Do you like to give to others or receive from others? Honesty please....?

Question

Or maybe you like both.....to give and to receive.....I like both, but will admit I hate to receive something I do not need or want....I will save it and give it to someone else as a gift.....Bad--I know, but I am being honest....

GW--your true person, love as all we really should need from others...makes you feel warm, better then any material item out there....and then again I end up giving the item away......Not nice of me......

Answer 1

To tell you the truth, I much prefer to give than to get. Others have little or no idea what I would like, and at my age, I want for very little, if anything. I am a nasty one to buy for, as I have had, in my lifetime, just about everything I thought would bring me pleasure...it usually didn't . What does bring me pleasure is to find something for another that they want, can't afford, and love having it...that is real pleasure. When asked, I mean it when I say, "Just tell me you love me." ... a greater gift than that I cannot get. Hoaky, ain't I? Peace, Goldwing

Answer 2

I agree with you. So, I guess I would have to say I get more pleasure in giving gifts to others. I just don't go out and buy "anything" for a person's birthday or for the holidays, I put allot of thought into the gift I select and the person to whom I give it. I admit I'd rather give the "perfect" gift at unexpected times than something I'm not certain the recipient would like on expected occasions.

When I "re-gift" unwanted items that I have received as gifts, I always tell the person that I am giving it to that it is a "re-gift"
that I really don't want or can't use and that I thought that they would enjoy.

I must admit that "sometimes" I get a little sad when I receive gifts that I know the giver put no thought into before buying it for me especially when it is a close family member or friend.
who knows me well. I have to tell you that I'm not into extravagant gifts either. I'm usually happy with a bouquet of flowers from our local grocery store or a "good" pen.

Answer 3

When I had the money and younger I always bought for
friends and family when special occasions came around, and
of course for Christmas. I've always been excited to see their
faces when they open my gifts. So much so, that in family
gatherings, I've always wanted to be last. Savoring the looks
and enjoyment on everyones' faces has always meant more
to me, than getting a present myself. There is still so much of
the gleeful child in me,when it comes to birthdays and Christ-
mas gift giving. How I miss that there is hardly any family left.
And I'm next in line, if age matters. I have such good memor-
ies of bigger family get togethers. And the late hour we'd
be up to, til everyone had a chance to open their gifts. I also
remember the late hours assembling things for our kids. And
the one Christmas morning, they were disappointed at what
'Santa' left. Luckily, that was the only time. Their expressions
cut into my heart that year. Luckily we were able to make up
for that the next year.
I have never re gifted. It would be on my conscience. I
would rather make and give food, anyday, than regift with
something I couldn't use nor want. That's not what holidays
or birthdays are about. It's giving something from the heart
that you either take pride in making, or buying outright, just
for the mere pleasure of bringing happiness to the receiver.

Answer 4

I don't receive gifts that often, but I love when I receive a gift that thought was put into and it is something that I want or can appreciate. Truthfully, there is no greater joy to me that to give and to see the person's face light up, because I only give what I know they will want. I listen well and make a mental note and surprise them later. I don't believe in reciprocity but people sometimes feel they need to give back because I have given to them...I don't like that. I give to those who need also and that is a very special gift that brings true joy! Good Question!

Answer 5

I do like both. It took me awhile to learn to enjoy receiving gifts of any kind, I used to feel far more comfortable giving. It occurred to me that graciously accepting gifts, appreciating the time and thought, *is a form of giving*. So, now I am comfortable and grateful for being able to give and receive.

Here is one example; my husband bought me a jade bangle bracelet as a wedding gift 27 years ago. It is beautiful, and at the time I was surprised and delighted, but also a little uncomfortable that he spent the money. I still wear it once in awhile. I had it on about a month ago, and he did notice. He told me that he loved seeing me still wearing it. It does feel good that such a simple act on my part can still make him feel good.

I think we all like to be appreciated; and so it is important to both give and receive. I also think that material things are not necessarily the best gifts.....our time, attention, and actions are the important ingredients to 'happy giving and merry receiving'.

Answer 6

When receiving, I know we should receive a gift with a grateful heart, but I always feel the need to say that they shouldn't have spent the money.

I love to give gifts, food to the food bank and help families for Thanksgiving and Christmas.

I live modestly and have all I need and tell my kids and grand-kids not to spend their money but they still do.

So every once in a while I end up giving their gift back to them.

They make sure they buy something they want because they know they will get it back.

I made a deal with one of my friend to donate to our local food bank in each others name and forget the Christmas gift that we have exchanged for 25 years.

Thanks for the great question.

Answer 7

As far as receiving, a simple "Happy Birthday", "Merry Christmas " etc will suffice for my pleasure. Giving is truly a selfish act that I very much enjoy, a gift can make the receivers eyes twinkle and spread so much good will and joy. (and I get the warm glow inside that's' value exceeds the gift)

Answer 8

I have all that I need. Giving is seriously better for me personally. To see the look on a happy face is more rewarding than any gift I'll ever receive. My son is at that phase where receiving a gift lights up his whole face, so I'm guessing I'll greatly enjoy his 5th birthday come February 1st. Good question.

Answer 9

I love giving presents - I am fortunate to be in a better financial state than most of my friends so I prefer them not to get anything for me. I am not materialistic so money never gets spent on new furniture/electrical items unless damaged or broke .... nor do I feel the need to wear designer clothes etc ..... cheap haircuts and no beauty sessions leaves plenty of spare cash for taking my friends out and buying gifts!

Answer 10

I love to give rather than receive. I love buying for Christmas, birthdays, or for no reason at all. I really don't like when someone gets me a gift and I have nothing to give in return.