My b/f is getting bored of the routine we are both 23?

Question

We have been together 3 years and a few months, I know he loves me, and i love him, but he says he is getting bored of the routine. I try to always think up things that he would love doing, I aint in a well paid job, though i could afford doing something special now and then, I hardly have any holiday days left, i only have 5 which i want to keep as im looking for another job so need them for interviews, my b/f has just came out of retail work and has joined a temp job from an agency which "maybe" ending in november (he hasnt been told much about that) he gets paid weekly and is absolutly broke, hes outgoings are double what hes incomings are. So with that, we dont have a lot of choices to do things, we go cinema and go clubbing now and then, Do you have any other ideas what we could do, and what can i do for him to get out of the "bored of the routine" phase. I please him everyway i can, its hurting me knowing that we could finish over not being so active socially.
Please. Thank you

omg whats wrong with you people! we have no problems in the sex department i did not even mention that, can you just answer a question like an adult instead of immature children. (thoughtful answerers, this aint directed at you)

Answer 1

This didn't seem like a joke Q to me, sad to see so many crude answers to a real Q. I have been here before, so I understand what you are trying to say. Just ignore the people who gave nonsecquitor answers because you can't give an answer for something that takes more than just reading facts, this is an emotion based answer. Listen, when you struggle with certain issues in life such as financial insecurity it can take its toll in so many ways you won't even notice it slowly eating away at your quality of life. I can tell you every step that can/might happen when someone says "they are getting bored of the routine". First, how do you think he feels knowing he might not have a job soon? It makes his stomach turn so he tries not think about it, but he has to so he can plan his next move, Thats how he probably feels by himself. Then regarding the two of you both of you might feel like your climbing a mountain together and just as you almost get close to the top, you find out it has slippery surface all the way to the top, so you slide back down to the bottom again, try the other side of the mountain, same thing happens. It sucks doesn't it. You get home from work and think well lets just try and be
happy here with each other and what we do have, doesn't work ,so then you say well maybe if we had a little money to go somewhere and have some fun it will make us a little happier, so you spend some money that you don't have, and will probably regret later, justifying it by saying "hey we deserve it" You go out you think, hey we actually did have some fun. That just might bring the light back into our lives, but sadly both of you think, I wonder if they are still feeling the light of life from the other night, because mines gone, but pretend its not. Basically all this lets try and think of ways to make ourselves feel happy is just making you feel worse therefore re-enforceing your unhappiness. I am surprised depression has not set in. The fact is this is your situation for now so just try to do all you can to prepare. You two are like two sinking ships trying to rescue each other if you don't make a plan. Also when he says "he is tired of the routine" he is really saying he is tried of trying to climb the mountain of life, and wants to be free of this emotional anchor of uncertainty that lies ahead, since you have been in his life while he is facing this, he may mentally connect the two together even though they both have nothing to do with each other. I hope that my assessment of your situation was correct and if so you gained some insight from another perspective of how men react to things differently than women. I do have some advice that is sure to help any growing tired relationship. Do activites outside of the house, force yourself to get outside. Fresh air produces healthy feramons, also any physical activity will help you have a clear minded which can bring some happiness. this one may sound corny but it works, get interested in anything you choose, (you will want to choose something from nature, due to its cost: Free) and start collecting. Weather its leaves, rocks, shells, pictures of dogs, bugs, hot wheels cars. The hunt for the collection will create a bond of strength & unity that represent if we do it together it can be done. Gee, I hope I win best answer. I really tried.

Answer 2

Every relationship comes to that point.. but it's just a matter of working things out. I mean he should be more understanding that at this moment you both aren't in the best economical finance.

Go to the park and play some sports maybe with a group of friends ( guys love sports..lol)

Maybe driving up to a spot where you can see the city light and have a night picnic or to the beach

rents games to play at home with him..

Bowling

even miniature golf.. just pay for one.. and you both share i know it sounds cheap but i think its rip off..lol

Rent a movie marathon ...like all scary movies..

if he like video games play with him.

Go over friends house.. have a BBQ with just 2 or 3 people

alot of things require money at least the more active things..

You could save some money and go to an amusement park.

You can even go to the movies pay for a ticket then sneak in other movies and just spend all day at the cinema..lol

I'm not a cheap person I'm just trying to give you tips on what to do since your low on money we have all been there before..lol

Answer 3

Bored of routine or of the relationship?? Its a hard question to ask but i think you might need too in this case.

It seems to me that you are taking all the responsibility for making this work ... is he as concerned as you are.??

It sounds like at 23 and after three years together perhaps this fella of your wants to try something/one different.

Its hard to let go but perhaps you have just outgrown each other and who knows some one fab could be round the corner .. someone who is willing to hold down a job, put some effort into things etc.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I have hardly any money either, but there are tons of things to do that don't cost a thing. It all depends on what you like and where you live. I live in an area where I enjoy all the four seasons so there are tons of things to do.
In the winter, nice long walks in the trails (beautiful), ice-skating, sledding, etc...
In the spring, hike to a nice area and have a picnic, star gaze,
In the Summer, swim, camp, hike, roller blade, picnics,
In the Fall, country drives, basically everything because its prime weather (that's if you live in an area that has all of these four seasons).

Be creative, try new things, be silly and explore the world. There are tons of things out there that are inexpensive.

Answer 5

..it just means you guys are very comfortable with each other ... which can be a good thing ... it is hard when you are younger, but there are lots of things you can do that don't require much money.... arrange "date" nights, where you each take a turn planning the date.. could be a walk along the river or in a park... a picnic...; invite friends over on weekends for a pot luck dinner and card games... ask each couple to bring a dish to share... these are fun ways to socialize, because you can end up taking turns at each others' homes, and just basically make a dish to share and bring something to drink... then you can play cards or board games; take up a hobby or sport together (bird watching, jogging, hiking in the woods... lots of free or near free activities); if you pack his lunch, put little love notes inside for him like looking forward to our date on whatever night... get a puppy or be a foster parent for a puppy .. then take it for walks together .... you can also sign up for the big brother big sister program or another volunteer place in your area and participate in that together ... or serve in a soup kitchen, things like that... volunteer together, which will make you both feel really good about yourselves... and each other .... while helping those less fortunate than you ...

Answer 6

Loads of people will disagree with me but it's him that has the problem, not you. It's all about being 23.....and a man.

Your brain tells you to build a nest, his brain says otherwise.

That said, there are things you could do together, and that won't cost you a stack of money or time. However, they're not unimaginative things like clubbing and drinking. How about hill walking, canoeing, caving, cycling - all active sports, all that take you both into something new and different and where you have to work together outside your normal comfort zone

Answer 7

Picnics, finding a new tv show you love to watch together, a handmade sexy board game, home cooking - with candles, set aside a time just to sit on the couch, no tv and talk and laugh, Go swimming in a free pool, look up on the internet for fun things to do together.... just think outside the box... take up a free sport like running or soccer in the park together. Think about his intrests and try to gear something towards what you both like. Relationships are hard, so dont take it too harsley, just let him know you are trying and hopefully he will put in the effort aswell... good luck hun! x x x

Answer 8

Try stuff at home plan a movie night, game night! My husband works 7 days 12 hrs so we never get much out of the house time but for out of the house stuff there are a lot of free things try going for nice walks look on the net for free stuff to do in your area!

Answer 9

we are roughly in the same boat financialy anyway, we have to find cheap ways of entertaining three children because we are always skint, things we have been doing for a bit of fun include
1] going to a car boot and giving each of us £2.50 each to but the best bargain we can and see how much profit we can make on it on ebay

2] going for long walks through open fields and woodlands, this is more fun if you have a dog

3] cycle rides

4] try going out on a boat fishing at sea, it cost you around £25 a head, a good skipper will have tackle on board you can use, and you get to fill up your freezer with food {its cheaper on the east coast than the west,} you will never have so much fun shopping for food

Answer 10

It is very hard really, life is not easy. Try to changes the habits you have until now ( in case you live together), change the menu of the dinner, changes the furniture in home, invite friends over, go for walks in the park, put nice music in home and relaxing in the same time
make massages for him light candles; and advise him in all his moves
make some new decorations in home you do not have to spend to much