I remember alot of stuff when I was a kid, alot. Now I know this might not set well with you and you might not believe this, I probably wouldn't have either if an adult had said this to me when I was young. But you don't know me and I don't know you, right. I'm answering you to the best of my ability and want you to try to understand this about "adults".

First alot of adults that are parents seem to forget alot of the times what is was like and what they went through when they were kids, now that they've become a parent all that seems to fly out the window, which is a real shame.

Now this is going to be kind of hard to explain and you might think I'm kidding about this but I'm not. As people age and I mean year to year.........every day every year there's lots of new things that you learn about yourself and lots of new things you experience too.........all your life your changing, learning and experiencing new things about yourself about other people about everything. You may already have had this experience with something you used to play with but now you wouldn't dream of playing with it because you've grown out of it, right.

Ok back to the adults. Believe it or not there are somethings about everyone's personality and character that will probably never change as they grow older.....it's just who they are, it's something your born with.....you could call it genetics. Anyway adults can pick this up in kids, good things bad things, whatever. They can see things in a kid that you can't because you don't know about it yet, you haven't lived long enough to experience things that adults have.

Anyway if you are a girl your parents will probably be very protective of you and "boys". And I know how that can make you feel. But they just want to protect you, I don't think any parent really wants to see there child grow up. Parents don't really have alot of time with there kids. I know you think that it's probably taking forever to grow up, but when you get to be a certain age....and this happens to everyone. Time starts to fly by. So 18 years of raising a child and to let him or her go is not alot of time before there out in the world living there own life. So it can be hard for a parent or parents to watch as there child is growing up and not too long will eventually have to let them go.
But yeah know what......your parents have to go through this stuff for the first time with you too, so they might not be handling it to great either. But you have to hang in there with them just the same. They too are learning and may not always do or say the right thing, but eventually it will all work out in the end.
By the way, even though sometimes you might not think this way but trust me your a very lucky kid to have parents that care this much about you. Just think if you didn't have parents that cared. It wouldn't be good, believe it!

Answer 6

Adults are afraid of creating through acts or lack of acting in creating the next Jeffrey Dahmer or Manson. We (adults) are judged ourselves by our peers in what our child do or become. We therefore, pass that potential judgement on to our children. It not nothing against them, not personal, just survival. The best thing to do to prevent this, is to start judging yourself through your actions and follow what would be best for you. That sucks, I know... you'll be grown in no time, then you'll miss these days.

Answer 7

Because adults have your best interests at heart, even if they always dont go about it in the right way, they have the best of intentions. They love you and they dont want you to make any mistakes, they have been down that road before and they just want to protect you.

Answer 8

because they have been thru it and they know what dangers and hurts are out there...and some really dont remember what its like to be young. u'll understand when u become a parent. just try to remember what u felt like at this age so u dont do the same to ur kids. we can only protect our kids for so long and sometimes we might inadvertantly go a little overboard. i hope i can be sympathetic when mine reach this stage in their life.

Answer 9

Are you talking about Chris Hansen, the Catch a Predator guy, who occasionally catches adults who like a boy (that they met online)?

Otherwise, do you want to rephrase that question so mere mortals can understand it?

Answer 10

Adults aren't "judging" you - they have the benefit of experience, so they see things differently. What is an all-consuming passion to you now will seem like a silly crush to you a few years from now, when your heart's capacity to love and your experience of romance has increased dramatically.

Answer 11

By the way you phrase your question, you are too young for a serious relationship. Just keep it nice and simple for now and when you are adult you will understand.