Ok me and my boyfriend are sexualy active and also do head and hand to each other! I have never had an orgasm with a guy before but can easily give myself one.
I "faked it" with him a few times because he kept asking are you almost there, and in the end i was sick of him asking so faked it and he believed me.
The problem is now i really want him to be able to give me one! How can i explain that what he is doing isn't working for me, and that even though it feels good it isn't going to give me an orgasm? I don't want to mention that i've faked it though, it would hurt his self-esteem.
Please advice, i know how he can give me one but just how can i tell him without hurting him!
2007-10-31 00:11:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I am a dude, I would know when my feeling would get hurt.
First off, I would not admit that you were faking it. ever.
That will damage a man...
This is what you do.
While you are in the middle of let's say....oral, and he is doing something to you, give a little fake squirm. squeal of joy. Tell him that feels good and to to it again. Then tell him to go a little higher or closer to wherever you know feels good.
This way, he is happy. He thinks that he is pleasing you. You got him to please you by a little white lie which directed him to where it really does feel good.
Many times, women think that a man is only out to get his. This is not true. We are happier making sure that you got yours.
A man is very sensitive in bed and can get his feelings hurt really bad. Do not make him think for one second that he is not up to par.
Do not tell him that what was working then is not working now. DO NOT TELL HIM THAT!!!!!
Take this advice from a man, as you are dealing with a man.
2007-10-31 00:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by james j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go for a while without faking, tell him what he was doing isn't working anymore, then suggest what you think will work. That way, you haven't admitted to faking and no one's feelings get hurt.
2007-10-31 07:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jane T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen...no ones thier bodies like themselves. It would be silly to think we know exactly the "spots" that turn you on. We have a rough idea...but only you know. If you like using a vibrator..hey tell us...guys like :tools" The key is asking for what you need (which goes both ways). Just like some people like thier feet massaged and other can't stand it because it tickles. COMMUNICATION!!!!
2007-10-31 13:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cubsfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try switching positions and find one you like. Also switching positions alot will prevent him from busting if hes got a problem with doing that fast. Try doggy style and masterbate while rubbing ur clit, u will get off in no time! Also you shouldnt fake because he thinks hes doing something right, and hes obviously not.
2007-10-31 07:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him while having it, Say hey this feels better or something like it, or tell him the last postion is was uncorftable, more or less this happens a lot. So instead of telling what he doing is wrong, tell him what feels better.
Hope this helps good luck
2007-10-31 07:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is asking, then he wants to know. If you are having sex, than you can't get more intimate than that, so tell him. Ask him what he would like you to do to him, that would give him more satisfaction, and then tell him what you want.
2007-10-31 07:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋