whats wrong with my family?

Question

i am 27 and want to feel independent my family over protects me and treats me like a child like i cant do anything what can i do?

Answer 1

Go get yourself pregnant. That'll show em!!

Answer 2

The only way to be independent of any one, be it parents Husband boy friend, or what ever, is to be financially independent, I do hope you have a good Job, have managed to put away and invested well your savings, should be quite a nest egg by now living at home with no major expenses,so I cannot see no reason you cannot move out, buy or rent a small residence, pay your way, yes! PAY THE MORTGAGE -RENT-ALL YOUR UTILITIES AND ALL THE OTHER RESPONSIBILITIES THAT GOES WITH AN INDEPENDENT LIFE STYLE,AND OH YES, SAY THANK YOU TO YOUR PARENTS FOR SUPPORTING YOU ALL THOSE YEARS, BEFORE YOU MOVE OUT, NOW GET A MOVE ON !!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!
I do hope you you are not Italian if you are I can see you have a big problem,

Answer 3

It isn't as unusual as you might think. Here is the catch, you are an adult and it is going to be up to you to assert your adulthood.
First of all don't go to your parents with problems or decisions unless you really want their input. You don't need their permission or approval of your decisions.
If you do ask their advise or they give it to you, that's okay. They care about you but then as an adult you need to weigh what they tell you and still make up your own mind.
As an adult, your parents may not agree with what you choose or decide and may be angry or unhappy with you. That's okay too, they have a right to their opinion don't let it upset you.
Also if you want to be treated like an adult, make sure you act like an adult. Make sure that you are independent financially, emotionally, intellectually etc..,

Answer 4

R u the only child or the youngest???
Because usually if u are, parents just have abit of hard time letting you go. They realize that you'll be on your own someday and scare that you would forget about them or wouldn't call them.
It's very common, there's nothing wrong with your family.
Just have a talk with them, let them know that you really care about them and that you'll always be there if they need you. Make them realize that you are not a kid anymore. Prove to them that you can make it on your own and that you are independent.
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 5

Youre not retarded are you? Okay, well if you are the only child, spoiled and bratted from birth I can understand but I do the same with my sisters and at first I thought I was protecting them when in reality I thought they were naive idiots incapable of intelligence...now, i dont think too harsh of them but what I'm trying ot say is at times you have to shove a bit and prove that you can do it on your own. My sisters certainly proved that to me but Im still protective

Answer 6

I'm 48 and my parents are still protective! They give me their unsolicited advice, and always start it like, "If it were me...." or "If I were you ,I"d...". Awhile back my dog was ill, so I called them to see what I should do (yah, I asked for it). I took my dog to the emergency vet, and there were my parents! I have a cord of wood that my hubby hadn't gotten around to chopping. The other day I come home and there were both my parents' cars. They were in the back cutting and stacking wood! They're in the're 70's! My parents, God bless em would do anything for me, but do still treat me like I'm 10 at times. I sometimes have to remind em I'm almost a half century old, but they still see me as their little girl!

Answer 7

27 huh?
Are you still living at home? Sounds like it, so that is your fault.

If you haven't flown the coop by now, I'm sure they think it's because you are to immature to be on your own.

If you act like a child, you will be treated like a child. What are you NOT doing? That is the question you must ask yourself.

Answer 8

I say move far away from your family, preferably to another state where they can't just step in and take control when ever they want. Show them you are independent and can take care of yourself, and don't call them for help all the time.

Answer 9

Maybe it is your behavior.
Act like an adult; you will be treated like one.

Maybe you are the baby of the family. The youngest born child. That is difficult to overcome as all will treat you as a baby. Whatever age.

Answer 10

Nothing wrong with your family. Its hard for them to let you go.
Move out (If you are still living with them). get married (if you want). you are big baby now . May be you make little mistakes but you will learn from your mistakes And most important thing don't tell every thing to your family--------what ever is going in your life.



Good Luck

Answer 11

When you have a good job and place to live and seem to be making good forward thinking decisions for yourself, your family will back off.
Take a good look at your actions, do you call with complaints and sob stories, do you borrow money, are you still dependent on them either physically or mentally???