schools and buses targeting small children?

Question

my son is four and is being bullied and targeted by the school and the school bus drivers.because i chose to stay home with my son and raise him instead of working he is also an only child. he has never until starting school this year ever been in a classroom setting. obviously its a huge adjustment for him. he is used to being the center of attention and now hes not. and they dont understand that. or dont want to. i have also had problems with his afternoon driver. she refuses to drop him off on the district assigned stop she drops him on the busy main road instead. where people dont stop for the bus. he could get hit and killed. i am out there to get him but still. thats not her fault. i feel the bus stuff is racial. because she is black we are white and where i live blacks think they are owed something and better than white folks. i disagree i believe we are all equals. i have had several meetings regarding the school targeting my son it gets me nowhere the teacher even admitted

to doing it. sorry ran out of space, he is now suspended from the bus. so he will miss an unexcused day of school has my husband has the car and is out of state. what can i do as a mother to stop this.? i am ready to rip him out of this awful school and enroll him else where or do homeschooling. he deserves to be treated right.

how can i stop this?

also my son hates changes in routine

i refuse to believe race is the issue, she was very sweet today, he was also very good for herand she gave him a treat something she decided to try as it worked with her son when he was this age. thanks shes working with me and agreed there was a misunderstanding yesterday, she pulled the suspension

to momof4
we have tried that all she does is attack my parenting style she told me its my fault because he never went to daycare. at this point i will not be nice

the bus issue
i have fought for weeks to resolve this and i got tired and quit she was told she had to drop him inside but wont. its not worth it to me i dont want my son treated worse because i am a big old b. itch its not fair to him.

to mandy
he is the only childs in his class that has a full time stay at home mom

Answer 1

The bus not stopping at the designated spot is a serious issue, and you can definitely get it corrected. Send a letter explaining where the bus is supposed to stop, where it actually stops, and why it's a safety issue (stick to that problem only) to the principal and cc the school superintendant. I guarantee the problem will be fixed because the school will worry about being sued.

On the broader issue, I understand you're concerned about your son and how he's being treated. But do consider that it's just the nature of public education that no kid can always be the center of attention in a class of 20 or more children, and a kid who is trying to be really needs to learn how to work in a group. Otherwise it's just not fair to the other 19+ kids, who also deserve attention. It's perfectly understandable that if your child hasn't been in a group setting before, that he may need help in working on this. But it's also reasonable for the school to be trying to correct misbehaviors and teaching him how to be part of a group. You'll be doing your son a big favor if you sit down for a non-confrontational conference with the teacher and listen with an open mind to her perspective on the problem, then try to brainstorm solutions together that help your son while also taking into account the legitimate needs of the rest of the class. Good luck.

Answer 2

First, if he's the only child of a stay-at-home mom who is "targeted", I think you need to drop your claim that the school is targeting him because you don't work outside the home.

I am amazed at the number of parents who are completely anti-school and are sure their child is targeted by these cruel adults. My question is "why?" Why would an adult choose a career where they will be underappreciated and REALLY underpaid if they don't care about children, unless they just figure the school atmosphere would be most likely to provide them more innocent children to prey on and torment in their sadistic ways?

Keep in mind, my son IS the hard-to-handle one in his class. His teacher, the counselor and the principal all said we should sit down and have a talk and try to come up with a plan of action because he's having trouble and he's causing problems for the other 19 children in his class.

See that's the thing. Your child is allowed to have his issues about wanting to be the center of attention and the usual issues of adjusting, but it's the last day of October, he's had time to adjust, and the school is obligated to act in a way that is in the best interests of the majority of the students. That means that it's unreasonable to suggest that THEY need to adjust to your son's issues if he is disrupting the entire class.

Now, I get that it's difficult and that children should be dealt with supportively and stuff, but personal experience has shown ME that a child can often adjust more quickly and more completely if the people in their lives are not in a constant clash. Since we've worked WITH the school, my son is really adjusting well and there is truly a partnership between my husband and I, and his teacher and the school.

Maybe if you take a step back and re-evaluate your claims that everyone has it out for your five- or six-year-old, you may be able to prioritize and have some clout when you go to them to address REAL problems.

For example, the deal with the bus. That's a real problem. If he's supposed to be dropped off at a side street instead of the main highway, you need to fight to get them to do it right. But as long as you are making a big issue about how they are racist and they are targeting your son because you are a stay-at-home mom and everything else, any legitimate complaint you make will probably not be taken as seriously. No, it should not be that way, but that is often the case.

Whatever, I know you're going to thumbs-down me, and I don't care. This is getting ridiculous.

Answer 3

Here's a solution to the problem. If you don't work, why not drive your child to school and pick him up.

It's more logical to me anyway. I see the bus something for working parents (who i have nothing against). Like, school starts at 8:30 and you work at 8:30, but the bus comes at 8. So, it's convenient for a working parent that does not have the time to drive all the way to school to pick up their kids.

Secondly, no one is out to get your son. Your son is simply misbehaving. It's difficult for the teacher to conduct a lesson with 20 kids if someone is misbehaving. You need to realize that.

Plus, IMO, the school probably doesn't know if you are a SAHM or a working mom. I've worked with grade schools, both working and SAHM children have the same or equal issues. It's how the parent decides to act on those behaviors that makes or breaks a child's achievement.

Answer 4

Sounds like a tough situation. I would say however that if the bus driver refuses to drop your child off at the assigned stop, she is not doing her job. On this point at least, you have every right to complain. Go directly to the school principal or the superintendent. Bus stops are designated for very good reasons and there is no excuse whatsoever for altering them. As you suggested, this, at least is a safety issue, race doesn't come into it. If it does, that is even more indication that the driver isn't doing her job. Don't tolerate this.

Answer 5

Well, I think that woman is being racist, and especially to little kids. If that lady will not listen to you, tell the head of the school, and ask him to do something about it.

Answer 6

Tell the school administrator about this. Racism is BAD!

Answer 7

complain to the school to change the bus route.