We tied the knot only after a few months of knowing one another. I come from a different country. When we were dating he made several trips to my across the continents to meet me & my family.
Shortly after we married, I moved to be with him. However only a few weeks later, trouble started. He kept saying he made a mistake & wanted me to ‘get out of his house’ – over every little disagreement we had. This also resulted in him destroying my books & other personal belongings. I lived in fear all those months. When my parents visited us later in the year, he threw them out of our house too – without an apology. And still refuses to apologise even today.
Today we are separated. I am devastated & broken-hearted given the way things went as I always believed that a marriage should last a lifetime. He says he is disappointed & sad as well!! What gives? Any ideas on what might explain his behaviour? How did he expect things to be any different??
2007-10-30 17:07:11 · 13 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, that is horrible. Sorry you are going through this. It is sad, but it sounds like this man is not a very good person...to even throw your parents out of his house? It sounds like you could find someone much better for you who treats you respectfully. I know it's sad to get a divorce but better now than 10 years down the road.
2007-10-30 17:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by chandiepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that has happened and my heart goes out to you. Since you haven't gave ages I am presuming that your husband is rather young. Having little to go on here, rather he lived at home prior to the marriage, he was military, or what its a little hard to second guess him. However I feel and believe that it had something to do with his parents. As you said he threw them out when they came to visit without any reason and refuses to apologize to them. It sounds as though he might have felt pushed or pressured into marrying "someone" and chose that person to be you. From your what you are saying it doesn't sound like your fault if that is what you are asking, but his problem. Sometimes marriage changes a person, however in his case I truly don't believe that he wanted to be married but had to.
2007-10-31 00:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ghostwriter1959 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't explain his behavior, but I can tell you that you guys didn't take the time to get to know each other before tying the knot. At least, I think you're young and can learn an important lesson. Better luck next time.
2007-10-31 00:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should not have married someone you don't know. Guy sounds pyscho - get your stuff and get out. Seek an attorney for advice - its not HIS house its your and his
He is just maybe feeling a little guilty for being such a creep
This guy is trouble!
2007-10-31 00:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you think getting married without really getting to know him was going to end up happy? He made a mistake so he is trying to drive you out.Cut your losses and get out
2007-10-31 00:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a man and men are sometimes a ball of confusion one minute he knows what he want the next he doesn't i was in a 17 yr marriage when my hubby decided he wanted to marry someone younger so what am i to do but let him go and keep my sanity what i'm saying is your life is more important than mediorce BS girl let it go and ..LIVE YOUR LIFE!
2007-10-31 00:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by siatajamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not used to your culture, maybe he is an IDIOT!
Stay separated and MAKE HIM pay for the divorce if he wants one.
What he has done is just WRONG. Don't fret over it, there are REAL MEN out there who will give you the love you deserve!
2007-10-31 00:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by †..Jetta..† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a typical American Loser.
Act and live as though you NEVER knew him.
One day, you'll find a golden man who will treat you as the jewel you are.
But get rid of the Slacker Baggage, 100%.
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2007-10-31 00:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What made you think that marrying a stranger would end up being "happily ever after"?
2007-10-31 00:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe being in his own country gave him the power to feel he could do whatever he wanted,either that or he has major psychological issues,maybe personality disorders? you're best asking him why he treated you and your parents that way?
2007-10-31 08:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋