My boyfriend has been asked to be a best man but someone else has arranged the stag weekend without him even knowing about it and he has now been asked to pay towards the cost of renting his suit. Is that normal? I thought they were ment to pay for it!
2007-10-31 03:11:05 · 27 answers · asked by shellovescharlie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I just wanted to add that he hasn't been excluded from the stag do but he had an invite by text when he didn't even know he wasn't arranging it!
2007-10-31 03:50:58 · update #1
Totally taking the piss. If the bridal couple are expecting you to wear something out of the ordinary, ie. not a suit you already own, they should cover the full expense. By the way bridesmaid's dresses are also supposed to be paid for in full.
Best man usually indicates the grooms best friend, confidant and male friend he is most connected to - it is therefore unheard of and perplexing that he should be excluded from the stag weekend??? Was he excluded out of ignorance, a misunderstanding or was it malice or spite? What has the groom said about this obvious slight. I suggest a heart to heart between the two blokes to sort it all out.
2007-10-31 03:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
It should have been communicated that he was not doing the stag party. It is not uncommon for someone other than the best man to plan it, but he should not have been left out of the loop.
As far as the rental prices go, I am not sure how it is for other places, but around here, the men pay for the suits/tuxes. The women also pay for their dresses. My fiance and I paid for part of the mens' tuxes and part of the womens' dresses to help with the costs. There is no way we could have paid for everything, it would have cost us $1,500 extra on top of everything else we paid for.
2007-10-31 07:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by vaya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, taking the piss, the groom should pay for the suit and the best man should arrange the stag weekend
2007-10-31 03:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by claire s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless he really really wants to be this persons best man I'd say he should just back out. Giving the stag party is the best mans job, no one elses! On pitching in for the tux, some people ask the wedding party to pay for their outfits, some don't.
2007-10-31 03:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The groomsmen are supposed to pay for their own tux (including the best man) He should have been the one to arrange the stag party but there is probably a logical explanation as to why the groom had someone else do it.
2007-10-31 04:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by JM 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yes about the stag weekend,no about paying towards the cost of renting the suit
2007-10-31 03:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by irene c 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They are taking the piss for sure. I was best man for my friend, I was asked to arrange all of the stag night (which actually turned out to be 4 nights). My suit was rented for me at no cost to myself, which is exactly how it should be.
2007-10-31 03:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by Geoff B 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
every one else except the groom pays for the stag do.
this should not have been organized by the other person but by the best man.
those that are part of the wedding party should not have to pay for their clothes. bridesmaids dont!
2007-10-31 07:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by LBB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my experiences, the best man pays for his tuxedo (usually a rental) and also is the one who plans the stag party. Someone probably just got too excited and did it without him...Does not make them a bad person...just a little inconsiderate in this case.....It is also possible that the groom had more than one very close friend. He did not know which one to choose for best man...so in the end he chose your b/f for best man at wedding and the other friend as the one to get to plan the party.....so as not to upset either friend.
2007-10-31 04:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by Greg M 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it is different here in the US but the bridesmaids and groomsman usually pay for their own rentals and purchases... I have been in 5 weddings and that is how they all worked! As for the "stag" well perhaps this was planned by a friend who didn't know the best man and thought he was just doing something nice... have your bf call the guy who is throwing it and ask if he can do anything to help since it was his responsiblilty
2007-10-31 04:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by daniegirl917 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋