Right, My Grandma is a VERY strong Christian, but even She told me she had sex before marriage?

Question

& that is a sin.

I am 14 and confused about my sexuality cos of my DAMN hormones. But anyway, I told her and she started going on about how disgusting it was and how it is against God to have two girls having it on.

Well erm do you think my grandma is right to have a go at me about it when she knows damn well she's sinned?

Answer 1

Sex is not a sin. Sex between two women is not a sin.

But it is a "sin" not to protect yourself or to let others force you into doing things you don't feed comfortable doing. Be smart and be safe.

Answer 2

First what the who is with the Vendetta pasting?
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First, I don't think that it is wrong to have a lesbian relationship. However I do find it odd that some youths in this generation do it, because it is a perceived fad. A true lesbian will love someone because its love, and not because a group of people dared to them to do it. Not that you fit that scenario, but many people do.

Just because your grandma is an christian and has does things, that may be the opposite of what her religion has preaches means nothing. Even though she is old now she was once a young person like. Perhaps she truly loved the person that she slept with, perhaps she too was weakened by her DAMN hormones. Only she knows what was in her heart at the time.

Instead of taking the easy way out and considering her a hypocrite, try to see things from her pov. Remind her respectfully of faux pas, and she what she has to say. If she refuses, so be it. This doesn't mean that she is an awful person, it just means that she is closed minded. Love her anyway. Just as long as you yourself are not closed minded to people of faith.

There are some in my family who are against homosexuality. I politely counteract their stereotypes with reason and rationality. If I was to discredit them, based on their perceived disagreement what type of person would that make me.

Answer 3

Well... first of all, you have to realize and know that EVERYONE sins at one point or another in their lifetime. So, your grandma having sex before marriage doesn't make her a bad person... it makes her someone who has sinned. Just like everyone.

Second, The Bible consistently tells us that homosexual activity is a sin (Genesis 19:1-13; Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9). Romans 1:26-27 teaches specifically that homosexuality is a result of denying and disobeying God. When a person continues in sin and disbelief, the Bible tells us that God “gives them over” to even more wicked and depraved sin in order to show them the futility and hopelessness of life apart from God. 1 Corinthians 6:9 proclaims that homosexual “offenders” will not inherit the kingdom of God.

However, the Bible does not describe homosexuality as a “greater” sin than any other. All sin is offensive to God. Homosexuality is just one of the many things listed.

Answer 4

We are all sinners. Even a just man sins 7 times a day. We sin more by what we don't do then what we do do. There are degrees of sinning. There are mortal sins & veniel sins. Killing someone is not as bad as telling a lie. Your grandma only wants the best for you. I know that having sex before marriage is a mortal sin, but your grandma has probably repented by now and is forgiven. If you die before you have had a chance to repent and you have committed a mortal sin, you might go to hell. Ask your grandma about forgiveness, and give her a break she's your grandma. It's a sin to judge her. Only God has the right to judge.

To arouse someone is a sin. To put your self in a situation which you know could lead to sin is a sin. It's shocking someone as young as you is tempted to commit mortal sins. Try not to.

Answer 5

sex is more than a sin; you are too young to enter into an act that even adults find confusing; relationships are confusing to adults, take a look around the world , look at the divorce rate; and you think that you are equipped to have sex when still so young; invest in yourself , education, career and then you can select any partner from a mature place; sex makes life complicated and doesn't mean the person actually loves you and will stay with you; statistically they won't ; think more of yourself and your body and explore life , education and prepare for your future; if your children were going to interview for parents, they would want the best ones, educated, able to provide for them; you have a life in front of you; don't throw it away; go to school and be what you want to be ; other people choices aren't yours; give yourself a great start and stay away from sex ; there is more to life and you need to prepare for it; have fun by seeing the world, have a great career , a nice home etc; these things come from hard work ; you can do it ; don't throw it away; if you make a choice now , you will live with that memory and choice forever

Answer 6

Your grandmother is human, just like all the rest of us. The question is not whether she has sinned (the Scripture says that *all* have sinned and come short of the glory of God), but whether she has repented. If she has repented, God has forgiven her (Scripture also says that if we confess our sin, God is faithful and just to forgive us). If she is a very strong Christian, as you say, she must have repented and grown spiritually. Being a very strong believer doesn't *always* keep us from making mistakes or even sinning. We try to learn from the times that we fall, though, in order to learn to overcome and to become stronger.
Here's the thing: she cares enough about you to try and help you avoid the mistakes that she made. You certainly can't fault her for loving you and caring. She knows from personal experience that it's tough being a 14-year-old and facing the temptations that you face. She also knows that it's even tougher now than when she was 14. She wants to prevent you going through heartbreak and disappointments. Thank God that you have a grandmother who cares.
I wish you well in sorting out your feelings and overcoming your hormones. I know it isn't easy. You can make it past this.

Answer 7

Well, homosexuality is against God's laws. That she is right about, but so is fornication. So any pre-martial sex is against God's laws.

The fact that you are 14, you are so young and because you are in the "bloom of youth" you may find yourself attracked to the same sex. Which can be confusing.

There's a good article for young people at www.watchtower.org/e/20040722a/article_01.htm

Answer 8

First, a note on a previous answer: the Old Testament definitely does *not* advocate stoning someone for fornication. This is simply an untrue statement.

2nd, fornication *is* a sin. However, Jesus will forgive us such sins *if* we (very abridged)
1) Believe in Jesus
2) Stop sinning

Here are the relevant verses (I think I gave them to you in an earlier answer, but just in case, here they are again)

9. Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals,
10. nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
11. And such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and in the Spirit of our God.

Thus, you can see that those who perform these sins shall *not* inherit the kingdom of God (eternal life). However, those who *used* to commit such sins *can* inherit the kingdom of God if they can say: "and such *was* I, but I was washed, I was sanctified" etc. etc. As long as you are an "are" and not a "was", you cannot expect to inherit the kingdom of God.

Jim, http://www.jimpettis.com/wheel/

Answer 9

To be a Christian is to be forgiven, it does not mean you are perfect.

14 is too young to be sexually active, in my opinion, your mind and psychological state may not be as mature as your body is, and letting your hormones run wild is not a good idea, whether you be straight or gay.

As far as grandma is concerned, maybe she wants to be an example of what not to do and that is why she told you. If she asked forgiveness of God, why should you not respect that.

Answer 10

If you can love what difference does it make? Gender preference isn't relevant in the eyes of the lord only love is. So if you're more inclined to love other girls as opposed to boys so be it. Some folks are just wired that way and IT IS OKAY! It's equally okay for you to experiment...there's no harm in it at all. Should you choose to try a young man out though please do it responsibly (INSIST ON BEING PROTECTED). We don't need or want anymore unwanted/planned propigation. Best to you!

Answer 11

Your grandmother is probably so upset about 2 girls getting it on because she tried it once. But it is not against GOD'S law, it is against man's controlling laws. Having sex is as natural as breathing and the church wanted to control people since its inception. If you can control the biological processes then you control the total person. That is why the church licensed all of the brothels to the church at one time. You could have all of the sex you wanted in a church brothel, but if you wanted to have sex with your husband or wife you needed a priest present. Also, for a couple of centuries convents were in fact brothels run by the church. Sex isn't against god, it is against those who want to control you.