Is it bad to kick her out...
After all it is your wedding, and I want my husband thinking about me, and not lusting after her!!
2007-10-31 10:05:27 · 46 answers · asked by Green Tea Happy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
By the way I am not getting married. If I do it won't be for a few years. I am just having a hypothetical question.
2007-10-31 10:06:27 · update #1
By the way I am not getting married. If I do it won't be for a few years. I am just having a hypothetical question.
2007-10-31 10:06:29 · update #2
If it bothers you, ask her to change. Dont kick her unless shes being a ***** about it.
2007-10-31 10:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your question is not as weird as it may sound to some. More and more people just don't seem to have any taste these days regarding what they wear to formal occasions.
If it's something you feel that strongly about, I recommend that you go over your wedding guest list with a fine tooth comb and avoid inviting people that you don't think understand what appropriate wedding attire is.
If you are getting married in a church, I don't know why you couldn't include some sort of language on your invitation such as "appropriate attire required" followed by a link to a website that stated the church's policy on modest dress. I heard a story not too long ago about a priest actually refusing to marry a bride until she covered herself up more--in this case the bride was too sl*tty!
The only other thing I could think of that you could do is have a collection of cheap ugly shawls and wraps in an alcove near the back of the church and someone assigned to distribute them to anyone not dressed modestly. Chances are they would take the hint and leave at that point and you wouldn't have to actually resort to "kicking them out"! I suppose you could also instruct the ushers to seat folks like that way in the back (maybe behind somebody tall or a lady with bouffant hair or a big hat?) lol
Unless somebody was truly trying to call attention to herself at the wedding out of complete spite or lack of decency, there's not much chance of anyone out-shining you on your special day. And unless your husband is a complete lecherous cad, he will only have eyes for you! If hypothetically you chose to marry someone with that much of a wandering eye, your wedding day will only be the beginning of your problems!!
2007-10-31 10:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be poor taste for her to dress that way, but it would also be poor taste to kick out someone you invited (the exception being a lousy drunk with an open bar). Chances are, depending on how big your wedding is, you may hardly notice her at all anyway.
If it really does end up bothering you that much, try to have someone else (member of the wedding party, or maybe someone she came with or is sitting with) gently mention something to her. Maybe ask her to put on a little something because she's hanging out a little too much.
Worse comes to worse, have someone tell her she's offending the grandmother of the bride or something. Anyone with any kind of class at all can't argue with that.
2007-10-31 10:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by LuckyLola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed. I would probably not kick her out. But I would make it obvious that I was NOT happy with her. Its your wedding day.. you should be the one everyone is looking at not her. I agree with having it included in the invitations if your worried. But hopefully the people you'd have there would have more class then that. Plus any man thats lusting after anyone but you isn't worth marrying anyway.
2007-10-31 10:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by KittieKatten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit more mature than that, if you are getting married your husbands eyes will be on you, he won't be lusting after anyone else, regardless of what they are wearing. And I would hope your friends would have more respect for you than to dress like a slapper at your wedding. If not then you need to re-think your friends.
2007-11-01 01:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all If its your wedding your husband should not be lusting over another woman and yes its rude to kick her out of your wedding. Its your wedding let it pass its only one day and let people wear what they want. People will be calling her a skank and not you so I dont think you should worry too much about it. If its your wedding I think the bride is already under so much stress thats the last thing she should be worrying about.
2007-10-31 10:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by The girl next door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man I married was lusting after another woman on our wedding day, no matter how slutty she was dressed. It wouldnt be her I'd be kicking out but him. If he cant keep his eyes of another woman on our wedding day, it doesnt bode well for our future together, and he will probably cheat.
So off with him.
2007-10-31 10:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had a problem like that at her wedding 2 years ago. One of her husband's colleagues was dressed inappropriately (this was a church wedding!). One of our close friends who was known to be tactful wanted to talk to the lady (sic), we all knew each other anyway so it wouldn't be so "out of the blue" if she did that. Another close friend advised her not to, since she would be putting that lady in an embarrassing situation. So no one from my group (the bride's friends) said anything. We saw her at the reception with a shawl... someone must have told her that she was dressed inappropriately en route to the reception venue.
2007-11-01 17:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by doktorangbaliw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are my 5 suggestions:
1) Set a dress code or make it a Black tie wedding
2) Get married in Winter as its cold then and people are less likely to wear boob tubes or mini skirts!
3) State on the invitation "Dress appropriately"
4) Dont marry a man who is going to be looking at other women!
5)Dont invite a slut to your wedding!
2007-10-31 14:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a women dresses slutty, that's her problem. She's the one that has to walk around that way.
If you are worried you NEW husband would be "lusting" over her.........you should not be marrying him. If anything, he should say something like, " can you believe so and so wore that dress. I don't care, she looks trashy. But, can you imagine what my grandmother will say when she see her. What a fool for dressing that way." and then laugh about her.
2007-10-31 10:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by J'adore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you don't kick someone out for showing bad taste unless they are drunk and being disorderly. Dressing like a tramp is just a personality problem on her side. If you have even one half of one percent belief that your husband could lust over a scantily clad woman on your wedding day then CALL IT OFF right away.
2007-10-31 10:08:54 · answer #11 · answered by CB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋