My mom did receive a little bit of child support but not much. He owes a ton, not sure how much and my mom has always told me that she was scared for her life to go after him for it. Is there any way possible for me to go after my dad for this money and to keep my mom out of it. Of course it would go to her. Not sure how to do this without including her... you know?
2007-10-31 08:53:35 · 19 answers · asked by ashley_m_conner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am 21 and she did try to go after him for the money but got no where with it because we couldn't find him for a while. She didn't have any support from the government either.
2007-10-31 09:03:25 · update #1
The reason the money means something to me is because I know that my mother deserves it. She worked hard all those years without once asking the government or anyone else for help to raise bother of her children. He married my mom and when he found out she was pregnant he beat the living crap out of her. She deserves something for having to go through that. I don't give a rats *** about the money or the dead beat dad. It would all be for her.
2007-10-31 09:38:48 · update #2
There are ways to collect. Mostly it depends on the state in which you live. Call the Division of Children and Families in your county. That might be a good start, but Mom will have to get involved. Best of luck, please be respectful of your mom's feelings.
2007-10-31 08:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was a child support order from the court and he's way behind you can go after him if your 18. The District Attorney wiould be glad to help you recieve the much needed $$$$.
There is also a private agency (I can't recally the name) that will help you & moms get the $$owed, and they remain the go-between. They collect they money and keep a ?% for the time and money it takes to hunt a dead-beat dad down! I hope this helps.
2007-10-31 09:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Carol (Yeah I said it!) G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to separate this out. Child support and alimony are two entirely different things. Yes, the mother should receive child support payments to look after the kids. Alimony, however, is quite a different matter. If the reason the woman is unable to work is because she has to stay at home to look after young, pre-school children, then OK (for a while), but once those children are a little older then I don't think she has any excuse not to get a job. Alimony should only be awarded for a limited time and only in cases where it's impossible for the woman to work because of childcare commitments. I'm a single mother BTW - I don't take any alimony from my ex and he very rarely pays anything for child support. I work two jobs to look after us - does that make me a strong and independent woman?
2016-05-26 05:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't work that way. The support goes to the parent, not the child. It is FOR the child but cannot go to them directly. I have no idea how this is handled after the time of childhood has passed, you could see if you could get a free few minutes with a lawyer and ask that specific question, but I think it's too late now to get money.
2007-10-31 09:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be able to contact the Child Support Enforcement Division in your state. You can call on your mother's behalf, and if he has a pending child support obligation, they may be able to go after him for it. It is simply enforcement, but if nobody says anything, then he may just slip by in the system.
Also, even if he is not working, CSED can "impute" a wage to him. That means, they can assign a wage to him, based on his qualifications, or some other statutory minimum allowed for child support. In some states it is as low as $50/month. But, it adds up quickly!
Just remember, your mother may be happier knowing that she is raising you all by herself. My mom raised three children without the financial help of my dad and we are better off for it. There was no fighting and very little contact.
2007-10-31 08:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by happymama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow......it depend if your still a manor your mom needs to take care of this ASAP.....before its too late. if your mom receiving child support cz she have a child support *ORDER* then she just need to contact the child support agency and ask for increased of support(then they will have a hearing again).....if ever your dad owe money from that agency (thats considered back support) no matter what he needs to pay that amount(plus the interest) ONLY if your mom has a CASE from the child support agency.....but if your mom receiving support from your dad but its UNDER THE TABLE means the money goes straight to your mom WITHOUT ANY COURT ORDER....well thats different story..
but right now if your NOT manor any more...there's no way that u could file for child support.....
let me give u the child support agency# 323-890-9800
(800) 615–8858 (local toll and CA) for more assistant.
good luck
2007-10-31 09:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on state laws but most places allowed the children to seek unpaid child support until a certain age. Adult children receive the money. Contact your local child support office for info.
2007-10-31 08:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother didn't go after the support for her safety and yours - it is better if you didn't go after the support for her safety and yours as well. If you want to help her out - get a part time job and give her some money. That way, she won't have the fear that your dad is going to come after her while she is sleeping at night!
2007-10-31 08:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by Dina K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the child can sue for back child support in California, but only up to the age of 19.
Call your county's district attorney's office. They should have a department for child support and tracking down deadbeat parents.
2007-10-31 08:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by holey moley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Yes, the money is owed to you by him... not your mother... you.
2. If she has been unsuccessful, I doubt you'll find any more luck. Can't get blood from a stone.
3. It might be better to just let it go for closure's sake...
2007-10-31 09:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Bryan~ Unapologetic Conservative 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋