Why does a friend of a friend keep trying to get me to come out of the closet?

Question

A friend of a friend keeps asking if I am gay over and over again. I keep telling her no I am not gay but she won't let up. Is she just a lowsy flirt or is she doing it out of spite? I don't flirt because I have had several prophecies saying God has a wife for me and so I am just waiting for her to show up. She is going to have to come to me. I want to tell this girl that but she is so damn malicious. I don't even like guys so where does she get off asking me that question over and over again?

Answer 1

In my opinion, there are two likely possibilities.

1: She's curious, and she doesn't understand your behavior. If she hasn't known you to have a girlfriend, go out on dates, or communicate attraction toward or about a woman, she might just be confused. The information you've given her hasn't seemed to satisfy her curiousity, so she keeps asking, hoping, this time, you'll help her make sense of what she can't on her own.

2: There is a possibility she could be interested in dating you, but afraid to flirt or ask you out because she fears embarassment or rejection. So, she asks you, again and again, hoping, this time, you'll help ease her fears or put her out of her misery of hoping for what could not be.

In either case, I think it's wise you share your thoughts and feelings with your friend, as that truly seems to be what she's asking of you. If you don't share with her, she'll continue to ask, and you'll continue to feel negatively toward her, and your relationship will suffer until it dies. Save your friendship. Tell her.

peace

Answer 2

She's trying to push you to "prove that your not." Well, after making a mistake or two - I decided that I was not going to kiss another man until I married. I went to bible college where the rumor had it that I was gay and/or had issues with intimacy with men. Rumor had it that I was incapable of a relationship. I waited until age 30 and God did send the right man my way. This kind of thing is baiting you to do something that your conscience is telling you not to. Believe me it's not worth it. She only wishes she had developed a strong conscience and morals in her life to guide her. You're going to have to forgive her and let it go. She's baiting you and that's not fair. She may be a lousy flirt but really - you want to find a woman where she's going to respect someone who has moral scruples. Most people at your age have no idea what it takes for a marriage to survive and believe me it's not the kissing and the sex. The things your waiting for are well worth it. They are the by product of a strong relationship - not the basis for one. There are women who will respect you for this - you just have to go to the right places such as church groups or you will meet her while serving the Lord. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto you.

Answer 3

Maybe she's convinced that you are gay or maybe this is her way of flirting with you.

Either way, do you want a woman who is "malicious?" This doesn't sound like a good prospect at all.

I would suggest telling the original friend that his/her friend is acting inappropriately around you. Also, have a chat with this woman and tell her that you don't like what she's asking or saying to you.

Answer 4

Put her back on her heels, ask her why she keeps asking? You do not need to be offensive in doing so, just be firm. Remember. there is no need for you to be defensive, weather you are gay or straight is none of her business. Especially if she is not your friend.

Answer 5

Well, this woman is just interested in a three some.
Forget gay you know who you are.
Also God has not got a wife for you, you want a wife you find her?

Answer 6

Maybe she likes you and is trying to make herself feel better, The old "He's not into me so he must be gay.." approch.

Answer 7

Maybe you should just not have her as a friend.