my mom died sept 12th and my family says i am crazy?

Question

because i talk about her all the time and i use to crry all the time,but now that my family says mean things to me.i don't talk about her anymore and i can't even cry anymore.i just stay up late at night feeling depressed and i feel so alone without my mom.why can't i cry anymore over my mom is it because i'm all cried out or is it because of the things my family says to me.

Answer 1

I'm very sorry for the death of your mother, and i realize how much it hurts.. i have been through the same thing.

We all handle grief differently, and there is no time limit to our grieving; however, you might be wise to help yourself right now.... it's OK to cry, and it's OK to talk. I hope that you have a friend or someone you admire and respect to talk with from time to time....

Meanwhile i have listed a few websites about grief, and i'm going to see if i can find a discussion forums for you, as well. You can vent, talk, and express your feelings to others, who are going through the same things. Perhaps if you join a forums, you will feel less alone.

Also, you might check to see if there is a grief support group available in your community. Maybe call the local mental health clinic or hospital for more information.

hugs....

Answer 2

Sometimes your family can be the worst people to talk to.

At a time like this, you are ALL feeling raw and emotional. None of you have experienced losing a mother/wife so you are all new to the emotions you are feeling.

This means that some of your family might say to you that you are not coping, or not behaving properly, etc.

Don't ignore these comments; they are passionate responses from people who loved your Mum as much as you do.

Make sure that YOU are heard, though. You are going through just as difficult a time as they are. No one can dictate how you should behave when such a tragic thing happens.

Coping with grief is a personal issue and should be respected. Your family are saying mean things because they don't know what else to do.

Don't feel bad about not crying. That might not be the release that you need.

Talk to a professional about your grief. It can really help to speak to someone who has no emotional connection, and it can put your future into perspective.

Again, try not to take what your family is saying/doing to heart. You are all going through a really rough time, and they might not mean what they say. They could apologise in future, when the air clears.

Make sure you look after yourself. You've lost a very important person but you haven't lost your memories.

Answer 3

I don't think that there is anything unusual about what you are doing. Everyone grieves in different ways and different lengths of time. It has only been a month and a half. I think you not crying any more has something to do with both your family and being cried out.
It sounds like you are really having a hard time with her death and may be having some depression of your own. I suggest seeing a counselor or even going to your regular Dr. to see if you are depressed and may need some medication.
There are also grief counselors and grief camps through things like Hospice, you may want to contact them.
The only other advise I have is that your Mom loved you. She wouldn't want to be the cause of you crying, being upset or depressed. It would make her very sad to see you this way. She would want you to move on with your life and to be happy. It doesn't mean you don't love her and you aren't sad about her not being there, it just means you are honoring her memory by having a great life.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Your family is definitely being insensitive....unless by "talking about your mom", you mean having full conversations with her!! If you're doing something a bit crazy like that then I can understand why they'd have some concerns.

Look, everyone grieves a loss in their own way. It's very personal and doesn't necessarily need to be shared with those around you, especially if they don't understand. I wouldn't listen to them. I would just grieve and go through whatever you need to go through. Rely on a good friend to pull you through instead. Often friends can be better supports than our own family. I'm very sorry for your loss and know that while there will always be an empty space in your heart for your mother, it WILL get better. You will learn to celebrate her life instead of grieving her death.

Answer 5

I think that if a person believes a loved one will hear them after they pass on... then they should talk to them. But I would only do it while I was alone, because family and friends would tend to worry that you are having issues... It does seem like you are having a hard time and perhaps a grief counselor would help you. I think that if your mother passes on and you were close then it would take quite a while to "get over" it. As for not being able to cry anymore... perhaps you are finally accepting that she is truely gone and you are healing, which is normal. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

First of all, you have a right to feel the emotions you feel. You family has no right to try and take that away from you. Tell them you can't help feeling what you feel and that you would really appreciate their support rather than critisizm.

People who cross over are never far from you. I'm sure you mom stays near you all the time. She knows your grief and is sad for you. Remember all the good times and take comfort in knowing she's in a great place and that you WILL see her again. Live your life like you know your mom would like you to.

Answer 7

I agree.. Your family shouldn't be telling you your crazy. If anything they should be understanding and be supporting toward you. Every one handles things differently and that is just the way YOU cope with her death. Don't hold back just because of something they are telling you. Try to remember also that it might just be hard for them to keep bringing her up because it causes too much pain mentioning her. That's the way they cope with it. In the other hand you like to talk about her to help you cope. believe it or not i honestly believe that their is such a thing of cried soo much you have no more tears.. But Yes your disappointed in your family so your making yourself hold back emotions and that's not good.

Talk to them and tell them that's just your way and that if it hurts them to talk about her that your sorry but it helps you. And that you want their support.

If talking doesn't work then just let them be and talk to someone a friend a boyfriend. Your mom is sleeping and pretty soon she will awake in a beautiful paradise.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with crying and talking about your mom to your family but after awhile you need to stop or yyou willl never get over it.Your family isnt really being mean, they are trying to help you and themselves to move on..Your mom will be in your heart and soul forever and there will always be certain times where you will cry and talk about her again but just off and on. I always talk to my mom and dad, but i did the same thing you did..And it doesnt help any.. I know what your going through.. And im very sorry about your lose.

Answer 9

If you feel like talking, find someone that will listen, like a friend or a counselor. People have different ways of grieving and if you want to talk about your mom, you should be able to. My dad died last year and I totally understand how you feel. We always still talk about my dad, so I think that your family is being odd if they don't want to talk about your mom and remember her.

Answer 10

Sorry to say this, but screw your family...you have every right to express your feelings whether they like it or not...its hard to lose a parent you loved. I lost my father 3 years ago and I still think of him. The only crazy persons are your family