We both still love eachother, but he had to end it because I treated him terribly. I was extremely jealous and selfish...I know that is not how love is "supposed to be. He told me he loved me a while ago ( I told him I didn't believe him at one point and he says that broke him), and in time he thought i never would, but I did. He was everything to me. I went through his things Sunday morning after I promised him for the millionth time that I would start to respect him. I found an online journal entry from a long time ago about a girl he use to like.So he woke up to my wrath.I tried to go to sleep after I read the entry but could not.I was so miserable after that I packed my bags and left college ( i am going to go back now). I visited him (i had to beg) this week and he says he cannot give me another chance, I have hurt him too much. He won't talk to me in order to "get over me", after that we will be friends. Do we have a chance if I can show him I really can respect him?
2007-10-31 09:29:14 · 8 answers · asked by Stephanie L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no. you do not have a chance because he cannot trust you. you are manipulative and controlling.
who in their right mind would want to be with you?
2007-10-31 09:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't promise you'll get him back, but this will make your life better no matter what.
I had a similar problem, and eventually it ended my relationship. She had lots of online journals, a whole mess of screen names, and (I felt) an online identity that wasn't really her. I snooped, I got upset when I found things, and it just wasn't good. When it ended, it hurt a lot to see her all over the Internet. So I just stopped. I got a new AIM screen name, I terminated my LiveJournal, I took her and her friends off Facebook, and I never went onto MySpace ever again. I have a little list of websites I don't ever look at, and it's given me a sense of self-control that I wish I'd had earlier.
We all have little stories that our lovers would hurt to hear, even though they're meaningless to us. We all have those old crushes that went away, those weird dreams we can't explain, those friendships that seem too close. We all have these things, you know? Even though they're harmless to us, we know our lovers wouldn't like them, and so we hold back. And when our lovers sneak around and find them, we're faced with the very thing we wanted to avoid: hurt feelings.
Give him a little time to just think this through. It's not an easy thing to do, and I know how sick you must be feeling right now. But give it a shot. If you can go to him later and say you quit cold turkey, it just might do the trick. Best wishes, and good luck.
2007-10-31 16:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by highball116 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships cannot exist without trust, and your jealousy proved to him that you didn't trust him. Since you have asked several times and he has told you no, there is no second chance, it's time for you to move on. Perhaps in time, if he still loves you and hasn't gotten over you, you can be together again, but as it stands now, you need to put this behind you and move on.
2007-10-31 16:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u dont trust him! and u should trust the person ur with becuase u cant be together 24/7 and going though someones stuff is horible just give him time and give yourself time. keep ur mind bussy even go out with a few guys(it will keep ur mind of him just dont do anything with them) study harder keep ur mind off him and remember what u learned from this relationship and dont do it in the next one but also i dont think its all ur folt cause he's not perfect either just relex have fun dont get into any relationships for a while instead have time to urself and date!
2007-10-31 16:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by lalcutiepie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time
2007-10-31 16:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes,... but keep reading.
By listening & respecting his wishes you're showing him HOW much you care for him.
Don't text, email, message, call, drop by.. etc...
Give it time..
After a while (meaning more than a week) maybe contact and let him know that giving him this space is hard but you love him that much (you care for him that much -whatever you feel comfortable in saying) that you'll do it.
Even if it means that you may loose him.
Trust me..... he'll respect you for it.
Been there.
2007-10-31 16:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by No stalkers allowed 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, sorry. If somebody treated you the way you treated him, would you really want to be around them? You did him a favor, and now he can find somebody that really does respect him.
2007-10-31 16:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Becca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do have a chance!
I was like you once.... i went through his stuff...was mean... treated him like crap...well now alot of arguements later....we have been together 3 yrs.. and are now engaged and suppsed to get married next month...give him time... talk to him...try to work things out....
good luck.... i know you painful it will b
2007-10-31 16:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋