Also what could be the practical problems and drawbacks associated with this kind of relationship? And the solutions (if any) to these problems...
http://www.polyfamilies.com/index.html
http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html
2007-10-30 22:57:47 · 13 answers · asked by prad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I don't share and I think the most meaningful relationships are monogamous. I only need one love and hope that there is always someone who thinks the same way.
2007-10-30 23:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be a great life,if it is something everyone agrees to before,but if you get married and a few years down the line decide to add a second or third to your marriage your wife will probably be more than a little upset.I have lived the multi-women household and it was nice but it was there idea.They already lived together before I was added to the mix.It was 3 women and the guy they had been with left and when I dated one of the women she explained what they wanted and I met the other 2 and it went well.No I was never married to any of them.I perform marriage ceremonies now and do mostly alt.lifestyle weddings and I have performed several multi-partner wedding.They aren't legal as far as going to court but I do the wedding and they receive a wedding certificate that looks just like regular couples.The main goal is everyone be happy,EVERYONE. Good luck with whatever lifestyle you choose.
2007-10-31 06:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not for everyone, and it's not an evolution of marriage. It's just one option that some people are psychologically equipped to pursue. Trying to evangelize for polyamory will just turn it into the next Kabballah or Atkins Diet, and we don't bloody need that. People inclined to love plurally will do so whether they have a bandwagon to jump on or not.
You posted the front pages for those sites, so you have ample opportunity to read about the problems and drawbacks, and their solutions. I will say that successful poly relationships require constant, honest, transparent, ACTIVE communication.
2007-10-31 06:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by djnightgaunt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends on the marriage and partners included but for the most part I do not think so. Everyone wants to be number one in someone's life and polyamory does not allow for such devotion. You're part of a relationship of multiples and expected to, at best, be even with the other partner(s). At some point that's not going to fly unless you're way super lucky and get the right mix of people together.
My husband and I opened ourselves to it and found that what we were looking for was more love like what we have but what we were getting were people who were playing games or had an ulterior motive. (i.e. to break us up)
Humans have evolved from other species of mammals to become monogamous and devote themselves to one person. There is no need to compensate for infant loss or dying off of the species. We're doing okay with monogamy in terms of populating the earth.
In the end, the logical thing is to grow with your partner and accept that your chances of growing in opposite directions are high. If you find you can no longer accept or appreciate the differences, then be mature enough to remember what you had that was good and walk away friends.
2007-11-02 20:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by CK 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on the women i mean in the bible there are many great men in history that the bible speaks about that have practice this type of marriage and unless ur part of a religion that accepts this and a women who feels its common in her region then go for it if not then the set back is that one if a women is not with it she can take u to court and suit u u can also get locked up for that but thats in the states
2007-10-31 09:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister thought just like you did?
She even practiced it for over 2 years on a ARIZONA COMPOUND for free love as they called it .
The problem came when her husband decided he had enough of it and told her he wanted a divorce!
She refused to believe he would divorce her so when she got served with the papers she went nuts and shot him!
At temped murder gets you 15 to life in ARIZONA did you know that?
It's doesn't work from any standpoint because no matter how mature you are about jealously it tends to bite back and when it does it usually hurtful!
2007-10-31 06:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it may be natural in ancient times. present day if law of the land permits it is OK. single spouse marriage evaluated due to economic background and law of the land where dwells
2007-10-31 06:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by vep 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Such relationships are not approved by law, religion and many advanced societies. To me it does not look proper with a long term perspective.
2007-10-31 06:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Great idea. I'm a law student and can't wait to get all the twisted family law clients.
2007-10-31 06:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by MWestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When there are so many girls compared to guys at this time i totally agree with poly families. expecally since guy/lesbian relationships are wrong.
2007-11-02 09:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋