My ex is still my friend. We occasionally hang out and keep it strictly platonic. We flirted a little too much one night but overall we are JUST FRIENDS. However, he now has a girlfriend and she is aware of our friendship though I never told her and I have never been around him when she is there. Mainly because she lives out of town from us. Lately, she seems like she is trying to create a friendship with me and she recently invited me to his surprise birthday party. I told her I couldn't make it but I'm choosing not to go because I feel like her friendship attempts are not sincere. I think she is using that old cliche': KEEP YOUR FRIENDS CLOSE AND ENEMIES CLOSER. I don't consider her an enemy but I don't really feel comfortable with being her buddy either. Especially since you can tell her boyfriend (my friend) still kinda likes me. I believe it is just inviting drama. Basically, should I even go to the party and what do her intentions sound like to you all?
2007-10-31 08:31:15 · 7 answers · asked by ALeoStar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are smart and you are right. Being her friend's friend (ur ex) can pose enough trouble, unless she is superhuman. She dont wanna be your friend, she wants to find out what the two of you are up to. Don't go to the party but send a card, she'll throe it out any way.
If she is sincere, you should find out more about her before you become her friend.
2007-10-31 08:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by jlove26j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go to the party. It's not for her, it's for him - and you're still friends, right? Would you want him coming to a birthday party of yours?
She's probably befriending you to either find out where you guys went wrong (so she doesn't make the same mistake), to find out more details about him without asking him directly, and, yes, to make sure you're not a threat. But if you're still friends with him, that makes you her friend as well. Don't be BFFs, but there's no harm in being nice to her, no matter what her intentions are.
2007-10-31 15:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like keep your friends close...
But that being said maybe she is trying to stop feeling so insecure about his friendship with you by getting to know you.
It could be a real attempt at making things work for everyone involved.
2007-10-31 15:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by courtneylorraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think you should go to the party. I also think that you should try to be her friend no matter what her intentions are because what if you're friend gets married to her? I mean if you don't become friends with her say goodbye to your friend.
2007-10-31 15:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by Chelsea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your friend's birthday party and you want to go, go. If you don't want to go, don't go. Don't worry about what she thinks. You know what the truth is. And you are under no obligation to become friends with her.
2007-10-31 15:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Bizzybizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she has seen that you and your ex get on well, as friends, and that you wouldnt have a problem being her friend too... sounds more like you dont want her round when with HER bf so u can flirt a bit...i think you still like him and are jelous of their relationship.. its all in your head.... grow up and move on!!
2007-10-31 15:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Yeah...she is just trying to keep you close so she can keep an eye on you.
2007-10-31 15:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋