When you realise we're all only human, does being a man or woman matter?

Question

I have been described as an indepdent, strong, indifferent and even heartless woman. I like to think I am all that, bar heartless.

But an incident today really hurt my feelings and in my downtrodden state, I suddenly realised humans are weak and vulnerable. We may argue that one gender is better than the other, but all the similarities we share as human beings seem so much more important than comparisons.

There is no better gender, only different genders. Everyone is the same, as human beings.

**You may say that such an outlook is only because I am in a rather pessimistic mode. But sometimes, only in pessimism can you see realism**

Oh my goodness.

You wonderful people. I had no idea I am so loved.

Thank you so much for your compliments and assistance. All this has made me feel 100 times better.

Answer 1

One birth
One death
One tear
One breath
One blood
One pain
One fear
One gain

We live
We die
We suffer
We cry

All join
All grasp
All blossom
All gasp

Be one
Be we
Be all
Be one

Shingoshi Dao

Answer 2

Sorry to hear you had a rotten day and then met a challenge, and then didn't make an issue of that. Hang in there, and keep your spirits up! We've all had stupid moments of wishing we'd said X or Y to A or B - spoken up, or at least cleared our throat or exclaimed out loud instead of - shall I say, choosing our battles? What if you had chosen the wrong target instead, because you were feeling stronger & more confident? I'm hoping you will add a comment on this in ten years from now, because I'd be curious to know how that works out.

Nope, when you're being selfish and feel threatened, gender doesn't matter, it's a luxury. What really matters is that someone caused you to feel one or the other and couldn't care less which you felt, so long as you got out of their way.

And you can't let that pass, so you think this has never happened before and you should shun others, you leper.

Genders? Better? Worse? Rubbish. Let them figure out & document your reasons. Stand up for yourself, for heavens sake! Shout - Hey!

If they couldn't hear you, or overlooked you, and you're so thoughtful and convinced that you are fair ... do you really need to await support from like-minded people? Get well soon, and pace yourself meanwhile! Honestly, allow yourself some feelings and forget thinking about it until you have some other options!

Answer 3

Normal people have feelings no matter how much they try to hide them they are there. I am extremely sensitive to certain things like seeing someone in pain or being taken advantage of. But yet there are people who look at the same thing and are desensitized so they feel nothing towards it. As for my feelings it is very hard to get to me by using words but as stated I can be gotten to if someone were to hurt someone I cared about (family and friends) and then I go into protection mode. Now as for my ex-wife she is the heartless one and does not care about anything but her image and her own person. But I believe that anyone can go either way when it comes to emotions so man or woman there is no difference!

Answer 4

Actually, we are all humans, all born equal, because being equal doesn't mean being the very same person. We can feel, we can be sad and happy, think or act, love and be loved back. We can share our ideas, our very different ideas.
I'd never tried to judge, only to listen and thing. I hope you're feeling happier now, however, as you said before, everyone is equal to you. So, everyone is connected. So, you'll never be alone, you'll always find a listening ear, a helping hand, a hug and a smile.

Answer 5

Don't let the fact that you have vulnerabilities get you down. We all have them. They are only weaknesses when you don't realize you have them. Being aware of them gives you empowerment and strength. Knowing yourself, embracing who you are, and accepting yourself for all that you are is something a strong person can do. You're right, we're all human beings. We all have things in common. We share many attributes, both positive and negative. Even the fact that we are all uniquely different in some ways is something we all have in common.

*smile*

Answer 6

Uhh... yes? Do you have a penis? If yes you're an male. Do you have a vagina you're a female. If you have both you're intersex .... your gender effects your hormones ext... so ya it kinda does matter. Otherwise grown men would be punching 100 lb girls in the face and killing them... and it would be ok if the girl initiated it.... however men are usually much stronger so it's not...

Answer 7

We are all human, sure, but when one group within the human race is treated better or worse than the other it most definitely matters which one we belong to exactly as the slaves, who were as human as their owners but the difference between them (treatment by others, rights and responsibilities, etc.) was vast.

The same is true between men and women. Both are human yet the difference between them is vast due mainly to the way they are treated as well as their individual rights and responsibilities.

Answer 8

Smile. You had a humbling experience today. They are good for the soul. However, please do not lose your identity in the process. When push comes to shove, that is one thing no one can take away from us. I also would not judge people by gender they belong to: look at what makes them unique and cherish that knowledge.

BTW, your description tells me about a lady with a great professional success. So much so, that you have someone who holds it against you. Take their comments as a compliment. After all, you know exactly who you are.

Answer 9

People are hurtful when they are hurting, regardless of gender. These hurtful/hurting people may be numb to their own pain, but it is there nonetheless.

It is difficult to have compassion for those who offend and oppress you, it requires an inner labor, but such compassion promotes your growth. Sometimes it can serve to disarm the oppressor.

Thank you for sharing your compassion via this question.

Answer 10

hello

some people tend to think that pessimism is bad thing. in reality pessimism is realism. WE ARE HUMANS, DOESN'T MATTER MAN OF WOMAN. this is reality.

as humans we share all qualities: regardless of gender.

you know one wise man said this a long time ago: we are the same as humans, we are different as personalities.

Cheers,
Steven

P.S. I'm glad that you're in my Y! contact list

Answer 11

I don't think it matters if we are man or woman. We are only human. All just as dumb because I feel the the human race is really very slow. There are some dumb woman out there too.
Believe it or not. (yes that was a sexest remark but I am a woman)