My 4yr old son was thrilled 2 weeks ago when he got to pick out his really cool turtle costume, but then daddy said he should be Bob The Builder and now ever since he has wanted to be Bob The Builder. I deperately looked all over for a Bob The Builder costume and they were all sold out. Now my son says he doesn't wanna go and i'm not sure if i should force him into it or just let him stay home. There are lots of things we don't like until we try them and this isn't his first Halloween either but he has never really liked Halloween ever. Would it be wrong of me to push him into going even though he doesn't like it and hope that with time he will like the idea?
It's all because last week my husband told him he should be Bob The Builder and thats all he thinks about and now my little guy doesn't like the turtle costume and doesn't want to go, what should i do?
2007-10-31 06:08:50 · 21 answers · asked by Wishmaster 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Give your husband a big sarcastic thanks. If you don't force him to go, the next day he feel like he missed out. Maybe Make him show your neighbors his cool costume and if he still doesn't want to go, then let him stay home. He might decide that he really does want to trick or treat after going to the neighbors.
2007-10-31 06:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Cierra S 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, thanks allot DAD!!!
I think once he sees other kids in costume he's not really gonna care about what his is. He'll just want to go and join the fun. Don't force it on him, just wait for him to bring it up.
Yeah, he'll feel bad the next day not going but that's just a lesson to him. I know it's hard to reason with a 4 year old but he has to realize that he's not always gonna get his way. He has a costume and that's it. Sorry no taking it back no getting a new one (even though I'm sure you've gone up and down and across town looking for one.) And if Dad had such a brilliant idea to make him change his mind....then maybe Dad needs to do something about it.
Ooohh I hate for anybody to miss Halloween, it's my favorite holiday. So I hope your little guy realizes how much more cool turtles are than Bob the Builder....
2007-10-31 13:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by texicangirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell dad to not come home without a Bob the builder costume, lol. Your son picked the turtle costume, and he should have been proud of his ability to choose. Alas, no, you should not force him into wearing the turtle outfit, if it's just going to make his overall experience a miserable one.
A little reverse psychology might work.... "What are you going to do when all your friends have buckets full of candy?"
Has he been with you when shopping for the Bob the Builder costumes? Has he seen for himself that none were available?
Bottom line...."Do you want to go, or don't you?" Let him be the reason for missing out, if he doesn't.
2007-10-31 17:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by imrt70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have your husband fix this. He needs to tell the son something b/c there are no costumes now. Tell him that bob the builder took all the costumes home w/him and that if the child dresses like a turtle and gets lots of candy then next year he will give him a bob the builder costume. Sometimes you have to say certain things to build their intrest in something and convince them of things. I know it sounds like lying but it's not a bad lie..and if he wants to be bob the builder (maybe he won't remember) but he can do it next year.
2007-10-31 13:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by shortysml 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your son if he want's to go trick or treating. Tell him all the trouble you went to to try to find him the Bob costume, and that you tried so hard! But they just didn't have any... Remind him that going trick or treating means knocking on doors and getting candy. If possible, find a friend of his and see if you can tag along so that he and his friend can trick or treat together! My nephew and my son love to trick or treat together! Maybe if you sat home for an hour or so and let him hand out candy to trick or treaters, he'll feel compelled to go. Or maybe he'll just feel great because he gets to hand out the candy! But honestly, if your son really doesn't want to go, I wouldn't force him. Just make sure that he understands that Halloween won't come around for another year... Best of luck to you!
2007-10-31 14:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Amy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should pack his costume in the car and conveniently drive through town, slowly, pretending to be going somewhere for an errand (grocery store, etc.) Let him see what is going on. Either he'll say "wow look - I wish I could go" or he won't be interested.
I don't think you should force him... it isn't like this is a critical thing in his life... if he misses out, then you use it as a learning lesson... you can't always get what you want - doesn't mean you should be a party pooper. You have to make due sometimes with what you have.
And jeez, if he doesn't go - he will be healthier because of it! :)
2007-10-31 15:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by amber 18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My six year old son does not want to go trick or treating. I am not going to force him. He is scared though of those scary costumes such as scream.
I could not even get him to look in the halloween costumes. We are going to be at home handing candy out.
2007-10-31 15:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husband to talk to him and be enthusiastic about his turtle costume. If he still doesn't want to go don't force him. He's acting spoiled. [I'm not saying it's your fault. Most kids this age act this way.] He wants you to baby him, buy him the new costume, and beg him to go. Trust me. If he doesn't want to go then don't make him. Go outside, hand out candy, and have a great time! He needs to know plans don't just stop because he doesn't feel like it and you guys CAN have fun without him.
2007-10-31 13:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a fun little dinner at home, set the costume out where he can see it, and look online for creative ideas for spooky dinners. When dinner is done, ask him one more time if he would like to go ahead and put on the costume and go trick or treating. If he says no, then ask him what else he would like to do instead. I don't think that we should force our kids to do something like trick or treating if they don't want to. It would be different if it was something like not wanting to go to school or something, but who ever said that trick or treating was manditory. Good Luck with your decision.
2007-10-31 13:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by TAS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it should not be forced, it will be a life lesson for him. When he sees all the children out tonight, he might learn something. Yeah shame on the dad for doing this to you, but the kid is going to have to learn about choices and decisions. I'm an advocate of tough love. And don't feel bad. You tried your best to find the costume.
2007-10-31 13:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋