Fathers who suddenly turn up and want contact with their kids demanding heaps of rights...If they take you to court, what will happen, if they:
- tried to force abortion on you, and when that didn't work ran off
- had 7 visits to see the child lasting between 10 minutes and an hour in two and a half years
- did not talk to the child during those visits, play with him, or hold/hug him, but instead talked to you about non-child related things.
What sort of rights will the court give him?
2007-10-31 00:46:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Try the legal section, or better yet get a lawyer. Nobody on here will be as expert on that matter then a local (good) lawyer.
2007-11-03 20:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi how are you?? Obviously been hit with a big one!!
You do have to be careful because you have to prove stuff to a family court. You have to prove the abortion thing. What you need to do it start documenting everything that happens to you between now and the case that the father does, phone calls, contact, abuse etc, put it in a notebook that you can take with you to a lawyer so there is some things written down. Worst case scenario the father gets visitation rights,and you get maintenance payments, or the court thinks he has waived his rights to being a father. Is his name on the child's birth certificate?? If not then he doesn't have a leg unless he gets a paternity test done. If his name is on the certificate you may have to fight this one in court. Because he has been absent most of the child life it does say things about his character, but you need to get advice from a family law lawyer, they know what they are doing, it is their profession.
Hope it all works out for the best!
2007-10-31 07:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The things that have happend wont make a difference in court, they wont care that he didnt want the kid to start with, what they will care about is that he is the biological father, wants visitation, and is stable (has no record).
If he has a good layer, you could be in a little trouble...
Else he will prob get weekly for fortnightly visitation, either supervised or unsupervised.
2007-10-31 07:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I struggle with this same exact issue. The jerk won't contact his daughter for 6 months but still sends me chatty emails. It is so hard to be in your shoes. But I will say that if he finally wants to see the kid, isn't that a good thing? They'll only give him the rights he would have had if he'd been there from the beginning.
2007-11-03 23:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by lotta_nada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a family lawyer one who deals with family court laws and ask them i dont know. in my country as long has they have no record they are granted full rights the past doesnt matter . the child deserves and should know both parents if your try to block them you would lose your child. the courts dont like parents who block the other on purpose. and what you are wanting us to say is you can keep him from your child and you cant he is the childs father and has every right to see and take his child if he wants
2007-10-31 07:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't know but in UK only married fathers have automatic rights. Sounds like a right*****hole to me - hope the courts will do what's best for your child.
2007-10-31 08:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Penelope R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if he is the dad, he is the dad,but he'll prabably have to pay back child support for all those years, but more than likely the courts don't have to give him any rights, he already has them as their legal father, you will probably have to try to take his rights away, somehow???? Good Luck
2007-11-03 23:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by rob2587 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋