My sister who's 10 years older than me has degenerative epilepsy and is schizophrenic from the trauma to her brain of uncontrollable convulsions.
My problem is that she hates me. Seven years ago, I cut all ties with her because she was verbally and physically abusive to my children who were toddlers at the time.
She's being well looked after in a home and visited by my two brothers and their wives, but everytime I try to make contact with her she makes up stories (ie, that I've tried to push her down the stairs or poison her to kill her or that I'm after her money (which is nothing)
She doesn't say the same things about her brothers, so why does she say those horrible things about me.
She hates me so much. Should I just let others in the family look after her, or what.
2007-10-31 00:14:09 · 12 answers · asked by Miss Sally Anne 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thanks for your kind words and advice. I appreciate each and every answer.
2007-10-31 00:44:14 · update #1
She's schizophranic the majority of them suffer from paranoia which is probably why she makes up stories. You upset her or angered her so her brain makes up these ridiculous stories to justify her hatred towards you.
I'd leave her be. You cut off ties years ago and she apparently doesn't want you to see her so why waste your time? It's really not worth your time or energy. IF she wants to see you I'm sure she can get ahold of you. Otherwise she won't and she'll just be misrable and abusive towards you.
I went threw this with my mother exboyfriend. He made up all these crazy stories about a family and friends that didn't exist .. He was actually abusive towards me ... A lot. Especially verbally. And I had a child at the time and he was even worse towards him. If Jesse even made a noise he was screaming at me ... Well I finally caught him lieing and it wasn't a schizo episode. My mom broke up with him because he stole a lot of money and our car ... Well he went into making up this story about how his son had died in an oil rig accident so he could appeal to my mothers soft side. Well this accident that he was describing happened in 1949 and I told him he was lieing ... He went to the cops and tolds them how I'd stolen his car, prostituting, doing drugs, and how he had cancer and was dieing, and how I'd been mistreating him and abusing my mother along with poisoning both of them! I was 15!!! I ended up getting arrested by like 10 cops and put in juevy ... I'll tell you it was not worth it! He still calls my mother and swears I did all this ... I finally had to change the phone numbers nd our names and move ...
Oh yes he called children services on me repeatidly afterwards .. I know most of the social workers on a personal basis ...
2007-10-31 01:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Holly Cookie Starr™♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a buddhist and believe in reincarnation and karma so I believe that life is fair. But if karma and reincarnation don't actually exist then life certainly is NOT fair. All depends on what true objective metaphysical reality is. And that is a matter of faith, it's not provable one way or the other. As for your sisters, why are you so attached to them if you didn't grow up with them and they don't care much about you? There's lots of cool people in the world. Try to find your non-blood family. "Friends are the family you choose."
2016-04-11 04:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, let the others in the family visit her. If you want to send her something then send it via the family. She doesn't even need to know it came from you (probably be best). Sounds you have become the focus for all her anger. Its a sad situation but it might just be best to leave it alone. Sometimes reality and rationalization just can't be received by the other party. Don't beat yourself up over it. You did the right thing by protecting your kids.
2007-10-31 00:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say this. It obviously bothers you. So I suggest you make at least one good effort. Let her know that you really do love her and that you miss a good relationship with her. Explain that you are sorry, but you can not be around if she treats your family bad, but you will still see her from time to time. Perhaps ask the other members of your family for advice.
Best of luck, God bless.
2007-10-31 01:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok from it sounds like your sister is lost in her own little world. At the end of the day your family is your family so i would let other memebers of your family look after your sister. I think if you give it time maybe she might talk to you but i think with her illness she is helping noone but herself. i had the same situation there this year my sister in law had a huge drink problem and we had to take in the children in to our house. (my mums house in which i live in), I think its really up to you in what you do. But personally myself unless your sister gets help theres not a lot you can do.
2007-11-01 06:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by IrishPrincess <3 my BC shep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no explanation to say why seriously mental ill people do such things.
Only you can decide if you want to have a relationship with her.
I suggest you weigh the pros and cons of the choice you make.
God Bless
2007-10-31 00:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by KyLoveChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself through all the pain, she obviously has something against you. You cant make people want you, just leave her alone, if she wants to make contact with you she will.
2007-10-31 00:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as she's being cared for, I see no reason to poison your life with further contact with her.
2007-10-31 00:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Donna 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes
it obviously upsets you sister when she talks about you
just remember she is ill , and cannot help it
all the best
Ian
2007-10-31 00:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation. STAY AWAY from her. It's not worth the aggrevation trust me.
2007-10-31 00:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by cadaholic 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋