I went on an interview, and was asked why I was leaving my present job. I said to advance any further I would have to move out of state and I do not want to take my kids out of school. The lady interviewing me then I hope you have someone to watch your kids.
I don't believe she can ask me that, but I am not sure since I brung up the fact that I have kids. I wanted to know if that was inappropriate for her to say
2007-10-31 05:53:46 · 12 answers · asked by cashmere_mist 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
yes that was inappropriate on her part and if you don't take the job, you should mention it to someone. also, it is important not to bring up personal stuff, such as having kids, because employers do discriminate despite the fact its illegal.
2007-10-31 06:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by Scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was inappropriate. You volunteered the information - shame on you - however she should not have made any further comments. The reason why is now you can say that you didn't get the job because you have kids. After all, she made the comment that confirmed she heard you. You having kids does not have anything to do with how well you can perform your job, although lack of childcare can. But it doesn't matter. At the end of the day, having children won't affect your performance. Next time, do not bring up anything personal because now if you don't get the job, you don't know if it was because of something personal.
2007-10-31 23:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by savvy_recruiter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that there are inappropriate things to say as an interviewee that might cost one the possibility of a job. I think interviewers should also think about what they say, as a comment like the one she just made would be a turnoff. I would not want to work for this company, as the impression I get from her remark is that the compnay is not family-friendly. She basically insulted the fact that you have kids; I am guessing that should anything happen [like one of your kids get ill and you have to take a day off to care for them] that they are going to not like it and give you a hard time. I think you should look elsewhere for a job, and kudos to you for caring about your children. Often people do not worry about their kids, and that is just sad. I wish there was some kind of test or law that you were not allowed to have kids unless you really wanted them and could take care of them.
2007-10-31 13:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her question was inappropriate, but so was your bringing up your children.
If you are asked about why you are leaving your job, simply state that advancing your career with that company would involve relocation, which you are not willing to do at this time.
Like it or not, there is plenty of discrimination going on in the workplace.
Never mention family, religion, politics, or sexuality during an inteview.
2007-10-31 13:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by hail_loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got told the exact same thing by my boss after I took a sick day off when my son and my husband were both ill. The boss told me that I should have made other arrangements.
Your interviewer had the right to say that after you mentioned the kids first. Never Never mention that you have kids during any interview.
2007-10-31 14:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe i'm not understanding the question..but it sounds perfectly appropriate to me. the interviewer simply needs to know if the job is right for you. if you need "mother's hours" and this is a full time day job, then it wouldn't be a fit - unless you've set up after school hours care.
i don't see why it's inappropriate (?)
2007-10-31 13:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question was fine not the second but you did open up the door. Next time just say that you would prefer to stay in state and leave it at that
2007-10-31 13:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inappropriate? Probably not. Rude? Yes. You might want to remember that before you accept the position.
2007-10-31 13:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that YOU are also interviewing THEM. If the atmosphere and culture are not suitable, don't accept any job offer.
By the way, if you are offered the position and do decline, mention this incident to them.
They need to know.
2007-10-31 13:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it wasn't inappropriate, but if I am reading correctly this going to be a time consuming job. That's what it seems like she was indicating.
2007-10-31 13:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋