I am 23 years old and have been single for almost a year. I would like just to meet someone, but everyone I seem to meet has something going on with them negatively. I am going to school to be an RN, I'm out going, funny at times, artistic, love dogs, etc. etc. I'm told I'm pretty, so I guess I may be. What is up???
2007-10-31 08:04:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also do not have children, so no baggage :) The ex cheated on me, so I don't have commitment issues, either. Guys really just confuse me I guess.
2007-10-31 08:20:49 · update #1
I had the same issues at your age as well. I am an RN also and I think there is something inside of us that attracts people with problems. I just think that the mid twenties is a tough time for a lot of people. Maybe try an older guy. Being divorced shouldn't be an issue. Hang in there and don't get discouraged. Stop looking for a mister right and have some fun. He will turn up when you are not looking.
2007-10-31 08:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by jhorn1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 25 when I got divorced-no kids. First of all, yes, the dating scene does suck because there are alot of people out there using it to "get their jollies". The cold hard truth is that you really have to be careful. You have to start protecting yourself by giving yourself more credit. If someone has an issue with you being divorced, think about what you're doing to make it seem so bad. Its OK to say, yeah, I'm divorced, he cheated, we had no children, BUT NOW I'm on with my life. Leave it at that. You'll be amazed at how this becomes easy to do after a few times...you'll even begin to believe it yourself. The last thing guys want to hear about is exes anyway, so you have turned a negative into a positive.
Second, its OK to be honest and let a guy know what you want or expect. They cannot read our minds anymore than we can read theirs. HOWEVER, this is vital in running off jerks. If you are sure of what you want, and make it a precedent, a good guy will respect you are in control of your future and won't take less. A bad guy will just say hey, there's no action here and move on.
Finally, If people are telling you that you are pretty, they probably are not lying, BUT the most important thing is DO YOU BELIEVE YOU ARE? I don't care if you look like Frankenstein, if you believe that you are pretty (looks or personality), it projects to others. Besides, the man of your dreams loves you for what's on the inside more than he does what's on the outside. You need to tell yourself about the good qualities you have and how much someone is going to appreciate those things; not constantly ask yourself, hey what's wrong with me and compare yourself to others. Trust me, its not you, its them! I wouldn't preach to you if I had not been there myself. I wish I'd had someone to tell me these things after my divorce. Just remember to love yourself and take care of yourself first...the rest will come along in time. And it will probably be extremely lonely at times. Surround yourself with friends and family when this happens; a good cure for this is dating frineds. Seriously, if you date to find and keep friends, there's no telling how many great people you'll run into. Heck one of them may be, or will introduce you to Mr. Right! My best friend belly-ached over the same things for years. She was almost 34 when she finally realized Mr Right was her best friend. She's almost 40 now and is planning to add another baby to the 3 they have! So, you have LOTS of time. (UR STILL A BABY!) DO NOT push yourself, or settle for just anyone, or you'll end up with another ex-husband.
Some awesome guy that doesn't give a damn about what you've been through before is going to see you for you and love you for there real you, but you have to be satisfied with you before he can.
2007-10-31 16:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no kids,
then I would-not hold it against you
unless the divorce was due to you
being a cheater.
If you have kids, then I'm not interested,
because women with kids give most of their
energy and attention to their kids.
Which is as it should be!
However, by the time you spend 40hours or
more at work, spend most of your remaining
time and energy on taking care of your
personal errands and your kids, how much
time and energy will you have left-over to devote
to your relationship with me?
In my experience, NOT MUCH!
I've tried dating women with kids, and I am not
willing to get the leftovers of my woman's time
and energy. It's enough of a challenge developing
a relationship when there are no kids involved.
So unless the guy is very much ready for kids,
I think that most guys don't want to date a woman with kids.
2007-10-31 15:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by andybosik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your approaching it the wrong way, or the guys may think that your gonna drag a bunch of ex-husband drama into a relationship even if its just a friendship?? but hmm sounds like you got stuff goin for ya, sounds like id be interested lol, oh and one more thing, have a bit more confidence... dont just think your pretty, if your told your pretty you must be.. unless people r lying to u, but that would just be cruel...
2007-10-31 15:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people your age have never been married, so they are looking for the same. The average person now a days doesn't marry until around 25 anyway. Give it a few years, and your prospects should change.
2007-10-31 15:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be scared of you just because you are divorced, that's silly....I would be scared if you were a psycho or something
2007-10-31 15:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by ADM™ is back! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck id do ya,,,,,,
2007-10-31 15:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by reddbbird92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋