okay, so one of my best friends (i'll call her V) is getting married, and myself and our other best friend (i'll call her T) are bridesmaids or matrons of honor (it's not clear yet--V also has two sisters...)
well, i was wondering, who would throw the shower?
V & T were both in my wedding & i didn't get a shower (wasn't ever mentioned & didn't even occur to me till just now) and V & I were in T's wedding & her shower was thrown by her MIL....(T didn't mind us not throwing her one--but then she was notoriously hard to get ahold of in order to plan one; also, i think V would understand if i didn't since i'm quite pregnant & very broke... and T would be of no help)
i was just wondering... should i worry about throwing her a shower or leave it up to her sisters or mother or MIL?
2007-10-31 05:56:35 · 22 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the thing i'm worried about is having to do it all on my own, and i can't afford it :(
T is a bit of a flake (she knows this herself, but we stull luv her!) and V's sisters don't work (just finishing HS)
so i'd be footing the bill by myself...
i don't mean to sound like a scrooge or anything, but i am SO broke all the time (hubby got hurt & isn't working for a month now, and i can't even save up to take time off after the baby is born!)
2007-10-31 06:27:24 · update #1
yeah, i think i'll get on the phone with her mom & sisters & see if we can all do it...
2007-10-31 07:00:20 · update #2
It would be easy on everyone's pocketbook if you'd all make it a joint effort. If you feel her other friends won't be of much help, talk it over with her sisters, mother and mother-in-law. It doesn't have to be a lavish affair; a light lunch or afternoon tea at someone's house can be lovely. It's the thought that counts as you've come to realize from the lack of one for you.
Edit: Sometimes it's difficult to follow strict rules of etiquitte and really not necessary in our modern, relaxed society. A happy, pleasant affair is the ultimate goal of such occasions.
2007-10-31 06:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually the Maid of Honor works with the bridesmaids and the bride's female family members to plan the shower. The Maid of Honor should take the lead.
However, a bride can have multiple showers organized by different people - one from family, one from coworkers, one from the bridal party - and not everyone has to be invited to each. But usually it's the bridal party and a few female family members, and all the shower guests are invited to the wedding.
2007-10-31 06:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bridesmaids get together and throw the bridal shower. The Mother of the Bride and the Mother of the Groom are never supposed to throw the showers.
2007-10-31 06:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
traditionally it is the Maid of Honor (Matron of Honor if she is married) that is in charge of the shower and the brides maids help as well. That sucks you didn't get a bridal shower. I would suggest that who ever recieves the title of Maid of Honor should throw the shower, but since you are going to me a bridesmaid perhaps you can either remind the Maid of Honor to throw a shower or you can volunteer to help her throw it.
2007-10-31 06:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the MOH throws the shower, or another friend. It is never supposed to be anyone related, unless they are an attendant in the wedding. It was inappropriate for the MIL to throw a shower. I wouldn't leave it up to her sisters or mother (in law). Check out the site www.etiquettehell.com for some great tips.
2007-10-31 06:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you can always throw an inexpensive bridal shower. Maybe at your home and ask everyone in the wedding party including men to help in anyway. You could host it at your house. But if you still feel overwhelmed and over worked then maybe u should just let the idea go. Maybe have an intimate dinner with her and the future hubby and your hubby at the house instead.
2007-10-31 06:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by fee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually the maid/matron of honor throws the shower.
However, you might just discuss this them. "Do we want to have a shower?" is how it's come up with some friends of mine before. I hosted a shower without being maid of honor - so it really depends on what you want to do.
I would talk to them first and see what happens - otherwise don't worry about it.
2007-10-31 06:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Done 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can throw the shower. Talk to her mother to see if anyone has mentioned anything about it. See if you can get the ball rolling and help designate someone to do it (aunts, mother, maid/matron of honor). Even if you do plan it, everyone else can help with the payments.
2007-10-31 06:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by vaya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 11:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by kasemeier 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone can throw her a bridal shower. her bridesmaids, maid of honor, friends, sometimes churchs want to throw you one. I say if you want to throw her one do it get other people to chip in (other bridesmaids, sisters, her mom or mother in law)
2007-10-31 06:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by Whit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋