i hate my life,i hate my family ,my look ,my freinds,everything i just wana runaway or die now,wt should ido?

Question

my parents are tough ,my brothers are assholes i cant stand them,i have no sister & my freinds are not like me we don't have commen things & stuff !!idk wt should i do iam 17 !!in college which i hate it !!!i go there & laughe with my friends & have some fun but when i go back home i just hate my life !!!!my parents don't do nothing to me but so over protective they can't understand iam grown up now they have to let me live my life ,they don't understand pravicy at all!!!wt can i do to make them understand or change there mind?help plz

umm i cant move out !!cz in my country i have to live with our parents untile i get married !!& i cant get ajob either cz my parents wont let me i all ready tried !!they say u cant cz first u don't need money & poor girls only work in shops !!i realy wana get ajob but they think its like ashame !!

Answer 1

basahin mo ito, iha
http://onlyinsilence.blogspot.com/2007/10/you-are-so-blessed.html
http://onlyinsilence.blogspot.com/2007/10/which-one-are-you.html

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Answer 2

Hi hon... at 17 you're not a grown up, but you have the right to expect privacy and a decent life.

Have you ever thought you might be depressed? Maybe talk to your school counselor for help.

Hating everything isn't a good way to feel.... maybe look at things from a more positive perspective... you are going to college to ensure a good future -- and that is what your education is all about -- before you know it, you will have graduated and at least you have college under your belt, right?

If you are having difficulties at home the first thing you could do, is ask your parents if they'd sit and listen to you. Let them know how you feel ..."I feel overprotected, i feel i have no privacy, i feel i'd like to make things better in my life, and what can i do to gain your trust and respect?"

Maybe your parents are "in the dark" about your feelings. Talking with them might give them an opportunity to think about what you feel and say, and maybe things will change from there.

i wish you all the best.

P.S. if you are feeling badly about the way you look, why not go for a new hair style, or trim? Find some new make up and lotion -- take a nice bubble bath and each morning, take the time to make yourself look presentable...

Answer 3

I can understand how you feel. Running away will only increase your problems...and dying will prove that you are a coward. The best thing to do is wait a while, go through life(even if it sucks), find a career you like and by the time you are 25 you can be independent, doing what you like. Else just join a college in some other city so that you don't have to live with your parents.

Answer 4

The first thing you can do is sit down and write out a list of everything in your life that's good. You need a definite change in perspective. You're focusing in on the negative and so you're attracting more negative things to you. If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.

Write a list of no less than 100 things that are positive in your life. What do your parents do right? What do you like about your brothers? What makes your friends your friends? What are their good points? What do you like about school? What do you like about home? Don't stop your list until you have at least 100 items on it. Once you've done all that, breathe deeply for a little bit.

After doing that little exercise, things will look much better and then you'll be able to have a constructive conversation with your parents. Tell them you feel they're being over protective. I answer a lot of questions on here from people who would love to have your problems. Many people have parents who don't give a da** about them. Your parents love you enough to want to protect you. They may go over board a little but you need to communicate with them about what you feel.

You're in college now and you're starting to develop your own life as a separate person from your family. There's an adjustment period not only for you but also for your family. You're not a little girl any more but to them you always will be. Even when you're 57.

Talk to them about privacy issues. Ask them to be a little more aware of your need for privacy. Tell them exactly what you would like to see happen and ask them what they would like to see happen. Ask them for their reasons for doing the things they do. Open and honest communication without emotion is your best option here.

Don't expect your parents to know what you want if you don't tell them. They're your parents but they aren't mind readers. Now that you're on the verge of being an adult you need to learn how to effectively communicate as an adult. When your parents see that you're mature enough to handle this type of situation calmly and effectively, they'll be able to relax a little more and maybe won't feel like they have to be as protective as they've been til now. Don't hate!

Answer 5

i would agree with the first person said but to tell you the truth... "sucking it up" doesn't always help.
it often creates more stress.

but i hhave to say, if you look around- you're not the only one with problems.
ask a random person on the street and they will tell you their endless list of unresolvable problems.


anyways.
have you considered moving out?

if you hate living under the roof of your parents so much, you should do something about it.. YOURSELF.

you can get a job and support yourself and once in a while if you really need the help, your parents can help you.

before moving out, you have to let your parents know that you're almost 18 and that they can't have authority over you forever.

you have the choice of moving out and living on your own.
but the question is.. are you ready for that?
are you willing to let go of the safety net?


the relationship with your brothers will cool down when you move out.

Answer 6

You are still a minor honey. Even though you are in college your parents just want you to be the best you can be since you are the only girl. Once you get older you and get a job and move out. Brothers are going to be hard on you because your there sister they want to try to protect you from things they think you cant handle. Life isn't that bad to want to run away or worse, kill yourself. Trust me, when i was your age i felt the same way. I always got treated unfair while my brother got all the glory. I did run away and i wanted to kill myself but my mother always told me to remember that there is always someone out here who got it worse then you, but they find a way to overcome and be the best they can be. Life can get alittle hard sometime, but it is you to not let them things get to you and distract you form doing what you have to do. Don't make things harder than what they should be. Sometime parents have to see for themselves that they are smothering there child and that you are going to be 18 soon and that they have to let up on some of the harsh parenting and come to their senses to let you go have fun. I wish you good luck !!!!

Answer 7

Sweetie, sounds like you need to take a look at the pros instead of the cons. What is good about your life? The friends that you have are only yours because you chose then. Get in a group that focuses on the things that you like. There are so many ways to improve life that you cannot miss them all. Most of all PRAY. I will pray for you.

Answer 8

How can we help if you hate everything in you? you have messy thoughts..you don't know exactly what you want.

Now: First of all, PRAY to GOD, ask for guidance....
...then, learn to love and respect yourself so that it follows..you'll learn also to love and respect people around you..
change your outlook in life..be optimistic...try to make friends..
most of all, DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY!!

Answer 9

Boo HOO wah wah.

Stop being a spoiled princess, and GROW UP.

you're not always going to get your way.

Don't run away, don't wish to die, just SUCK IT UP AND DEAL WITH IT.

Whiner.

Answer 10

DON'T KILL YOURSELF.YOU CAN GO TO A GUIDIANCE FOR ADVICE. THEY MIGHT HATE YOU BUT AS LONG THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS THEY LOVE YOU.YOU MIGHT DO SOMETHING REALLY BAD, THEY STILLL LOVE YOU. NO MATTER WHAT. WHEN THEY GET MAD AT YOU JUST THINK YOU IN YOUR HAPPY PLACE IF YOU HAVE ONE. THAT MIGHT HELP!!!!!!!

Answer 11

wow!! sound depressed!! what you think of yourself is how people see you!! as for your parents well if your living with them there rules. move out if you don't like them.