Things used to be great (sexually) between my husband and I when we were dating. As soon as we moved in together he got real shy but I figured he would get over it after awhile (I was the first woman he's ever lived with and by his stories definitely the most "adventerous"). I love him to death and now we are married and have two beautiful daughters. But if I never brought up sex then it would probably never happen!! He won't ever try to turn me on, take the reigns, or be playful at all. The only time he initiates sex is on weekend mornings (this is VERY RARE) and it's usually bc he was horny in his sleep and is trying to plug me before he's even really awake. Sex is always the same with him. He always touches me the same way and he always wants to finish in the same position. I got sick of always being the initiator and decided to see what he would do but now we haven't had sex in like 6 weeks...it's like he never even thinks about it? I'm 22 and he's 26 so it's not like we're old or
2007-10-30
19:34:37
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anything. I asked him if he "takes care of himself" but he's just like "no, I don't really do that all that often." There aren't problems in any other areas of our relationship, just this one. I've brought it up a few times but he just acts shy about it. We've been together for a while now...Why is he shy around me when I'm his wife? Do you think he could be cheating on me?
2007-10-30
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DTB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
dump that B*TCH
2007-10-30 19:36:55
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answered by Anonymous
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Cheating, no. Masturbating, definitely. ALL men "take care of business." They do it because it's a different kind of feeling and it's fun to do. That said, this doesn't mean he wants sex from you. I think your husband is tired. I think he has work and home life on the brain. At 26 men become obsessed with what they can accomplish by 30. It starts around age 25 or so. He also has the family, home, responsibilities, etc., on the mind. I think he's (both of you) are in a routine, tired and maybe stressed. Sometimes in marriage you grow tired of the same thing. Adventurous as it may be. You two could go well with a vacation away from the home and kids. Sometimes this is all it takes. I wish you the best and be thankful this is the ONLY problem in your marriage, because it really isn't a problem at all. It's easily fixed with some simple steps. Men who know they can get sex from their wives don't cheat as often. You're fine. Just grab him away from the routine and have some fun!
2007-10-31 02:49:34
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answered by MWestbrook 4
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He doesn't sound like the type but is he out all the time??When my husband and i married 17 years ago he was the same way i would think all kinds of crazy things worried about him thinking i wasn;t pretty enough or sexy enough or cheating,never had sex well sometimes...back then like 1 time a month..now when ever, everyday if i want...just keep on him if you tell him enough he will start listening may take some time so do your best to not get bored w/sex and don't give up men are funny that way And everyday say I Love you sweetheart or cutie or Sexy everyday more then once and say thank-you men notice that stuff..Just Keep trying it took me 7yrs and alot of being nice even when all i wanted was for him to jump me. men go figure(not all of them... :0) plus what they said up there ,Human&Mwestbrook
2007-10-31 03:01:31
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answered by Amberle 1
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If the only changes you noticed are his sex drive then don't worry about him cheating!
A guys sexual peak is 25 so you shouldn't expect a surprises, in that department.
When I was just married, once I found the right way to satisfy my wife, sexually, I would repeat it all the time, because with guys, it isn't necessary to change!
If you aren't satisfied with your sex life with him, try to talk with him about it!
There might be a logical reason.
Tell him in a way that won't make him feel like he's less of a man, or you could make things worse!
Good Luck!
2007-10-31 02:56:34
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answered by Anonymous
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He could be but there are a lot of men out there that look at their wife different after they get pregnant. To them they are mothers. Don't know what it is but they just look at their wife a different way. Usually it is in the sex department.
2007-10-31 02:43:54
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answered by Anonymous
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No i do not think he is cheating,maybe he's just not not a very sexually active person,maybe sex is'nt number one on his list,he may have difficulty getting erections(not from you),try to probe the issue,ask him,if he acts shy continue asking him,tell him it's bothering you and don't let him clam up on the subject,maybe he's embarrassed,that's why he goes all shy,i really don't think he's cheating on you though,definately not.
2007-10-31 07:20:02
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answered by Anonymous
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maybe he's gay----kidding.
seriously, that happens sometimes, especially when the couple do not seem to communicate about everything (not just intimate things like sex and fantacies and all). perhaps you should try to get into his thoughts coz men at his age are generally cooked up with a lot of things in their heads, mostly about career and stuff...so maybe you should just try to understand him but be firm and open about what you want to happen. It is important to tell him when and how you want the sex act...and maybe remind him that he is welcome to do it with you, and tease him from time to time---that usually works honey---
2007-10-31 02:43:00
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answered by darling 2
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I dont think he is cheating. This has happened to me. I more than likely has NOTHING to do with you. He may insecure about his performance. Partners can feel when the other is not reall into it. Try alcahol, remember the young reckless years. Sex was great, right!
2007-10-31 03:33:42
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answered by SpecialKel 1
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Cheating is not the first thing that comes to mind, more like hormonal problem. Maybe he likes guys? Maybe you intimidate him? Have you actually asked him about it?
2007-10-31 03:33:35
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answered by Linni 6
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another thing makes a man act like that is when he finds out you might be cheating on him many have and sked the same question but is was the one who was asking who was cheating . my opion?
2007-10-31 03:44:56
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answered by the_silverfoxx 7
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2007-10-31 02:42:40
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answered by MHnurseC 6
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