I am losing hope. I've become completely depressed. I don't know what to do anymore.We were only together 4 mo
Should he and I get back together? He said that he is not violent.That he would never hit me.?
Where did I go wrong?
Oh No!!!! He is dating someone else!!He told me that I am the reason he acted this way! Will he treat her nice
Abuse? What did I do wrong.I'm depressed again?
Was he on his way to being abusive to me?We broke up three weeks ago. Why am I sad that he's gone?Am I paranoi
I met a man online in June 20 of this year. Everything was very pleasant in the begining.Then these things happened:
1:He made fun of a past relationship of mine that was abusive. He said "All Robert had to do was slap you around to get you to marry him!"
2:He got angry because I wanted to go home and punched his wall.He yelled at me and said"Look at what you made me do!"
3:After two months he wanted me to move away from my aunts house and move to the city he's in. We only live 30 min apart.He said that he would rent a car and help me move my things.He started looking at apartments in his city for me.
3:We were arguing and he told me that I was acting like a" f***ing c**t."
4:He came over and when he seen my aunts home he said" Gosh!How cold you live here?This place is depressing!" "Gosh! Look at your room! How depressing."
5:Another time I wanted to go home.He yelled at me all the way to the bus stop.Once we got there he started shoving my shoulder saying DONT LEAVE!!
13 hours ago - 1 week left to answer.
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He said that he has never behaved that way before.Then said he would get frustated when I would drink.I told him that he acted that way even when I wasnt drinking.
2007-10-31 08:57:01 · 15 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dangerous?? this is beyond dangerous dear... he promises not to be abusive and yet youd trust what he says?? would you trust a child molester who said hed never hurt another child??
HELL NO!! and dont trust this man..
sweetie let me tell you something.. the abusive man i was with and told some about..what he did?? was a kindergarten to 3rd..grade TEACHER!! he swore he didnt understand why he slapped me..hes never done this before and will never do it again.. then he swore he didnt know what got into him when he pulled my hair out and beat me so bad i had 7 stitches from being kicked in the mouth with steel toed boots., hairline fracture on left shoulder blade..then of course he had some tears and hugged me ..said...if you wouldnt of provoked me... if you wouldnt have said that wrong.. if you wouldnt of done this or that..
i was feeling just like you!!.. i couldnt figure out what i did wrong and thought id change everything he didnt like about me and hed never abuse me again..
well sweetie???I COULDNT CHANGE IT FAST ENOUGH..THERE WAS ALWAYS AND WILL ALWAYS BE SOMETHING.. I DID...LIKE YOUSEEM TO THINK YOU DID.
sweetie this is all part of the game to them..its called controlling.. and after awhile our brains are like computers..we believe what they say.. we get afraid to go out into public.. asham,ed of the cuts brusies stitches..and all the while explaining when someone asks..that oo we fell.. ooo he didnt mean to..etc..
this is what they want
ok im just going to say this to you and pray you seriously listen... doesnt matter what we say to you.. your not going to listen.. until maybe its too late.. and maybe one of these days well get online and look for more answers and questions from YOU..and see nothing...and later tofind out this piece of chit for a man killed you!!
and this is what he is POSSIBLY going to do to you
so please cakll the womens abuse hotline and just listen to them ok?? its totally confidential and they can an will help you
please stay away from this man.. its the same scenerio and me and alot of other women and girls have gone through
i know you have feelings for him and want to be with him.. but please stay away from him.. pretty soon the hurt etc will go away and youll see it was good you didnt go back to him...
i dont know what else to say to help ya sweetie.. but please..talk to your famuily..friends..close friends..the womens hotline for abuse...
how old are you???
and whether your drinking or not it doesnt matter..abuse is abuse!! and hes no good...
2007-10-31 11:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by bettym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you didn't go wrong but in the right direction. Applaud yourself for leaving and knowing that you deserve better! If he cared for you at all he would never mistreat you in anyway that would make you feel less of a woman or person. It's apparent that he has some personal issues that does not involve you but chose to take it out on you. Hopefully, you will look back on this relationship as a "What Not Type Of Guy To Date". There's a whole lot of good guys out there you just have to know how to spot them. Don't be depressed, be happy that you love you and want better for you!
2007-10-31 16:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy Starr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, there will be plenty of others. You are not yet ready for a relationship, and neither is he. Concentrate on what you need to do to get ahead in this life, like find a good job, developing some economic independence, or finishing school. You have to develop as an individual before you can develop a meaningful relationship with someone.
2007-10-31 16:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by poet1b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a controlling abuser, yes you made him do that, which is the first sign, second move you away from family, third the name calling, ridicule you to take away your confidence, your place is depressing. All mind games, run, do not walk run away from this person. Last is the hitting, followed by the I am so sorry, and act sooo sweet, then it happens again.
2007-10-31 16:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Pengy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMFG! If you have to ask then yes, it is dangerous. Recognize the problem... it's him. Don't be naive and take the dude back. RUN! 4 months is a scratch in time in your life. There are more things in life to worry about than a bad relationship.
2007-10-31 16:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek professional help in this matter. yahoo answers probably isnt the place to get the best information-- we can only tell you so much.
find some friends to hang out with for awhile; don't give this guy a reason to be around you. discuss the situation with them and then make a decision from there
2007-10-31 16:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by slacker0143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does this sound dangerous? Heck yeah. The guy's abusive, controlling, manipulative, and a time bomb. RUN.
2007-10-31 16:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by 1selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like some piece of work. Actually his behaviour makes me scared for your safety.
2007-10-31 16:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
so the question is is this guy danergous...i think you know the answer to that. stay away from him. he sounds like a dependant freak.
2007-10-31 16:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are MUCH better-off without that loser!
Stay away from him! He's no good for you baby!
You deserve much better than that!
Hugz,
~Andy
2007-10-31 16:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by andybosik 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋