and depressed 25 plus years. It is hard to keep living..problems come in droves instead of singly..is god mad at me..people say you are so unlucky I never saw anyone like it..you always have problems..and do you think God is trying to tell you something..if so what..why can't I learn it ..am I so bad I must duffer so much..hundreds have told me I am nice, sweet, and have a heart of gold ..I have done so much for so many...yet I have pretty much no one there for me..I fought suicidal ideation for 15 years every day (due to the SSRI drugs I later found out)..I don't want to go back there..is it due to the law of attraction..I worry all the time and say I am depressed..I sometimes hate for so many have hurt me...any I attracting this bad stuff..how can I stop..I try to think positive but I am in such bad habits as my son said I worry continually more than anyone he knows and talk very negatively and I need to trust God more...why am I screwing it up...please help me..as I have noone to
2007-10-31 07:22:45 · 14 answers · asked by janie 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
to talk to but the kind people on the computers at this web site...what am I fdoing wrong..how much does God think I can endure..I am too strong to kill myself and too weak to kill myself if that makes sense...may God give me answers through you as I am so tired of living when it is so rarely good.
2007-10-31 07:23:04 · update #1
I am 57 years old BTW
2007-10-31 07:24:12 · update #2
this kline above should have said am I attracting...not any I attracting this bad stuff..how can I stop
2007-10-31 07:25:40 · update #3
sorry about typos that should be things not thongs...please give me a decent answer someone as I am crying a lot right now and looking for some genuine advise and help..
2007-10-31 07:32:48 · update #4
I am seeing a therapist..I never took drugs in my lie and am a teetotaler as far as alcohol and I help people all the time. Even my landlady told me today, you are always busy and on the go with a full life
2007-10-31 07:34:46 · update #5
Hi honey I have been suffering for depression for 23 years and I understand what your saying. I honestly can't tell you that your doing something to attract any kind of bad luck. It may be that you, like me, just over analyze things. I mean bad things happen to everyone and yes some people it is worse than others but its all in how you deal with it. I have no words of wisdom to help you change. Just an ear to be there when you feel its been too much. I don't want ot be on meds either and that causes problems cuz then the Dr.s don't want to listen to you but they should have to cuz with someone to tell your problems too it makes it easier to deal with them. If you evr feel you need to talk to someone who knows how it feels go to my profile and IM or email me. Good luck
2007-10-31 07:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have all the answers to everything and sometimes I might feel the same as you do. I guess we all do at times. We just have to keep on doing the very best that we can. Read the book of Job in the Bible. Job was a man of God and a good man. But he was being tested by satan. God allowed satan to test Job by putting him through such horrors as even losing his whole Family. But Job never turned his Faith away from God and then finally God blessed Job many times over. One never knows when they are being tested. Always keep your faith in God and wait on him to make your life better. In the meantime pray, meet people that go to church that can inspire you about God. Again pray. Then it is ok to also seek out a good Doctor since you might be very depressed since you have been through so much hardship. Look for positive people to be friends with and find a good Doctor that can help you deal with all these hard things that are going on in your life. You might need some anti depressants? I really hope that you will be ok. I think you will be ok with some time. smile ,God Bless You Always.
2007-10-31 23:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever been to a specialist who can help you?
and remember there is no such thing as bad luck, of course **** can happen, and it can happen a lot, but behind every cloud there is a silver lining and it could change.
I believe putting an end to it is not the solution, but the problem, you should fight it with all your heart, as you have been doing al these years, and try to solve all your problems one by one.
Also maybe you should make a list of things in live that you are very happy about, things you love, like your son for an instant.
you will see that you have good things in live.
and you're not a bad person, and God doesn't hate you just think, why would he? what could you possibly have done?
nothing!
I wish you the best of times,
2007-10-31 14:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lord_Kiwi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never hear Gods voice until you decide to change your ways. Pick up your bible and start out with Psalm 139. Read it and know that God is talking about you. You have to understand God will put us through hard times but he will never give us more than what we can stand. All we need to do is have faith and you will see that he will get us through the worst of times. He is not mad at you God is Love and all he wants is for you to come to him when you are having trouble. He knows you can not do all alone. But he will not help until you ask him for help. So maybe it's time you had a little heart to heart talk with him. He is waiting to hear from you. God Bless... and don't give suicide a second thought...It's not the way to go:)
2007-10-31 14:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun I know what you are going though. I'm trying to get back on my feet all the time. Everytime I feel like thangs are going good, just around the coner I fall again. I really hate it. I'm only 22. I have had depression since the age of 7yrs. But try to hide behind it all the time. It's hard to change old habits. I understand when people say you have the heart of gold and you disve the best, but nothing every comes in our eyes. When it dose we miss it. I will help you in anyway i can hun. You are alot older then me, but i will try with everything i have. you can email me whenever i check it everyday. mightymouse5905@hotmail.com. Sorry i can't give you any adives. I'm still looking my self.
2007-10-31 16:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone whose religious belief is same as yours in your community. I think you feel spiritual emptiness.
God loves you. Seek truly for His help and He will not fail you.
.... Try to start counting your blessings you will then realize that you have received more blessings than sorrow.
There is always a reason to be happy. The sun, stars, our family, friends, the flowers, everything around us.
Funny, but this yahoo answers alone makes me happy! The essence of sharing.
We all have the reason to live, to live a life to the fullest.
Don't worry, be happy! One day, you'll look back at this situation, then you will realize it is a blessing actually.
2007-10-31 14:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by Angelina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Janie! I'd like to share with you something which i have also just recently learned...God doesn't send bad things our way, its in a verse in James, i think. Those bad things don't happen to you coz you did something wrong, screwed up really bad, or just plainly by chance. Those things are there, so that the work of God may be displayed in your life. (I think, this verse is in John...sorry, i just started reading my Bible again recently.) Hmmm, a little complicated, too biblical, and a little too preachy for me, were the first few thoughts that came to me when i first read it. I knew in my head how God is always there, etc, but what i knew in my head didnt land all the way to my heart, enough to accept it, enough to live it, enough to truly experience it. So, i pretty much lost all meaning there and then. Then, things also started screwing up for me...BIG TIME. Things and people i depended on, everything i put my hope on all seemed to be going haywire. Hah, i thought to myself, How the heck could God allow this to happen to me? But littl by little, he revealed himself, as he slowly worked in my life. Things didn't miracoulously get better, instead, God gave me the strength to get through them...and eventually emerge as a better person. I think we will always go through the same things, maybe in different times, places, etc...but pretty much the same, until we sit down and actually take heed of what God is trying to do in our lives. Everything will still be the same, unless you really learn from it, and not just push it aside, run away from it, or dust them off under the rug. I sound hifalutinly biblical and philosophical, im sorry. But, i do pray that you let God take the reins and let him work in you. All that you are going through, everything that you are...you, as a whole, are important to God...He wants to help you...just give Him the chance to flex His muscles and work in your life. Ill be praying for you.
2007-10-31 14:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by :) 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a new therapist - if he/she isn't able to help you with your feelings, then you need to find someone who can.
You say you took SSRIs for 15 years and then say you never took drugs in your life...? Talk to your doctor - there are new anti-depressants with few side effects [Lexapro is known for its low side-effect profile]. You may need to see a psychiatrist for medications, as some generalists don't have a lot of experience with anti-depressants.
Don't wait around for "God" to fix things. You have to take charge of your own life and stop the self-pity - everyone has problems they have to deal with. Just take it one step at a time.
2007-10-31 15:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by MomSezNo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps it's time to take a breather and turn your mind to others, allowing you to take a pause in thinking of only you.
You will be amazed when you find you're actually able to bring joy to others in some small way. Try to find that path. I am not a religious person. So I have a hard time with putting my life in HIS (or her) hands. We need to use the tools we are given to improve ourself and our lives around us. NO ONE can do that for us. Please be strong on WHO you are, and what you choose to do for YOURSELF while being a benefit for others as well. BEST WISHES. I know that you can do it with very little effort. DO IT NOW for yourself and your son!
2007-10-31 14:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this book, SonPlacing, by Garrison Russell, available from: www.amazon.com. Maybe it will help you understand your problems and how to deal with them.
I can tell you from experience, it's not our problems that get us down, it's how we handle them. God is not 'mad' at you, He loves you more than you know.
http://mlf1070.wordpress.com/2007/07/19/letter-from-a-father/
Meanwhile, read this article about dealing with depression. I hope you find the answer to your question. Be blessed.
2007-10-31 15:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋