Ok so it will be me, my partner and my 2 daughters (from a previous relationship) on xmas eve and all waking up together xmas day and having dinner at home, just the 4 of us. However he wants to go and see his own children xmas day for a few hours, which i have absoloutley no problem with! The only problem i am having is that his ex is going to be at her mums 4 xmas so i am unable to go with him as she does not like me!! His x is happy for me to go (i think anyway) but its her family with the problem. So me an my girls are gonna be left on r own for a few hours! We are having his kids from the 27th dev for a few days anyway! Also he wants to go an see his mum on boxing day, again this i do not have a problem with but his x and his kids are going to be there as they have been invited. My partners family do not like me also and do not want me to be there!! They havent even met me yet but still they will not give me a chance. I have said to my partner that i might go to my mums 4 xmas ...
2007-10-30 21:35:55 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
but he is not too happy about it as he says he wants to see me!! I feel as though im getting pused out, yet i feel so bad for my partner as he feels he is having to choose!!!
2007-10-30 21:36:46 · update #1
It just feels as though he is going to be spending xmas away and with the ex! Going to her mums for a few hours xmas day (without me) and going to his mums boxing day when she will be there (again without me!) I cant make him choose that is just wrong and i would expect him to choose his family! If i was ever given that choice i would always choose my family! They are there for life partners may not be!!!
2007-10-30 21:54:51 · update #2
PERSONALY,,, I would go with him anyway, you don't have to pay any attention to the family, or at least try not to is they are jerks like you say. Look at it as you , him and the kids and there in your house. Or better yet I always say killem with kindness and make them look like the ediots they are. That way you can still feel good about yourself and leave with a smile on your face, it beats the hell out of being upset and wondering why they don't like you. YOU CAN DO IT!! What the hey, you only live once. (well that we know of anyway)LOL
2007-10-30 21:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know i think its a holiday and to keep the trouble down you should just let him go see the other children. after the holidays are over see if you can do things to participate with the other children as well. invite them out, have them over, that kind of thing. exes don't usually like to be friendly with the current love. boy it would be convenient if every family was like mine...my mother and my stepmother are best friends! good luck!
2007-10-31 04:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Kitty Katt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry..
But a "partner" who chooses his family over you..
is NOT a partner.
He is part of the problem.
If he can't stand by you now...he will never stand by you.
Tell him he has to make a choice..
You or his family.
2007-10-31 04:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by sasha1641 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a break. He's trying to do the right thing by everybody. There's nothing you can do about his family's not liking you; but that's not your problem. It's his family's problem.
2007-10-31 04:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem pretty excited, you should relax more. Don't worry about it, unless you don't want to see his kids for a couple days...
2007-10-31 04:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by Leslie Chow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should enjoy with ur kids
2007-10-31 04:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Rose N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont worry about it ..
2007-10-31 04:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋