like when do you know that you are off limits in showing love and affection to others and you are just pain in the .....? How can you have a balance?
2007-10-31 09:28:38 · 3 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Clingyness is subjective to a point. Some people like physical contact more than others (i.e. holding hands, putting you arm around her waist., etc). Some like to be told, "I love you," more than others.
It's good that you want to be in tune with other people's boundaries. I would recommend "listening" to body language. If you put your arm around her waist and she flinches or pulls away some then take your arm back. It's the same with holding hands and saying, "I love you.", and so on.
Try not to get your feelings hurt. It's not that they don't love you or that they don't care. Everyone is different and among those differences is what we do and don't feel comfortable with. It will take a little time but you will find a balance.
2007-10-31 09:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by amy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clingy would be calling them all the time, asking them who they were with and where and for how long, not being able to do anything without them, and wanting to spend every free moment with the other person.
Relationships are about balance. If both of you agree that you should spend a lot of time together, you're fine. But it's healthy to have time apart and to spend time with other people, and you should never make your partner feel guilty for wanting that.
When in doubt, ask. Discuss it with your partner. Come to an agreement.
2007-10-31 16:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When the other person tells you you are being clingy. When the other person flinches when you go to touch them. Balance--hug them when you first see them and again when they leave.
2007-10-31 16:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by shellshell 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋