5 years without any bedroom lovin' would that be a good thing or a bad thing for an adult?

Question

if you meet a guy or woamn that spent 5 years without any sex would that be a positive or negative aspect in a potential partner?

would you wonder why nothing happened for so long?

Answer 1

That would be good to me because it shows you only do it when your in a healthy relationship

Answer 2

First of all what do you mean by positive and what do you mean by negative, let's clarify those two first.
How old is that person? What does he/she do for a living?
When was the last time he/she had sex?
What is their explanation of the situation.
There are many factors to consider before jumping to any conclusions.
I would personally wonder about this situation, because five years is not five days.
It tells me right away that whoever that person is, he/she is very cold and not focused, at least in the past, on sexual aspects of their lives. Every human being has a desire to be loved and cared for. Sex comes as a conclusive part of any relationship, it being serious or casual(no strings attached). I am having a hard time believing that anybody can survive without sex for five years. Sorry. It just does not fly by. Five years is sixty months. It is a lot of time.
If you are so convinced that they are telling you the truth, dont rush into a relationship, spend as much time with that person as you possibly can, try to understand their mentality, try to see if you like their habits. Long story short, time time time.


Good luck

Answer 3

If someone went 5 years without being physically intimate I would wonder what lead to their decision. Being abstinent or celibate is often a factor of emotional and spiritual choices so I would greatly respect that they went 5 years without having sex. Also, I do not think that it is possible for a person who hasn't had sex for 5 years to be negative unless they were incarcerated for 5 years and could or would not have sex with other prisoners. I think that it's important to look at all of the reasons the person has and if nothing respect that he/she made a choice and stuck to it. That shows a great deal of commitment to his/her ideals.

Also, I noticed that some of the answers included an age element so I would also like to address that and say that age is usually not a factor in why a person chooses to be celibate for 5 years and typically older adults have active healthy sex lives if or when they have a partner.

Answer 4

normally thats a bad thing, but its all depends on age, if your 55+ it might be normal especially if you are in your 70's. If you are younger than 50 that is not good. If you want "bedroom lovin" and she really cared about you and your feeling and thoughts as well as needs, she would atleast satisfy you from time to time.

its a fact that sex is the 1st thing to stop when a breakup is about to occur, im not saying that is your situation though, it may be age. I would way that maybe 1 outta 35 people or so feel weird about sex and just dont care/like it, so unless you found that small percentage then somethng is wrong. Normally that low percetage is due to past childhood and having bad things happen to them as a child, so even then there is a reason. hope i helped you understand.

Answer 5

It would be neutral... depending on how they talked about it.

I support bouts of single celibacy.

But if they went on and on about how they couldn't find a girl or how their ex never had sex with them, I'd have a problem with that. Some people just prefer to focus on their career or themselves rather than get involved in a relationship or risk an unwanted pregnancy or contracting a std.

Of course, most people don't ask on the first few dates "When was the last time you had sex?" It would probably come up later on after you've established a relationship.

Answer 6

I don't think it would be a bad thing. I think that it would show that the person is really mature and understands that sex is not everything. I think that it also shows that they would truly vaule the person they decided to take up a sexual relationship with again. Its kind of refreshing to hear about someone being with another person because they know, trust, and feel comfortable with person and not because they were drunk and thought the other person looked good. Its a great deal safer too.

Answer 7

Some would go bonkers others would not be pleased but they adapt. Some would just use the tools they were given and those tools are not coincidentally the right length for manipulation. You would wonder why a 5 year dry spell but it really doesn't matter, they will adapt. Some married women wonder why their husband masturbates, and some might help them out. They are just adapting to their own needs.

Answer 8

If you are talking 5 years in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship as an adult then something is not right. If this is simply a friendship then nothing is odd about that at all; friends do not have sex...they are just that...friends.

Answer 9

I think the answer would depend on how you feel about it yourself.

If it would bother you to have a partner who hadn't had sex in 5 years, follow the "run don't walk" advice, save both of you some grief because obviously you aren't compatible.

If it wouldn't be an issue, then it wouldn't be an issue, and you wouldn't have asked the question. You asked the question, it's obviously an issue, it obviously bothers you, so follow the "run don't walk" advice.

For myself, of course it wouldn't bother me. What a silly, shallow question.

Answer 10

I would imagine if you meet someone that has not had sex for 5 years or longer you might be in for an intense passionate experience. Obviously they have learnt that you don't have to have sex all the time in order to be good in bed.

Answer 11

It would depend on the circumstances . . . if it was because she was frigid, then that would suck! If it was because she was holding out for the right guy, I would consider it a good thing, it would mean she had good character and high morals. Still I know for sure I couldn't go that long, I'm lucky if I can go 3 months!